Patience is a great Virtue

@Shiva49 Thank you for your comment. I know that, at least, I know my limits.

@LadyDuck I quote often "it takes all kinds to make a world" - so we need the variety. I chip in with my strengths and when others do likewise, we have better results - siva

As long as your other traits overcome this it should be okay. It is good that you have so many good qualities that makes this a minor issue - in fact, you can use this as a positive influence on those who are rather laid back - siva

I heard how a child wished she was a smart phone because her parents were more enamored and spend more time on them! We should remain human and humane. I am sure some will not change their ways - siva

@nottoooldtowrite I tell some younger couples to slow down and that children require their love more than wealth. When you give extra they get spoiled, lose motivation. Of course, they have their own logic but parental duties cannot be neglected. I recall almost every day of my son's life, how he faced every challenge with both me and my wife backing him up, but we knew it was his life which he has to take control. I recall one mother, who is having a high paid bank job, lamenting her only son is mixing with bad company and she says she is working so hard for him - siva

@Shiva49 true. Sometimes we are so engrossed with the journey that the destination is put behind. For example, it is good that parents work so hard for the future of their children. However, there are times when a business trip becomes more important than attending a child's shool activity; brainstorming during a meeting is more needed than trying to know your child more. The child then feels neglected and would more often want the tim of his/her parents more than th material things they provide.

Agreed it is how we look at things and what we want in life. I have been inspired by those who help others in need without expecting any returns and they are everywhere still! Also those who carry on with their life, taking responsibility without complaining and blaming others. I do rise to the occasion when needed to meet deadlines but that should not be a norm - siva

@Shiva49 Of course, I loved abiding by the "rise to the occasion when on deadlines". back those days, almost all seniors and bosses appreciated this and the fact that some of them could say - Sid is one of our most cool headed dependable guy - really made me feel great. I felt thankful to my computer teacher for this - because he inculcated it into me. Even today, I do try my best but often my ill health comes in between. Somewhere, this is one big reason that even when I get an offer I politely decline, because I know, I cannot commit due to my health, and somewhere I never want others to face inconveniences because of me.

@thesids Sorry you have health issues preventing you giving your best, even decline offers fearing you will let others down. I have done my best taking into account my attitude and family commitments and still do what I can. We all have limitations within which we operate - siva

I try my best to do that as I welcome others and to break the ice - siva

I am likewise too. The world will be a better and healthier place if we can slow down a bit - siva

@Shiva49 That is how it should be I think, because it is always said that one should live in the present. Instead of being sad about past or being anxious about future one should always try to enjoy the current moment.

@RRoyy2 We should live that ideal and that gives you bliss, along with eschewing greed and ego - siva

We have to enjoy the journey of life than be in a hurry to reach the destination. Though I will not say others are wrong, I have known people who get to the destination faster but then they are never satisfied. I like to take a slower train whenever possible to imbibe the surroundings in leisure. I am more of - slow and steady wins the race - siva

@Shiva49 My mother is very patient too (sometimes overly patient) and my father is very much the opposite! As for my sibling and I, I suppose it depends on the situation - we have a little bit of both parents within us!

I am very patient as also my siblings and mother, who is the very epitome of it. But my father was quite the opposite! siva

It works for the betterment of our health too and interpersonal relationships - siva

And they show great patience too in facing the many challenges - siva

Each is different but we can change if we want to. I know how you reacted to a student who showed disrespect! Yes, agreed some people take advantage if we show patience. Be comfortable with who you are Erly - siva

In fact, I find people sobering in their habits when they get older and accepting those which they would not have when young! But I agree we may not be able to put up with few who test our patience - siva

I have had enough of being with people who raise the temperature around them. I think so if I take myself as an example - I want to enjoy the moments as I know my destination, I don't sweat over it! siva

The best approach anytime is to make others comfortable. if we don't care for others, why should they care for us? I have a ready smile as the ice breaker - siva

As long as they don't blow up and put others at ease, we should just leave them to their devices - it is their path they follow. I have cultivated patience as that is the better way as far as I am concerned - siva

@Shiva49 I am saying this because I know of a couple or two in our family who reacted because they were unwell and therefore had no patience. Cultivating the art of patience is surely there for normal people. When someone with intelligence deals with someone who is not so blessed impatience raises its ugly head.

@allknowing Agreed, health can change the way we react and also the circumstances. Then there are few who take advantage when others are patient but the latter have a to draw a line. I am rather careful in spending (wasting) time with those who are looking for easy prey! I don't allow others to change the way I live but take care I do what is fair - siva

I think it is more in our attitude - we can cultivate and enhance the ways we react to situations. We should understand the reality and react to value add - siva

@Shiva49 I'll try to follow what you're doing. I guess that is a good way to lessen too much worries and fear.

We all are anxious but the degree varies. I try to reduce the level with a take let them be - I will cross the bridge when I have to than worry all along the way. This attitude has helped me to a great extent. Even if I have only few minutes to live I want to think of the many rewarding moments that have made my life worth the moments - Siva

@pahak627 wish you luck - we should plan but not be too anxious about the outcome. Life has many shades and all are worth their moments - it is a learning experience - siva

I recall few saying being contented makes one lazy and, maybe, they can tell that about patience too. But I know some who are patient and meticulous in whatever they do and achieve much in life. I know those who swear by multi-tasking, but they are more of a pain for others - siva

It is getting rarer and we have to cherish this trait - siva

@Shiva49 'I purposely slow down and that has helped me to work for nearly fifty years! At times people ask me to think on my feet and I tell them - let me sit down for a moment to pause, ponder, and catch my breath!" There is a little Belgium detective on TV called Poroit, who does this too. He says he needs to give time to his little grey cells. In this way, he will think "higher level" thoughts, because hasty thoughts, are usually "lower level" thoughts.

@innertalks I know few who keep running from pillar to post, from one destination to another but at the end of the day there will be nothing worthwhile to recollect, chew on. Okay, one can be left with a heap of money but vultures will soon circle not only above but around in human form inching closer to their consternation! I think for most a slower pace will lead to overall wellness - siva

Steve, we have abundance of patience in the way we respond/comment back and forth at this site and even earlier and so our credentials are above board! One of the reasons I don't mix with few is they become obnoxious as they multitask all the time and they may ask - what is wrong with that as it is the modern lifestyle, but they forget we are competing for the shortest attention span with others. I quote a newspaper report - "Humans have shorter attention span than goldfish, thanks to smartphones. A Microsoft study highlights the deteriorating attention span of humans, saying it has fallen from 12 seconds in 2000 to eight seconds" I don't like to be with people who needlessly make others edgy with their behavior - agreed we have to rise to the occasion at times but should not make it a lifestyle. I purposely slow down and that has helped me to work for nearly fifty years! At times people ask me to think on my feet and I tell them - let me sit down for a moment to pause, ponder, and catch my breath! Good that you have linked patience with love as creation is the ultimate of love in action, perpetual motion. We are taken at breakneck speed but we hardly feel hurtling out of control. It gives everyone time to rest, so in a way we are going against that process when we lose the plot of life when we lose patience. In any relationship, patience underscores love and empathy. Life is not a business transaction As an aside, my father told me he did not practice as a doctor as he had no patience, or did he mean patients! siva

With inspiration from such people you have already had more than your share of inspiration! Moreover, you should be receiving their blessings and promptings now - siva

@gofsey That should keep us on the right path. Well, "Rome was not built in a day" - siva

@Shiva49 Yes you are correct. Their thoughts are always on my mind. Good that man discovered patience along his evolutionary path.