To be feared or to be respected?
By solxee
@sol_cee (38219)
Philippines
March 13, 2016 10:20pm CST
They say, choose a job you love and you will never work a day in your life. But what if it’s the people you work with who won’t let you have your peace?
This lady boss is capable. No doubt about that. Many years in service; impeccable record. However the people working with her FEAR her. Some would even tremble when she scolds them as if they are toddlers. And tears are but a common sight. Many have resigned. A few others remain. And their only delight is when the lady boss goes to business trips and they are left alone. Sadly, they didn’t even feel remorse when the lady boss’ mom passed away and she had to be leave the office for a few days for the funeral. Freedom they had even for a bit.
We all need a job yes. I wonder how long they can hold on though.
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21 responses
@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
14 Mar 16
And she does not bother you?
Good if she does not.
It is not good to work under fear, yes people do not respect her only fear her.
She may pass as one so lonely.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
14 Mar 16
@sol_cee She surely must. Glad she is not your boss
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@rina110383 (24492)
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14 Mar 16
I like that kind of boss as long as she treats everyone fairly. In that scenario, looks like she's fair. I'll follow her because of respect.
I'm used to and I love people who are strict and who loves to berates others, not just scold. So, I'll stay.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
14 Mar 16
If i were in her stead , i wouldn't like to be feared . I know she knows that , but she's just playing deaf or blind about it , because she just have to stand by what she is known for . 
But given a choice , i know she wants to change that . Too late , the fear is already ingrained to the employees .
If she is here , maybe someone will have her submitted to someone who knows some witchcraft. 
But given a choice , i know she wants to change that . Too late , the fear is already ingrained to the employees .
If she is here , maybe someone will have her submitted to someone who knows some witchcraft. 1 person likes this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
14 Mar 16
that is why we should always see the superiors if we find a job so we will love it too; working with and for a strict and proud boss will never give us peace and calm while working
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@Shiva49 (26690)
• Singapore
15 Mar 16
I worked for one such who was very unpredictable. She used to purposely make it tough for others. She wanted others to stay back if she had some work taking furtive look at how uncomfortable they were!
I recall once when we decided not to send new year greetings to her. She made such a fuss and then we had a good laugh when she was out of ear shot! siva
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@Shiva49 (26690)
• Singapore
15 Mar 16
@sol_cee Most left including me. But there was one smart girl who used to manipulate her. We could not know whose side she was with. She used to be one among us but changed her tone when the boss was present. And again they had long private conversations! siva
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@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
31 Mar 16
There is a saying "Get out of the kitchen if you can't stand the heat." From your description of the lady boss, she has the ability and competence. However you didn't mention what management position she holds. I'm guessing she holds a strategic position in the company's hierarchy which need a taskmaster whose qualification do not require the reading of Dale Carnegie's "how to win friends and influence people" 
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
16 Mar 16
If I was the boss I preferred to be respected rather than to be feared by my subordinates. Thanks God I never had a boss like that.
@HebrewGreekStudies (1646)
• Canada
6 Apr 16
Yeh, and something which some don't consider, but I would always suggest is another option is...to be liked or loved. Like, in some sense, I think ppl are afraid of that idea, or see it as not a reality-they've been wounded, and so want respect but will take fear, because somewhere in their minds they feel that otherwise they will be betrayed, or that "nice" people finish last. I think in some sense, well, in order to be whole people, we need to move past fearing...and also, move past the idea of others fearing us in order to gain respect. But all that said, ultimately the only ppl who can be free, are those who can live without the need of others validation or approval. If that makes sense?
@shivamani10 (11035)
• Hyderabad, India
23 Jun 16
This boss knows how to frighten others or her subordinates. This is the only management technique she might be aware of. Better she is trained in the other styles of leadership.
