Can you let Facebook ruin friendship as a grownup?
By minisam
@miniam (9154)
Bern, Switzerland
March 15, 2016 6:51pm CST
A friend l have known almost all life likes facebook, I'm the one who introduced her to facebook in 2007 because l felt it was cool.
It started to create problems between us when she posted our night out photos without asking for my opinion, l did not want my face and my private life in Facebook.Last straw came when we attended a party when l was supposed to be home and it too landed on Facebook.
l can't explain how she took to it, she will post her photos at the saloon, the food she`s about to eat, nights out, what she is cooking.
l mean she kind of feel incomplete if she does not post her every activity in Facebook, when she lost a child, she posted the grave photos on facebook.
With time l accepted that our friendship could not go on if she continued in Facebook.l did not want my friends and family seeing my friend pout or make teenage poses on Facebook(yes she do pout like teenagers do)
She is not a little girl, she is a grown woman, a grand mother of 2.
lm I being selfish and losing my childhood friend because l do not like what she does? l have come to accept she can not use social media in moderation.
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14 responses
@JudyEv (340019)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Mar 16
FB really brings out the worst in some people. I can't imagine that she is acting like this and has two grandchildren. I can't stand FB and stuff like this just makes me more against it. I admit some use it well and are able to keep in touch with family through it, etc - but it's not for me.
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@UmiNoor (4523)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 16
I have never liked how Facebook can change people. It just shows that some people need the attention that they crave that they don't get from people in their real life. These are very needy people who need the approval of others to make themselves feel good. It's sad that someone like your friend need this kind of attention. Perhaps she doesn't get enough attention at home. I hope you can maintain your friendship with her because you've known her for quite a long time. Perhaps just don't get into a picture with her.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
16 Mar 16
Facebook is unfortunate in the way it can really ruin relationships.
I am also not one for posting much, and I would never ever post a photo of anyone on there without express permission. Many do not bother to ask and go on and on about their every move in all situations.
If you do not want to lose here as a friend, then you have to accept how she is.
If not, then you will have to lose her because of this activity.
I am sorry it is a difficult decision for you.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Mar 16
l really would hate to loose her as a friend but l hate what Facebook has turned her into.Or maybe she was this person all along and l did not know it.
No, l do not want to accept how she is.As a person she is ok,but as facebook posing grandma no no
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
16 Mar 16
@miniam I understand..this is why I despise what facebook has caused for many people.
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Mar 16
Facebook can be addicting, I am sorry she has taken it to the extreme. I like Facebook and I post some pictures, but not everything I am doing like some do.
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@LeaPea2417 (37355)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Mar 16
@UmiNoor People who get addicted to it are those who like to learn new news all the time and who are probably lonely. By the way, I remember you from Persona Paper. You do know that site is closing down, didn't you?
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Mar 16
@LeaPea2417
Persona paper? no it`s not me, i have even never heard the name.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
16 Mar 16
Maybe you have to tell her frankly that you don't like what she did in facebook especially about your photos. Maybe she will listen because she is your childhood friend and seems you are close with each other. You know I really hate people posting everything in facebook as if they make facebook as their photo album and diary.
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@Ogebabyglobaby (4)
• Asaba, Nigeria
16 Mar 16
just forget about every thing and fuge ahead with her, just forgive her ok, that is called friend
@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
16 Mar 16
photographers have free control of their photos - the time to advise her not to use them is to ask not to be photographed - once taken, it is her choice, though knowing your wishes she should respect them. I would
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 16
@miniam I don't tend to mind my photo being used - many of my friends are models, dancers and photographers and I often perform live poetry so I end up photographed so often I barely notice - sometimes disappointed if not captured on camera at some events
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
17 Mar 16
@arthurchappell lol,im quite the opposit
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@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
19 Mar 16
There has to be a limit to what one can share on Facebook or on any other social media where one's private life is brought out into the open.
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@Steve032 (3)
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16 Mar 16
No. Forget about Facebook if it ruins your friendship. It is just a thing..Social network on your computer or other device. You cannot let real life get ruined because of some imaginative type. I dont use Facebook a lot. Sometimes, to chat with my friends, and i never let it ruin anything. Many people dont even know why are they using Facebook. :)
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@123TikTalk (36)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Mar 16
I think facebook fills the narcissistic side of a lot of people, some even get addicted to having selfies so that they can post it on social media. But then I think it is sad to end a friendship just because of facebook. My sister and I send photos of each other to messenger first then we decide which photos we can post on our individual fb profile, I do the same to my friends. Maybe you can talk to her to do the same. Maybe she's lonely or just need attention.
