My friend no longer communicates with me after knowing that I am in a realtionship with a man from Auckland
@cacay1 (83577)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
March 16, 2016 7:59am CST
I miss my friend from the other site. He used to communicate with me. We shared interactions there in the other site hard to mention here at Mylot. Even here we communicate for fortunately he is also a Mylotter.He was the one who invited me to join in the other site that seems like a sister company of Mylot. We always keep in touch.He is a male , by the way. Then one day, I posted in the other site about the man of my dream with his handsome photo,plus confessing that he is my partner from Auckland, New Zealand.He asked me if he is the man I am in a relationship with, and of course, I said , yes. After that, he no longer communicates with me, unlike before, everyday. I am really sad. What kind of friendship do you have my dear friend? Why change your usual dealing with me after knowing that I already have someone in my life.
You are so unfair. If you only know that I keep on finding your messages in the other site, then you might say that I am a true friend.If you happen to read this and understand it's you, I mean, then I would humbly apologize.
I just miss a friend like you.
Am I wrong to post it here and let him know?
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21 responses
@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
16 Mar 16
You're not wrong. It's just the guy is probably heart broken because he was hopeful. Even if it's illogical people get attached when they spend a lot of time talking to another.
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@OneOfMany (12150)
• United States
16 Mar 16
@cacay1 Some men only care about the conquest, and you were already taken so he moved on. It doesn't matter if it was in his fantasy or not.
As for me, I don't care so much any more and have even gotten into troublesome friendships with taken women. Oh well! :D
If you don't mind that kind of friend I'm around. :P
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Mar 16
@OneOfMany Thank you so much for a very superb interaction.I have to forget him and our friendship too.The guy is from Philippines.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Mar 16
@OneOfMany, That is what I was thinking about, so obvious, jealousy or feeling hopeless. He should have been man enough to face the truth and be happy with me.Thanks.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@Marcyaz, Your resolution on this matter is so great.It might be true, he was hoping for more than a friendly relationship.That is not also the reason why just neglect our friendship built for almost one year..with daily chats, interactions, and emails.
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@slund2041 (3314)
• United States
17 Mar 16
I am sorry you are sad over it. I bet he is sad as well. He probably wanted to be yours, and not want you to date or have interest in someone else.
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@slund2041 (3314)
• United States
17 Mar 16
@cacay1 Have you tried to send him a message?
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@slund2041, wow, I like your words spoken here my dear.I like the last sentence.That might be possible.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 16
@slund2041 , Yes my dear, almost 5 times, no replies, so I put an end to my friendship with him.There seems no use.Thanks.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
16 Mar 16
oh so sorry for that but why she not talk with you and what is reason that she not talk with you.is she like same mane??
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@birjudanak, he, my friend hehehehe.yes true, he should have told me so could explain to him the real score.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@birjudanak My friend is from my own country .He was once here and different sites.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
17 Mar 16
@cacay1 so sorry for that and this is like little girl that give me my toys otherwise i will not talk with you...
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Mar 16
He was a guy with romantic notions. When he realized his hopes were dashed with you, he moved on. Men want women for romance not "friends". Watch "When Harry Met Sally."
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@JohnRoberts, It might be,but he should have asked me first about my status before having make believe , so he and I won't misunderstood each others' feeling.Thanks.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
17 Mar 16
No it's not wrong to post it here , because he has the change to send a private message if ever he is also here .
I guess, he likes to have a romantic relationship with you , that's why when he learned that you already have a boyfriend , he didn't communicate with you anymore .
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
17 Mar 16
I think as a guy if he really loves you, he'd be happy for you. Of course, he was sad, but he could have just admitted his frustration and talk about it with you. Maybe you can just move on too if he has already made this decision, i feel for him too but right now i guess he's talking to some one else hoping to have a positive outcome. 
hard to believe he's a mylotter, is he some one we know? you could pm me lol. at least when you told him and stop talking to you, the agenda was revealed right there.
hard to believe he's a mylotter, is he some one we know? you could pm me lol. at least when you told him and stop talking to you, the agenda was revealed right there.2 people like this
@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
19 Mar 16
@cacay1 well, okay i hope he goes well out there.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Mar 16
@Letranknight2015 , I think so..I am at peace now for you all help me open my eyes to a wider horizon.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@LetranKnight25, hehehehe, actually, he is also invisible here for 8 months. I messaged him privately, no reply, so I told him in my message.Goodbye.We have to part our ways.
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@LeaPea2417 (37371)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Mar 16
He is probably sad because he had a true crush on you and hoped he may get together with you one day.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@LeahPea2417, It could be , but until friendship only. i already made a commitment to my foreigner partner I am in a relationship with for 9 years now.
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 16
@cacay1 you should private message him about how you feel and ask if he still wants to be your friend or not directly
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@arthurchappell , Yes, I did it four times,but no reply, so I told myself to shut the door for him. He is not a true friend. I am happy to know beforehand his real attitude as a selfish man.He ought to be happy where I am now instead of showing implied actions to mean he is coward.Thank you so much .
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Mar 16
no, it's not wrong, good that he'll know about your feelings that you miss him. i think, he has a feeling towards you and he didn't expect that you have a relationship already with another man so he cuts your communication to stop that feelings.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
17 Mar 16
maybe he has a hidden and secret love to you and you just ignore him?
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 16
@ridingbet, Maybe he was so ashamed of his wrong expectation that I like him too.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 16
@ridingbet Yes, we were friends in three sites,and I never give a sign or hint that I like him, No, of course just purely friendship being from the sane country.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
18 Mar 16
@cacay1 but you were friends on net, and he thought you liked him too?
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@shubhu3 (36463)
• New Delhi, India
17 Mar 16
What he did was not apt reason being friends don't just cut off like this for no reason.And if he had a crush on you also then also this is not right.Friendship doesn't means you will stop contacting the other for any reason.It has to be forever.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
19 Jan 18
He did not tell you the reason he will not talk to you anymore. Maybe he knows something he is not telling you. Is there maybe something your partner is not telling you? Does he know your former friend? I see this is an old post so are you still with your partner and did you and your friend get things sorted out? By the way what is the sister company to My lot? Is it still around and like My Lot?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Mar 16
hi it sounds l ike he was a bit more than a friend to you in his thinking so he broke i foof as may be he has a hard ti me now try ingto figure out if he just l iked you a lot or also is in love with you.You soundl like y ou are in love wi th the man if your dreams and he oher man is just a friend and buddy b ut sadly he feels m ore I can almost bet on that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Mar 16
When men get hurt they push people away, sounds like that's what happened with your friend. I'm sorry. =(
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@LovingMybabies, You are perfectly right, they might want to distance themselves to grasp some peace of mind and heart.
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
17 Mar 16
hope you manage to resolve the crisis between you soon
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
17 Mar 16
@arthurchappell, Thank you so much Arthur, I already resolved this matter after you shared your very strong interactions, only at Mylot where brilliant people can pacify an aching heart and problematic life.
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
25 Jun 16
Just let him be... maybe he was confused.
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@cacay1 (83577)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
19 Jan 18
@rachz_kisses , hi sis? Happy New Year. I have missed you. The man I meant here was met in the other site. He wanted to court me , but in dismay after knowing I am in a relationship.
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