Generalizations and the nice guy doesn't always finish last.

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I am tired of reading post after post about how all men are jerks or all women are worthless so and so's. I'm tired of having a whole gender put down because of the actions of a few. There are generally crappy members of both sexes. There are plenty of guys out there who are decent people, same with women. Nothing bothers me more than having a guy catcalling at me as they drive by. It ticks me off. It's disrespectful, but that doesn't make me hate all men. I am a generally nice person until given a reason not to be. There are a lot of guys out there looking for more than conversation, and I've met my fair share of them. I get tired of these guys. The same guys who back when I was still using dating sites would message me and not so much as bother to read my profile to even see what I was looking for. They weren't looking for anything remotely serious, which is fine and all, but I wasn't there for a hookup. It's like men completely ignored that, and it annoyed me, but then I would find the occasional really nice guy who was just looking to get to know me, and half of the time I didn't find them attractive, but I still talked to them and tried to at least be nice. I really tried to give the nice guy a chance, because there are more to a person than looks. These guys often ended up either being friends or eventually faded into the background. I never automatically friend zoned anyone, it just kind of happened when I didn't feel any sort of romantic chemistry there. I at least tried to give guys a chance. I never just assume every guy is a jerk. I just get tired of seeing people making generalizations about everyone based on a few, or maybe even more than a few, because not every guy is a jerk. Not every woman is a jerk either. I met my boyfriend via an online dating site, and at the time we just talked and became friends. I remember we argued at one point, he went off on me at random and I can't remember over what but I do remember I really didn't do anything, and he admitted as much later and apologized. We had stopped talking for a bit after he went off on me. We didn't get together until almost a year later. We were just friends for awhile. The point is I gave him a chance, even after he was a jerk towards me, he was having an off day not that that's necessarily an excuse, but he turned out to be a great guy. He can still be a jerk from time to time, but so can I. I think we are all capable of being jerks from time to time, but that doesn't mean we are all always one. You need to give a person a chance or they'll never be able to surprise you. You just need to not generalize. Sometimes the only reason we keep finding the jerks is because we are unwilling to give the nice guy a chance. We are basing everything off of looks and not who a person really is. I honestly don't believe the nice guys finish last, I think those are the guys who we are supposed to be with after all of the jerks. It just takes dating all of the jerks to find the nice guy. Personally I've only ever really dated the nice guy with one or two exceptions. I never wanted the jerk.