How Do I Praise One Child Without Upsetting His Siblings

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I am the proud mother of five, very bright, and intelligent boys, ages 11-19. I am so very proud all of them, and try to let them know this as much as possible. However, my seventeen year old boy has accomplished more since he was fifteen, then most adults accomplish in an entire lifetime. His dad and uncle are both registered nurses, and at fifteen he decided to follow in their footsteps, and began taking classes to earn a certificate, as a certified nurses assistant. Then at sixteen he applied at several places and was able to get a job at a local McDonalds, and worked every day after school. At sixteen, he earned his CNA certificate, went to school full time, worked at Mcdonalds after school, and also got a job working in a nursing home during summer break, while he was out of school. When school started back up, he tried to still work both jobs, but his grades began to drop and he was too exausted to do anything about it. So his dad (whom he lives with), told him he either needed to quit one of his jobs, or both if he couldn't keep up with his grades. He wanted to keep working at McDonalds, because that was the first place he worked, and he felt he had an obligation to stay. He finally decided to put in his notice there anyway, because the nursing ho.e job was what he had studied and worked so hard for. To make a long story short, he is now on his fourth vehicle, because the first two he had were totalled, and neither one his fault. His third car, he absolutely loved, and he took very good care of it, but there was one car that he just couldn't take his eyes off of whenever he passed the dealership it sat out in front of. So one day he talked his dad into going to the dealership to take a look at it. They test drove the car and afterwards his dad asked him if he really wanted it, to which my son immediately replied with a YES!! So his dad told him if he could get approved for it, and if my son paid the insurance and car payments, then he would get it for him. My son had saved the downpayment money, but didn't hold his breath that his dad would help him, but to his surprise he did! He was approved for the loan, and my son is now the proud owner of a 2013 Dodge Dart!! He hasn't missed one payment on the car and has not been late paying his insurance once! So when he began looking at apartments and houses, it was no surprise. Unfortunetely he would get his heart set on one, only to find that the owner of the property would back out each learned his age. One man could see it that he wanted the apartment he showed him so very much, and agreed to rent to him with a co-signer. I couldn't do it for him because I have no rental history, beings that I have lived with my mother since 2010, after I was involved in a car accident in May of that year. With alot of hesitation on his part, he got up the couage to ask my mother if she would co-sign for him. She didn't even think twice, and agreed to do it for him instantly. Patiently he waited, and this past Thursday he got the call that he had been waiting for. Yes, the man approved his application, with mom as his co-signer, and he will be moving in as soon as the new carpet is put down, which couldn't be happening any slower in his eyes! Lol So what exactly is the problem you ask? Well I do have four other boys that get upset any time I praise him, because they think I am picking favorites. That couldn't be further from the truth, but trying to convince them is a different story. So I don't say much about how proud of him I am, although I try to give him little hints here and there. Sometimes even that is too much, because one of the other boys will catch it. So how can I show my seventeen year old how I feel about his accomplishments, while also showing my other boys that I love them all just the same, and am proud of them as well?