The Wife Knows About the Cancer

I am sorry for your friend's pain and suffering. This is another example of why we should all have bedrooms on the ground floor. Our homes should work for us as we age. It's absurd that some people have to leave their homes, because the architect did not pay attention to the fact that humans age.

I am glad to hear that she knows.

oh that poor m,an and his poor wife., I sure will send prayers that somehow a miracle could happen and he could get well or at least be more comfortable for however long he has. this is so sad.

I will send good vibes to him and his family. I know what it is to have a loved one in that situation and I also know what it is to be like that. I hope the quality of his life can be as good as possible

Hopefully now that she's in the loop she can support him and they can get him home so that they can enjoy each other's company together. I feel for them both, him for wanting to shield her from that terrible news, and for her, worrying about her man.

I'll send some thoughts and prayers out. It has to be a stressful time for both of them. I would have let her know earlier.

How on earth did you find out before his wife. I do hope he gets his miracle and will be praying for them both.

He must have very strong will and enough insurance coverage for the next two years. If I were him, I rather die. I would ask the doctor to send me to a hospice, and let me have painkiller all the time.

i'm so glad to hear that she's now'n the loop, hon. what a dreaded disease 'n hopefully he'll get'n top'f it fer a bit anyhow. i'll keep 'em close'n my heart.

oh my, I hope he will do well. And I hope that the wife be strong for his husband. I will pray for them both.

Glad that the wife already knew the situation and I pray for the success of some treatments available for him.

What a terrible situation for them both. I have good friend in LA who is two years out of a bone marrow transplant. He was lucky that his blood cancer was caught so soon. My thoughts go out to your friend and his family.

I am very sorry to hear this, but hopefully he will be more comfortable in the days to come. Cancer is so mean!

aww, it is hard to see someone we love suffer, it is painful :(

19 days ago my husband lost his battle with cancer. He had an aggressive form of lung cancer, small cell Carcinoma and we knew from the beginning he would not survive. After much crying and debate, we decided to do the chemotherapy and radiation treatments that would not save him, merely prolong his life. After the second round of chemo last November, he was so weak, so depressed and so miserable from the nausea, vomiting cycles of both diarrhea and constipation, and the stress of it all, we elected to stop it all. Our anniversary was November 6th, and he informed the doctors he was no longer going to come and he went into hospice care, and we moved from our apartment in the city to a mobile home in the suburbs. It's a group home, referred to us from the hospital, and the hospice agency was set up by the VA. We spent the last months of his life mostly alone together, as the other couple that shared the trailer were odd folks that objected to things like bathing and treating each other or us with some modicum of respect. I took care of Earl's day to day needs. We had a hospice nurse that came once a week, they kept him on the maximum dosages of morphine and hydrocodone considered safe, and we worked diligently to build happy memories to carry me through the tough lonely days I'm experiencing now. I don't regret our decision to stop treatment and let nature run its course. My sweet baby passed peacefully in his sleep, with a slight smile on his face, knowing he was deeply loved. We were totally devoted to each other. My sorrow does weigh heavily on me at times, but I know I was loved more than life itself, and that God blessed me. His excruciating pain is gone, we had a great time together to the end. It's difficult to learn how to be alone. I admit I'm afraid and that I have fits of uncontrollable bawling on a daily basis, but I'm working hard to find my joy and move forward in my life. I hope your friend considers how much suffering he wishes to endure. Obviously if there's hope for survival, all the side effects are worth it. But a little more time with added suffering only strains a relationship further than it can sustain.

I will certainly pray for him and his family and if you message me with his first name I will put him on our prayer line.

Oh dear - they have a hard road to travel, don't they? All the best to them.

How awful for your friend and his wife. I can't even imagine what they are going through. He sounds like a very strong person with a positive attitude. I will keep him and his wife in my prayers.

Prayers are going up

It's good the wife knows, I hope that eases your mind some what.