Fun In The Autumn Sun!

photo friend took of me
@bluesa (15022)
Johannesburg, South Africa
April 3, 2016 10:15am CST
Hi all. I have been in a very introspective mood of late. The first few months of this year have been so strange, as I have said before. Lately I have surrounded myself with family and friends, and immersed myself in daily life, needed to ground myself in reality. Been to some barbecues. Had a pizza get together with friends last week Thursday. Left the virtual world a bit. I lost a friend, gained a friend, and lost him again. He could not make up his mind if he had space for me in his life or not. Plus, we are too much alike, way too much alike. So, it is probably for the best that we seem to no longer have much to say to each other. Have you had friends that couldn't decide if they had time for you in their lives or not? I also learnt once again that certain things make us stronger, we survive through things we think we won't. I have fantastic people in my life, I wish everything could be fantastic, but, it is not, so that is why I am so thankful for the fantastic people in my life, when the rest is stressful and tough, the people make up for it. As you can see in the photo, that a friend of mine took, yesterday (Saturday) I threw a fun pose under the South African autumn sun, still 87.8 Fahrenheit, 31 degrees Celsius in JHB! We were getting ready to barbecue. How has it been going with you all? I am off to see what a few of you have been up to. Have a great week ahead everyone!
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
3 Apr 16
You too - its been very hot here as well - love the new profile pic
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@Inlemay , yes, it seems summer does not want to let go of us. Thank you, I love your black and white shot! :)
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@Inlemay (17713)
• South Africa
4 Apr 16
@bluesa thanks - that was taken on Monday - so its very recent.
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@BettyB (4117)
• Summerville, South Carolina
3 Apr 16
Spring is in full bloom here. I'm looking forward to the summer and the friends and family we will spend together.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@BettyB , good that you are having proper spring temps :), enjoy the warmer weather and time with family. After a very long summer filled with heat waves, that even cost lives, I am ready for cooler weather.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
You have a bright sunny day in that nice photo of yours! I'm sorry you lost that friend again but happy to note that you have fantastic people in your life. I also have fantastic people that help me a lot to move on easily after some failures in life.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
5 Apr 16
@bluesa Certainly we are!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
5 Apr 16
@bluesa Certainly we are!
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 16
@salonga , yes it was like a summer day in autumn :) . I am glad you also have fantastic people in your life. We are blessed. :)
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
3 Apr 16
It's early spring and how temperature is warm, but surely not hot. Being too similar can be a problem in a relationship. I know what you mean.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@LadyDuck , good it is warmer by you, and not hot. We have had terrible heat all summer and it does not want to let go in autumn, we are hoping for cooler temps soon. Yes, having too much in common is not always a good thing :/ .
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
3 Apr 16
I'm sorry that things are a bit up and down for you Catherine. It's still very hot in JHB isn't it? Whew - it would be too hot for me.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
I guess that is just life, but, thank you, Janet. Yes, it is still terribly hot, it has been like living in a furnace for months, I hope we get cooler autumn temps soon @jaboUK I am tired of feeling like I am melting.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
you have a beautiful selfie, my friend. regarding my past relationships with my friends, there was one whom I blocked on FB because he commented that I should not put his name on friend request in a certain online game i play, so he is permanently blocked. he was my classmate in elementary years
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 16
@ridingbet , thank you. Yes, sometimes it is best to block certain people from our lives.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
6 Apr 16
@bluesa we still see each other downtown, but I already snubbed him and showed his absence at my sight.
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
3 Apr 16
Could definitely handle your temps! I'm sitting here in the basement, the only spot left in the house big enough to fit my desk and I'm freezing! Bring on the 30 something temps. No problem here lol!
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@Hate2Iron (15727)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
@bluesa I have to agree with you... something right in the middle would be even better! :)
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@Hate2Iron , why can the year not just be filled with glorious mild weather? No freezing winter, no sweltering fiery summer, just smack dab perfect temps? Perfect temps would be bliss. I hope you get warmer weather soon! :)
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
3 Apr 16
Wow! that's too hot for my tastes. Been doing well and glad that you are back in the saddle of MyLot.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
18 Apr 16
@bluesa I do enjoy being here between other daily activities.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@marlina , after a too long, too fiery summer, it is too hot for me too. Good all is well with you. Thank you, it is nice to be here again :)
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@ison_1 (1240)
5 Apr 16
Blimey! 87.8F in Autumn! We might have a couple of days in the height of summer that get that hot.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 16
@ison_1 , hi there :) . I double your Blimey! It is the wrong temps for autumn, I am tired of feeling as if I am being roasted! I hope you get some lovely summer temps.
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
5 Apr 16
We all have moments of doubts and moments of sadness because of disappointment. Stay positive and look forward to finding a good friend with time for you.. You will find one, I just know it. It was cold today as i went out with a friend for lunch. The fields and vineyards are melting and there is water everywhere. The snow is going, slowly but with the amount of water around we know it won't be long.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
7 Apr 16
@PainsOnSlate , thank you, wise words :) . I hope you will get warm weather soon. Your winter has been long enough. I hope you enjoyed lunch with your friend. :)
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
4 Apr 16
The weather has been beautiful here, we have to enjoy it while we can because the summers are pretty hot.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@lilnana1111 , definitely enjoy your mild weather, because after this summer I experienced, anyone heading into a furnace like summer has my sympathy! I hope your nice weather continues for a while yet. :)
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• United States
4 Apr 16
@bluesa Thanks!
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@JudyEv (342088)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Apr 16
Your new profile photo is lovely. Sounds like the weather is nice and warm there. We are starting to move into cooler temperatures now.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 16
@JudyEv , thank you. The weather has been a bit extreme, but, they say our first cold front is about to hit and I say about time :).
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
9 Apr 16
Same weather we are having :) Soon..wil be like barbecuing with family. Nice photo
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
9 Apr 16
@Lucky15 , you are in spring now, we should be having cooler autumn temps, but are not, it is weird. Enjoy the barbecues and summer you will soon have. Thank you :)
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@Ladypeace (2028)
• Singapore
6 Apr 16
To me, the best friendship is where both parties can come to a constructive consensus about what to do. I wouldn't push my good friend out of my life, instead I would opt for a cool off period.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
7 Apr 16
@Ladypeace , I agree, but, he is so stubborn and hard hearted. Maybe one day we will talk again.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
4 Apr 16
I think we all have people who wander in and out of our lives and as long as they bring a positive energy then its all good.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@BelleStarr , yeah, he did not bring a positive energy, yet I still miss him, ugh. I will eventually accept that him and me not talking is for the best.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
Being way too much alike poses a problem? How about being way too different?
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@sol_cee , I do not have an answer, I can only say neither one is good :/ . Too the same or too different, each has its own set of problems... I guess it all comes down to that thing called balance. Very frustrating! ;)
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
4 Apr 16
They say that opposites attract. They do, but there are always wonders in them. Let it be, and get on with your life. Things work out for the best. Stay cool in that heat!
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
4 Apr 16
@DianneN , yes, having too much in common is not a good thing, especially when that something is a temper. Being opposites is better, I think. I know I have to let it be, and am trying. Dianne, I will keep trucking on. :)
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• Canada
5 Apr 16
A few times...but in some way, after time, I began to see that not as bad thing but as good:)., Like, if ppl caused pain, their being gone or out of my life, it wasn't bad thing, but good. Of course, when my brakes failed in the car the other day, my reaction was to start nervously giggling...so, let's say, my perspective on life is...a little different:)? I hope you feel better soon though:((.
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
5 Apr 16
@HebrewGreekStudies , you are right, when someone is not good for us, it is good if they are no longer a part of our life, even if it hurts the heart. Eek, brakes failing, eek! Your nerves must've been shot! Please take care of yourself! Thank you, I will get there :) .
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