Gaslighting: Sound familiar??
@buttheadface932 (708)
United States
April 3, 2016 6:50pm CST
"For example, in our early years together he would overtly criticize and verbally abuse. But as I was going through a lot of counselling for other issues and had learned to be more assertive I basically said that is unacceptable, I wouldn’t stand for it and there was no way I would have anyone in the home speaking to me like that (especially in front of the children); and he truly did stop. However, now that I look back, he really didn’t stop – he just found more subtle and twisted ways to criticize and put me down, almost undetectable to the untrained ear – yet it has a great impact even when you don’t know what’s going on. If I’d confront him, he’d act like he was saying it because he was trying to “help” or that I was misinterpreting his intentions, etc."
The current edition of "Dame" magazine features some of my thoughts on gaslighting and what makes certain personalities use this manipulation tactic. A 6-hour "webinar is being planned for September 24, 2015. More details will be available in the coming we
3 people like this
2 responses
@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
4 Apr 16
In my life, when I recognize that someone is doing this to me, I make sure I get away from them. Completely. I've learned that, besides being very annoying, they can become dangerous.
@Teep11 (7673)
• United States
4 Apr 16
That's what gaslighting is. The ones projecting it tries to make their victim or victims feel as if they're crazy but gaslighting involves twisted behavior and creates havic for those involved. The victim must find a positive outlet. The person who uses thst tactic is a sick individual.
