~Are We Friends Here?~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 4, 2016 10:04am CST
To me, most of us here are friends. We might not have met in person but we comfort each other, we give advice, we make each other laugh, when we need prayers we pray for each other, etc... Is that not what friends do?
I feel like I try to be a good friend to each of you and I just assumed (stupid me I guess) that most of you felt the same in return. So, it made me a little sad when I read a few things that some of you don't consider us friends here at MyLot.
That surprised me! You don't need to meet in person to be a friend. We discuss some really personal things here, and I open up to all of YOU-my friends! I don't feel your strangers at all, or I would never pour my heart out to you.
Well...that's it I guess. What are your thoughts? Do you consider us your friends here? Or are we mere strangers?
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39 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@jstory07 Yeah I do too! I was so excited to share the birth of my son here because I feel that close to all of you. I feel the same as you.
It kind of shocks me when someone says we are not friends here.
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@GardenGerty (160624)
• United States
5 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Basically it is their loss. My life is much more complete and richer from sharing with others here.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@GardenGerty Yeah I know your right, I think it just kind of surprised me mostly.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@jaboUk I feel the same way about everyone here! 
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@celticeagle (166760)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Apr 16
I think that we are friends in all aspects of the meaning of 'friends'. Some people don't take friendships real seriously. Some don't take what we do here seriously either. I for one am grateful for the relationships I have nurtured here. I am curious as to what happened to make you think otherwise.
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@celticeagle (166760)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies ....Maybe she is new. Some just don't know what true friendship is all about. For some it is a purely social thing and ours goes so much deeper.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@celticeagle I feel the same way! I would do anything I could for any of you, and that is a friend. I was wondering about opinions because someone else said in a discussion that she does not think we are truly friends here at MyLot-it confused me because I did consider her a friend here.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@celticeagle She is a little bit new, and she said she is just here to improve her writing-not to make friends or have friends. It just threw me off I guess.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
I do for sure. And somewhere you know that too.
But then, there are all kinds of people in the real world and so on MyLot to. Some take a while to realize the friendship thing and some have too much of attitude to showcase (for reasons best known to them). I welcome all, with an open heart as always. If we get along all good, if we dont, who cares. The world is always too big for both kinds of people to live and survive happily.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@thesids Yes I do know you consider us a friend. =) It is personal preference your right, I just thought everyone pretty much felt the same way about everyone here. I was wrong, obviously but your right it takes all kinds.
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@Marilynda1225 (82720)
• United States
4 Apr 16
I've always considered the people I've met here friends but like in real life some are closer than others
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@Marilynda1225 Yes I completely agree with you! I have some wonderful friends here, they feel more like family.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies That is exactly my sentiment and opinion. Our writings definitely get personal and bonds start to develop
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies hmm but that's about you who is true but there are not many people who are true like you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@sjvg1976 I think it's easy to tell if their being themselves by the discussions they write. You know a lot about me by my discussions-that is how you can tell a lot about someone here.
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@Juliaacv (51124)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
There are some members which I value as friends, and then there are some which are more like passing acquaintances. Nothing against them, but if they don't want to be friendly, then I get that and can respect their decision. I have a hard time being like that, distant, I guess you would call it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@Juliaacv Yeah I think we all have some closer than others-that is totally normal. Someone said that they have no friends here-which shocked me I think! Especially because the person that said it I thought we were friends, it was weird.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@amadeo Yeah I feel the same way and I thought everyone did until I read some discussions that surprised me... =(
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@amadeo Not really a problem per se. Just a couple people said that no one here is their friend. 
I was just taken back by that comment because I thought most of us were friends here.
I was just taken back by that comment because I thought most of us were friends here.1 person likes this
@amadeo (111938)
• United States
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies did you have some problems there.I hope not.
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@JudyEv (339583)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Apr 16
I think I have friends here but we only know as much about a person as they are willing to share. When you meet someone in person you have body language, facial expressions and tone of voice to add extra information about the person.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@JudyEv I guess I share so much of myself here that I have no problem feeling like others are being themselves and genuine as well. You all know so much about me through my writing, and I feel that most people give their hearts away here in the same way.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
5 Apr 16
@JudyEv - I feel that comparison with real life friends should not be drawn, then the discussion will lose its relevance. I hope @LovingMyBabies will agree with me?
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@JudyEv (339583)
• Rockingham, Australia
5 Apr 16
@dpk262006 I'm sure you are right. That is a much better way of looking at it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@AnneEJ Yeah I share more here than anywhere else! I do consider everyone here friends too. =)
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@Shiva49 (26669)
• Singapore
4 Apr 16
We are definitely friends here though it takes some adjusting for people like me who are more used to making friends after having spent time together in school, workplace etc.
I am perfectly comfortable in communicating with all interacting on topics that are even personal. When someone is in trouble I keep them in my mind and send good vibes for their welfare - siva
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@Shiva49 Yeah I feel we are all friends too. I am surprised not everyone feels the same though. Maybe it will take them longer to feel like that, I just thought they felt we were friends too.
You are a good friend here!
You are a good friend here!2 people like this
@Shiva49 (26669)
• Singapore
5 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Thanks. When you get to know people and like them we are friends, That is how I take the term - siva
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@hydraa Well thank you, I try my best to treat others as I want to be treated. =)
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@hydraa (806)
• Mumbai, India
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies keep up the good work :) May God bless you :)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@Ezeka1 I am sure before you know it if you stick around you will feel as though we are friends here too! =) Nice to meet you by the way and welcome.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies there are so many people here willing to listen. It's nice to have that. To be able to have more people willing to listen, and that we can talk to.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Apr 16
@dodo19 Yeah it is awesome to have that! I know if I ever need to vent or get advice MyLot is the place I will do it at. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@dodo19 Yeah I do too, we share so much here and we are always there for each other. The minute something happens in my life, this is the first place I want to share it at because I have SO many friends here to share it with!
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@much2say (55576)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Apr 16
We are friends for sure! 
I used to think of online chit chat as just that - nothing more - but it IS something more when you really get to know someone. That is something that dawned on me as time went by . . . and I think I've known a great deal of folks here for a long time now - surely it's more than just chit chatting with strangers by now!!! We don't hang out in person, but we sure hang out here . . . that's cool enough for me!
I used to think of online chit chat as just that - nothing more - but it IS something more when you really get to know someone. That is something that dawned on me as time went by . . . and I think I've known a great deal of folks here for a long time now - surely it's more than just chit chatting with strangers by now!!! We don't hang out in person, but we sure hang out here . . . that's cool enough for me! 1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@much2say That is so awesome to me!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@much2say I feel the same way! I have developed some strong friendships here that feel more like family to me. Hanging out here is way awesome!! I tell y'all more than I tell my offline friends.
I tell y'all more than I tell my offline friends.1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@cherriefic I absolutely agree with you!
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@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I guess I share more with all of you than any other friends I see personally.
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
6 Apr 16
Before there were online communities there were pen pals. People used to write letters to people they had never physically met and become friends. So we don't write letters and send them via the postal service. We write to each other online instead. Same thing!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 Apr 16
@cmoneyspinner You are totally right! I remember having a pen pal and I felt like she was my friend also. =) Through writing we express so much of ourselves-more so than just in person I think.
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
6 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies - I agree. I write much better than I talk. Plus I'm home all day. I'm glad for the Internet. I still get to meet people and have a social outlet.
Plus I'm home all day. I'm glad for the Internet. I still get to meet people and have a social outlet. 
@gaureshashank (83)
• India
5 Apr 16
Yes, we're Friends. according to me a friend is the one who supports you, convince you, uplift you and the one who is always there for you.
We do the same here. I give my allself to keep it as friends.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@gaureshashank I have the same definition of a friend! =)
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@imharvy (14)
• India
5 Apr 16
Well i m quite new here. Bt i like this more than fb and any other site bcz i like writing nd more over dat here v dnt knw each other bt we cn understand's ones feelings nd their state of mind there should not be anything that hrt anyone nd if someone does . Dnt care they don't knw u . No one cn do. Only u cn judge yourslf. So stay blessed and happy
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Apr 16
@imharvy Welcome! I am sure before you know it if you stick around here you will have a ton of friends here. =)
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