Be a responsible father

@ida123 (6206)

Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

April 8, 2016 3:43am CST

This is the word I say to my youngest son this morning. Her girlfriend, whom he had a son texted me early this morning that their son was admitted at the hospital due to fever and vomiting. I was worried upon knowing it. I called my son about this matter but he knew already about this. When he came home, I asked him, what time are you going to visit your son? He answered me, after I wake up because his schedule was graveyard. When he wakes up, I told him to go to the hospital near our city but I found him reluctant in going there. It seems, he doesn't like to go. I was pissed off to his gesture, I told him to be a responsible father to your son even if your not married to your girlfriend, still you have an obligation to your son. And he goes and I'm thankful that he did visit his son. How about you friends, do you still advise your children even if they are old enough to make their own decision especially in dealing with their kids?

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@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

I think you have every right to reprimand him if he doesn't do what a responsible father should do , since he still lives with you , Though , as a parent , even when they are out of our houses and care , we still have the right to remind them of what they are supposed to be rightfully doing .

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

That is true friend, as parents our responsibilities to our children is endless. We have to guide them always and tell them on what is right or wrong and tell them what the consequences whatsoever..

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@SIMPLYD (90722)

• Philippines

11 Apr 16

@ida123 Yes .

@louievill (28851)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

I tell all my children to be responsible when they become parents, modesty aside i tell them to make their mother a model and to better what we have done for them

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Yes, mothers play a vital role in the family, we have to teach our children how to become a responsible person even how professional they are.

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@infatuatedbby (94914)

• United States

9 Apr 16

That would be the right thing to do - to visit his son when his son is in need of him (still young and sick). I hope your grand son will get better soon!

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@infatuatedbby (94914)

• United States

10 Apr 16

@ida123 Good to hear your son listened to you!! Mother's advise is always a wise one. And, I am good to hear your grandson is feeling better now!

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

9 Apr 16

I'm thankful that my son listened to my advised and my grandson is better now.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

10 Apr 16

@infatuatedbby Yes, he's feeling better now and maybe tomorrow or next day, he'll be discharged from the hospital.

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@hereandthere (45645)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

i agree. the little boy is still your grandson and still his son. it's unfair to just forget him and leave all the responsibilities to the mother.

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@hereandthere (45645)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 good to know he's financially supporting his son, but if he never visits or interacts, they will never get to know each other.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

My son is giving my grandson a financial support every month but what he didn't give is the physical appearance where I think is the most needed.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@hereandthere Yes, he's giving the child financial support. Only this week, the child is in his mother's care because of his condition. I'm glad that I let him visit his son.

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@amnabas (14044)

• Karachi, Pakistan

8 Apr 16

Yes me and my hubby do it for the sake of betterment.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Good that both of you are doing this, relationship to your family members must not be taken for granted.

@JudyEv (339591)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Apr 16

There are some things that you should do even if you don't want to. Visiting a sick son is one. I'm glad you encouraged/ordered him to go. It might be hard for him to go but it isn't much fun for the little one being sick either.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Indeed friend and it is not good to hear that even your own blood, you are avoiding even just to visit, yes, he gives financial assistance to his son but that is not enough, his physical appearance is needed at this very moment.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@JudyEv He is only 18 months old, yes, his too young.

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@JudyEv (339591)

• Rockingham, Australia

8 Apr 16

@ida123 How old is his son? I am guessing he is quite young.

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@LdeL0318 (6400)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

You just did the right thing. I guess it's your responsibility for life.

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@LdeL0318 (6400)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 I definitely agree to that.

@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Yes, all parents has its responsibility and obligation to their children, giving them their needs, advises of what is right and wrong and most of all to teach them how to be responsible person as a whole.

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@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

8 Apr 16

I don't do that as of now at present my kids are small but definitely it's should be a responsibility of parents to guide their kids even when they are grown up.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

That is true, even how grown up and professional they are, still our obligation and responsibility to them is endless, we have to guide them to be more responsible person.

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@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

8 Apr 16

@ida123 sometimes even the grown up kids don't differentiate in right or wrong and there they need our guidance.

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@jobelbojel (35511)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

I think they still need advices even if they are already old enough to make decisions. You did the right things.

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@jobelbojel (35511)

• Philippines

9 Apr 16

@ida123 That is really a great practice. Kudos to you on that.

@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

9 Apr 16

That is true, even how old they are, I still give them advises so that our relationship as parents and children will still flourish and no gap between us.

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@iamshane487 (1139)

• Manila, Philippines

8 Apr 16

I can't relate, but every father should be responsible.

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@iamshane487 (1139)

• Manila, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 you're right. Time to act his age to the fact that it was his choice to make baby.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@iamshane487 Not only his choice, it's them both. I think they wanted to have a baby without marriage because they are both nurses, so they know on how to have birth control.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Both parents should be responsible to their children and his family as a whole but in their case, he must be responsible enough to his son, not only financially but also affection.

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@delyaj30 (613)

• Quezon City, Philippines

8 Apr 16

as a mother, we are still responsible to our children even they already have family of their own. We are there to give them advice and if didnt listen us, it's up to them but at least we show our concern

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@delyaj30 (613)

• Quezon City, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 in my part i am now a single parent, i always give them advice if they need my opinion

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@delyaj30 I understand you friend because you're a single parent now. You are the only one who can give them advises.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

I think that is not only the obligation of the mother, it must be the parents or both mother and father should give them advises and lead them the right way. But because, most mother's stay at home, we are oblige to do it to our children in the absence of their father.

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@cacay1 (83437)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Why was your son acted that way, refusal to visit? I think he does not love the girl.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Both of them has another love. I explained it to him that even you have parted ways, your son remains your son until forever, so no need to give many alibis.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@cacay1 He can't do that, yes he can close his relationship to the girl but to his son, their relationship will not end.

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@cacay1 (83437)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 Oh, sorry , so sad.He might want to close his past forever.

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@Macarrosel (7498)

• Philippines

9 Apr 16

I always give advices to my daughters. Good thing not about kids yet for they're young to have children. Anyway, its good to know he follow and respect you.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

9 Apr 16

Even if there are times that he makes a decision that is not good and wise, this time he follows my advise and visits his son at the hospital.

@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

I am just glad my son is only on the BF-GF thingy and they both know their limitations, but yes, I will do the same thing as you did if my son is reluctant to visit his child.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

I really can't afford to let him feel that he has no responsibility on his son, yes, he gives him financial support but I want him to act as a good father to his son, giving him moral support.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ridingbet Indeed friend.

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@ridingbet (66854)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

@ida123 he is undoubtedly the son's father and nothing can ever replace him. I hope your son will finally accept that there is now a bond between him and the mother of his son even though they have their own lives to live, separately

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@salonga (27775)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

I think being a mother does not stop even if our kids have grown up. What you did is right.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

9 Apr 16

Thanks friend, giving them advises can cease our gap and continue our good relationship as parents and children.

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@marlina (154131)

• Canada

8 Apr 16

We taught our 2 sons to be responsible and they are. Glad that your son listened to you.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Yes, I'm happy that he listened to me.

@LadyDuck (471355)

• Switzerland

8 Apr 16

I have no children, but I see many parents that still advise their children if they are already adults.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

Yes, parents obligation and responsibility to their children even they are old enough has no end, we still have to give them advises.

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@Scindhia (1906)

• India

8 Apr 16

You did the right thing. Parents should point out when the kid goes wrong no matter the age.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

We parents play a vital role to our children, how they become a good and responsible persons. We see to it that we give them advises even how big and grown up they are.

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@Dextoi (1845)

• Philippines

8 Apr 16

"A man who doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man" Vito Corleone, The Godfather

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

8 Apr 16

I think, he has the reason why he did this. Maybe, he was hurt why they broke so he doesn't want to see his son because seeing the baby means, he must also see the mother.

@DesirousDreamer (34776)

• Peoria, Arizona

9 Apr 16

Nothing needs to kick his butt in gear. Hopefully seeing his kid stuck something in him. A sick child is nothing to blow off, a child is nothing to blow off. It does not matter how old your children are. Even when you are in your 80s and they are in their 60s they still need advice no matter what.

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@ida123 (6206)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

9 Apr 16

Yes, that is what happen to me and to my parents, they still give advises to us and we are thankful that they are here for us even we are old enough.

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