Family That Do Not Appreciate Gifts Or Help

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I have known my wife know for 26 years, which means I know my In-laws that long. Maybe I should be a better brother-inlaw, but I think it has come to the time to cut more ties with my sister-inlaw. Over the last 26 years I have helped her move from places (I believe 6 times), I have given her input and tried to help when she has lost a job (in 26 years she has gone through 12 jobs, but the most recent one she has stuck with it for at least 5 years which is great). Over the years we get her birthday gifts, xmas gifts or when we think that she might like something, we get it for her). Ok, I will stop here (I could name at least 100 more areas, but you get it). Here is my problem, she is not appreciative of anything (at first she is, but then later you find out that she was lying and she tells you the truth). Example: We went to Disney in November and asked her if she wanted something, she said no. One of the last days at the park, she texted asking for a coffee mug. We sent her 3 texts with pictures and asked her which one she would like. So we gave this to her as a gift. Now 6 Months later we are over her house and ask if she is using it and her response was "No, I don't care for it". I asked her "but we sent you 3 options and you liked this, is it something functional you do not like about it". She answered "no, I just don't like". Over the years, I have tried to help her with many things and giving her my input and advice and at first, she says thank you for the advice, but then later she will tell me that she thought about it and she thinks it is now stupid advice. So end result, my question to the group is, if you have someone that does not appreciate something over and over, what do you do? I talked to my wife and she says that she does not want to talk to her and she is upset. Because they are blood, normally wait about 2 months and they are talking again. Personally I want a relationship with my sister-inlaw but helping her or gifts, I just want to say no and not have any stress with her. What are your thoughts?