Bullying

April 13, 2016 3:26pm CST
My children currently are dealing with bullying at school. Even though I have contacted the school many times this still continues to be an ongoing issue. I have gotten to the point that I have told my children to start fighting back. My daughter had another girl sit on her, hold her down and bend her finger backwards which resulted in a break. The school did nothing to punish the other girl, even after a meeting with the superintendent. Just yesterday a boy threw rocks at my daughter and yet again no punishment has taken place. I have finally resolved to tell my children that fighting back is going to have to be their last resort. It has gotten so bad that I am relocating. I am moving my family away from this God forsaken tiny town. We only have a month left of school, but the bullying continues. Would you tell your children to fight back? Would you move as I am? I have even considered pulling them out for the rest of the year to homeschool until we move, but being a single mom with a full time job and four kids, I am not even sure that is a possibility.
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@FourWalls (68892)
• United States
13 Apr 16
I was bullied in school, too, until I fought back. When I whipped the school bully (he was in the 5th grade, I was in the 4th...and a girl!!) the bullying stopped. Standing up to one's attackers, be they physical or verbal, is one of the best things you can teach a kid, and I'm personally puzzled about why schools adopt this milquetoast mentality when it comes to dealing with bullies. There's another option, too: go to a lawyer and sue the school system. Taking their precious money away from them gets them to listen faster than just about anything. Or, go to a TV news station. Schools don't like the publicity. Good luck.
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13 Apr 16
I have threatened my attorney but they don't seem to care. It has been to the point of teachers yelling in my children's faces and one teacher calling my seven year old a crybaby. I was told to file Due Process against them for having one of my children's IEP meetings without me. I will be doing that just as soon as I can figure out where to start. It's ridiculous that a school allows this type of behavior, even from it's teachers.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
14 Apr 16
Why do Americans always think so quick of suing for damages @FourWalls remember this is the taxpayers money(your money) I'm so glad we do not support running to court here.go to court and sue for damages,you get 4 figures if at all but most of the time they try to find a compromise.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
@fizzyrain An IEP meeting without you? Isn't the whole point of the IEP meeting supposed to be getting you to sign the plan? This school sounds like it's very messed up, and the teachers sound abusive. If your kids are vulnerable, do be careful. There are some who will take their anger at parents out on the kids....
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
13 Apr 16
I knew a family who moved from a big city to a tiny town and had the same problem. Maybe a relocation would lessen the problem. Homeschool is another possibility.
@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
13 Apr 16
@fizzyrain I knew the people that had the problem. Their two daughters started experiencing unacceptance from the very first days of school. They got into fights with other children and the problem only lessen after about two years of uninterrupted quarrels.
13 Apr 16
That's exactly the problem. We moved from a city to a very small town. The whole second grade consists of about 15 kids. They are very un-accepting here.
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13 Apr 16
@quantum2020 My kids have only attended this school for one year and I am already fed up. I don't think they will last another year there. My oldest has ADHD, Tourettes, OCD, Anxiety and a Sensory Processing Disorder. School is already a challenge for her, she doesn't need the added heartache.
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
13 Apr 16
I would raise absolute hell at the school and with the parents. I would talk to the news and anyone higher with control at the school. That is unacceptable.
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
14 Apr 16
Thats ridiculous! A responsible school should intervene and take care of such issues immediately. Its horrible for the kids to be bullied everyday.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
14 Apr 16
So sorry your kids are going through this! I guess the best thing is to try and tough it out until the school year ends. I certainly would tell my kids to fight back, if the school won't do anything. But if you have such severe bullying that the kids are breaking your daughter's finger and throwing rocks with impunity, I might also consider calling the police or CPS to file a report on the children responsible. If the school can't or won't protect your kids, maybe you ought to turn to other authorities for help....
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• Westland, Michigan
14 Apr 16
Guess I am out of the school loop. Is there like a pta meeting or school meeting that you can go to? What about the county superintendent?
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• Preston, England
14 Apr 16
contact support groups and networks of anti-bullying organizations - also find out all you can on the bullies - if they have social networking sites they might be dumb enough boast about their behaviour online - don't follow them under your real name or they might guess what you are doing - . You could consider trying to get film or audio footage of them intimidating your children, who are probably not the only victims of such morons - good luck
@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
14 Apr 16
It very much is the schools responsibility as to what happens after you leave the children in their care. You should contact higher authorities or even the police if the school does not take any action against the erring kids.
@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
14 Apr 16
I have three daughters and all of them were being bullied in school in their elementary years. I really talk to the teachers and even the parents but still the bullying partially continues. So I just prayed hard that my daughters wouldn't be harm by them. I never told them to fight back because I was thinking they might lose the fight and got hurt.
@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
14 Apr 16
I would be calling the local news and let them know what's going on. They will probably run that story. I am stunned that even the superintendent is doing nothing. How would he feel if that was his kid getting bullied. Shameful mess.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
14 Apr 16
When a friends kids were being bullied badly at school and more or less the school did nothing,her husband enrolled the kids in self-defence and karate classes and told them to fight back and fight back they did.soon the bullying was history. Personally,I would pull the kids out of that school.Fighting back can seriously backfire.Remember a kid being bullied is usually alone while the bullies because they are cowards, are usually more than 3.
16 Apr 16
I am a teacher in one of the remotest school here in our place,I am dealing with small children ages 5-8 years old,I also have sons ages 7 and 3.I am against of bullying really.Bullying is rampant in our school,so what I did,during our general meeting with the parents,I told them my rules inside my classroom or even outside when it comes to disciplining my pupils.My number 1 rule is:Don't do unto others what you want others do unto you.If I caught you or someone told me who is bullying your classmate/s and if I found you guilty,I really let those kids that they bullied return what they did to him/her.I let him/her fight back.My possession about this is because I let them know that what they do unto others is not good.So that they also feel the pain that they give to their classmates.Because if I'm not doing this,they will continue bullying/hurting others.I also talk with their parents too,to help me giving right advises to them.Children's learning both mental,social and spiritual in not only in teachers hand but for all,first family,school and environment.Good to know that parents agree with me.We, parents send our children to school not to be bullied but to learn something.My hearts is aching upon hearing your story@fizzyrain.