Im Not Close To My Family
By minisam
@miniam (9154)
Bern, Switzerland
April 15, 2016 9:44am CST
Since moving away from home those many years ago, I do feel my family cut me out in a way.
If l dont call,they will never call me,sometimes 8 months or more go by, l dont hear from them.In the beginning it made me very sad but not any more, i just accept things as they are.
Before Emails, sometimes even my letters went unanswered.
If and when we meet, they play all nice but i know they dont care about me.
I dont get christmas cards or birthday cards which is sad, i send christmas and burthday cards,call every 2 weeks(sometimes more)
Only my brother sometimes make an effort but to the rest i may as well not exist, l have 3 sisters and 2 brothers.
Are you close to your family?Do they remember your birthdays and holidays?
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18 responses
@carebear29 (31970)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
15 Apr 16
I have a couple close family member but other than that, no one talks to me
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Apr 16
@AnneEJ
I send cards on holidays, I call , I send Christmas cards,send kids presents on their birthdays, i send holiday souvenirs+post card when I go away.I make an effort to be there Christmas if I'm not working.
In 24 years since I moved out, no one ever asked to visit me, no one calls, i spent 5 months in hospital, no visit,call or card.
I try very hard,they dont and no one tells me what the problem is.
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@allknowing (137812)
• India
16 Apr 16
Sad to say. Family is indeed drifting and you are not alone. If I do not call they do not call me. I have stopped calling.
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
15 Apr 16
I don't get text or emails from them, unless they need help with something. it's actually good because you missed them a lot makes you realized how hard it is to be alone. when you grow old you realize how important family is. maybe it's just assumption that you think they don't care, ever tried trying to talk to them in person?
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@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
16 Apr 16
@miniam don't stop doing so. you know one day they might missed your visit if anything happens to you.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Apr 16
@Letranknight2015
Thanks for encouragement, l cant stop visiting they are all i have
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Apr 16
The only one that really bothers with me is my one sister. My parents don't keep in touch-I have to call them or I don't hear from them either. When I do call them it seems like I am annoying them more than anything else. It is what it is though. I have accepted it also.
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@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
16 Apr 16
Going through most of the responses in this discussion, the main reason I feel is the difference in family values here in India and in Europe and the USA.
@PainsOnSlate (21852)
• Canada
15 Apr 16
Actually its too expensive to send cards from Canada to the US. My family is in the US, I connect daily with my sister on line and my brother's family keep in touch on Face Book and by phone. I work hard to make sure we stay connected. They are important to me. I'm sorry you have not been so lucky.
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
15 Apr 16
I'm so sorry that's sad. I am close to all my siblings thankfully. We do all have our own lives but we remain close.
@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
16 Apr 16
@miniam It's amazing how people we thought we knew change when they become adults.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
16 Apr 16
@fishtiger58
Over the years i have come to accept they are strangers to me
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@lovebeingmummy2 (806)
• Aberdeen, Scotland
15 Apr 16
Sorry to hear that, I'm close to my family
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@rina110383 (24492)
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15 Apr 16
No. I live far from my parents and siblings. We only talk twice a month. Yes, we do text or email each other during birthdays. We remember holidays but rarely are we together on holidays or birthdays.
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@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
16 Apr 16
Well here in India, most are very well connected with their families, most even staying together. My kids too, luckily are here in the same city as mine, and they do visit me often. I too visit my mom, bro, and sis or we at least we talk once in a while.
@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
18 Apr 16
My brothers and I do text each other on our birthdays, are we close? I would so now but we are friendly. We always say Merry Christmas too and Happy Thanksgiving.
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
15 Apr 16
I have asked but the answer is always,"there is no problem,you are imagining it."
It`s hard come Christmas time, I'm never invited,if i have time, I do go, if i have to work then im here, no christmas card or call from mum,sisters or brothers
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