Do you think women should make the first move?
By xTinx
@xxTinx (49)
April 16, 2016 10:11am CST
This has been on my mind lately. I know we're currently in the modern era and many people nowadays believe that women have just as much right as men to make the first move. It's okay for some. I mean, if it works then it works, right? Unfortunately, certain situations make aggressive women look too desperate.
Although I don't have qualms about women doing this, l personally prefer the old school courtship where men have to approach women first, declare their intentions, make an effort to get noticed and give women sufficient time to return their feelings. Cheesy, I know, but this method has built stable and more grounded relationships than most of today's dating games.
Anyway, just my two cents. Perhaps you guys have a different opinion.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
16 Apr 16
Well, almost twenty years ago I made the first move with my husband. He then took that message and courted me. We are together still, and are raising four children together.
I've never heard of or seen any statistics that say the relationship will be more stable if a guy makes the first move. In fact, I think it's irrelevant. What creates stability in a relationship isn't the man taking the initiative or a traditional courtship. It's both partners wanting the same things from a relationship, and being willing to work together to achieve them.
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@rina110383 (24492)
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16 Apr 16
I definitely agree with your 2nd paragraph!
You explained it well
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@rina110383 (24492)
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16 Apr 16
@Ruby3881 Aww. I hope one day I'll have a long happy marriage like yours.
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@rina110383 (24492)
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16 Apr 16
If I like a guy, I tell him I like him. I don't mind if the feeling is not mutual I don't care either if people will regard me as aggressive or desperate.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
16 Apr 16
@rina110383 Thank you! So do I. My husband is my best friend, and not just my spouse.
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
16 Apr 16
I can't understand why anyone would think a woman is desperate if she makes the first move, but when a guy does it's fine. How stupid!
In my experience, any time I've ever made the first move the guy has appreciated it. Even if the feeling was not mutual, he's been flattered. And we're going back more than two decades, here, because I've been with the same man that long now.
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@xxTinx (49)
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17 Apr 16
@Ruby3881 Unfortunately not all men appreciate it when women make the first move. But I'm glad your story turned out well. I guess you were blessed and lucky enough to ask out the guy who was really meant for you. The approach would also matter, though. Perhaps your method didn't come on too strong or needy. It was something your now-husband needed. Regards to you and your family!
@LeaPea2417 (37353)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Apr 16
I agree with you, I prefer the old school courtship.
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