Debating on moving in with my sister

@maezee (41988)
United States
April 16, 2016 4:08pm CST
And splitting her mortgage. She has a small upstairs level that is similar in size (if not bigger) than my apartment and would cost half the price. My contract is up in July and I havent figured out where Id want to go yet. Im trying yo get out of debt and save up for a down paymenton a house so this would allow me to save and still live independently from my parents... So I am thinking about it. I cant decide if this would be good for me and my sister. We have gotten along over the years BUT we have also not lived together since I was 17 and she was 19. I worry that when you move in with someone you like it can be toxic. On the plus side - we work opposite days. However there is a down side to that - and that is I can see her making some noise downstairs on the weekend. Whch may br a problem as I work weekends. Would you ever - or have you ever - lived with a sibling? Any experiences to share?
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
17 Apr 16
If you move to another cheaper place, you will face the same problem of not knowing if you get good or bad neighbors. For me, I believe that when money is concerned, it is best to keep it formal. If you want to move in and pay rent to your sister, then she is your landlord. You sign a contract as if you are renting from some one else. It will prevent family tie from souring.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Yes. I probably would put it all in writing. She is very organized and good with money so she probably would force me to.
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
17 Apr 16
@maezee Not just money. just keep the relationship as landlord and tenant for a while, until you get comfortable with her.
@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
16 Apr 16
LIving with siblings can have its ups and downs! I once lived with my sister. She would have let live at her home for a long time, but I think her husband didn´t like the idea and I had to walk out of her house. This occurred back in the 90´s I was younger. I think that it is difficult for someone to let a friend or siblibng share the same home as people are always looking to live their privacy. Afterwards, I have visted her but never stayed for more than a day. This, has helped keeping us together as siblings.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Thats another issue. I do like to keep my life private from my sister....and it would be weird to bring boyfriends home or whatever.
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
17 Apr 16
@maezee Yes, it is something to consider! You will always be hiding your emotions in order to follow the house rules.
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
17 Apr 16
I haven't but I could definitely see the financial advantage to that. I guess if you really have no choice, or intent on saving money, then go for it (Plus side: I'm thinking that you don't have to sign a lease agreement, so if it gets bad then you could always move out). For myself, I couldn't. I'm just too independent.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
17 Apr 16
Thats kind of how I feel. I have lived alone for a while but I also tend to get lonely living on my own. Such a dificult decision!
@marlina (154130)
• Canada
16 Apr 16
From my own experience, I say it is always better to be on your own.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
16 Apr 16
Probably true. I do live alone now and I do get kind of lonely most days though... even though its been over a year roommate less. Yo would think I would get used to it.
@Scindhia (1906)
• India
18 Apr 16
I would love to live with my sister but I never really had the chance. But yes, you have to put up with each others' habits. And thats a bit cumbersome.