~Why Can't We Just Talk?~

There are degrees of aggravation. Smaller ones should be solved by talking, so that the larger ones seem more manageable. If I don't harm you, and you don't harm me, if I have not hurt you, and if you have not hurt me, wittingly, then sitting and solving at smaller aggravation levels is worthwhile. What you did is right I feel because blaming another person means breaking down of communication channels. It can happen for legitimate reasons too but when it happens for legitimate reasons generally others intervene or take sides.

Exactly. I'm usually good to talk to the person after I've calmed down and thought the situation through. There are some people that I will not talk to because I've already tried before and it fixes nothing, so I just give up because it's no use.

@akalinus I guess some people need a LONG time to calm down then! Lol. I just don't get it. I would rather someone tell me what I did wrong than get the silent treatment for something I know nothing about.

@LovingMyBabies .. Seriously, later on in life, if they don't know how to behave then chances are that they will hurt others or be hurt. Either way they will offer less than their best to the nation, and that can prove to be very expensive in the long run.

@vandana7 That is a GOOD idea!

@vandana7, excellent idea

@dodo19 I agree, I think it is so much better to just talk about whatever the problem is. I don't understand why people go months or longer without talking about the situation!

@cupkitties Yeah just come out and say it and we can work through it. I can't fix anything if I don't know or realize what I did wrong! I went through this again today with someone at church...it annoys me.

@LovingMyBabies I completely believe in that theory - get past things and move forward. But I am amidst a bunch of people who want to preserve almost everything. Even things from ancient past that maybe nowhere related to the current scenario can be expected to get mentioned. I have tried explaining, tried talking it out but then, there need to be at least two people involved for a discussion. They just either say, no mood to discuss or even start telling me that I am rekindling the matters again There has to be someone who needs to accept the faults just for the sake of peace. call it fate or destiny, I chose this path so I should not complain.

@thesids Honestly in any relationship there should be no winning or losing, it should be about caring and communication. I think the only way to get past things and move forward is to talk about them.

@sishy7 I cannot stand when they don't even tell you their upset with you though. I would at least expect that much! They just stop talking to you one day out of nowhere.

@peavey Yeah it is really frustrating and immature in my opinion. Communication can solve many issues.

@toniganzon I do not like confrontation at all but I would let someone know if they upset me so things can get worked out.

@cheriguchi Then they should not expect me to wait around forever guessing.

@juliaacv Well they can at least say I am annoyed with you and we will talk about it whwn I am ready. I could deal with that but when they say nothing at all I have no idea what is going on.

@LovingMyBabies I know that makes sense, me, if I'm upset its better for me to take a cooling off time so that I don't say something that I'd regret, I tend to hold things in and I know that's unhealthy.

@andriaperry Yeah instead of being two faced or playing the silent game-just talk about it! My goodness it's not that hard in my opinion. I just went through this today...some girl at church is giving me the silent treatment-haven't spoken to her in a while, no idea what I did wrong and now I just have to guess I suppose...

@scindhia Yeah I just think communication is the key to any relationship.

@lovebeingmummy2 Yes two faced is correct and it annoys me!