I'm not trying to be rude!
By maxen07
@maxen07 (882)
Philippines
April 18, 2016 4:38am CST
My conversation with my aunt, unfortunately, had to ride along with this heat. My aunt and I were discussing about my other aunt who went home to have a performance here in the Philippines. She won the "Overall Performer" award at the Malibu Music Festival back in 2014. People won't know her here so our relatives made up most of the audience at the 2nd floor, lol! Anyway, she mentioned that Aunt Malou sang the song "Yellow" by Coldplay. I told her I'm familiar with the band but not the song. Then she mentioned that Coldplay will be having a concert here in the country. I replied, said that I don't care for any other band, that I'm only interested with One Ok Rock, which is my favorite band whose concert I had to miss last January when they went here so now I'm waiting for their return. Suddenly, my Aunt Jenny said that I shouldn't be like that, that I should be welcome to listening to other band's songs and that it's a rude reply to her. I for one, don't understand how she can say that. I wasn't trying to be rude. I really am just waiting for One OK Rock because I missed their concert. I don't know what her problem is. She's lucky enough to see Aunt Malou perform here yet she cannot allow me to be honest about what I like. Unbelieveable!
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@Letranknight2015 (51914)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
Well, tell her you have the right to express whos band you like, and remind her you live in a democratic country. but tell her too that she might consider checking it out but not interested for now.
@LdeL0318 (6400)
• Philippines
18 Apr 16
Sometimes, it depends on the tone of your voice or your facial expression.
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
18 Apr 16
Well, I have no way of knowing if you sounded rude while you said it. Sometimes, there is something in the tone of voice. And sometimes, there isn't anything there but something was (mistakenly) perceived by the other person.
So basically, it is a misunderstanding. 
It is neither your fault (if you didn't mean to be rude), nor her fault (she could have made an honest mistake.
Probably the lesson that can be learned from it is: when something similar happens in the future, just apologize (though you may feel you have nothing to apologize for) for making her feel that way, and reassure her that you didn't not mean anything by it.
It is neither your fault (if you didn't mean to be rude), nor her fault (she could have made an honest mistake.
Probably the lesson that can be learned from it is: when something similar happens in the future, just apologize (though you may feel you have nothing to apologize for) for making her feel that way, and reassure her that you didn't not mean anything by it. 