I Respect Him For That
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
April 18, 2016 10:39pm CST
Last Saturday , when I visited my parents , I went straight to my parent’s bedroom .
My diabetic father was there alone on the bed sitting , while listening to the radio .
After I kissed him I asked him if he wants to be at the receiving room since most of you have known now that his left lower leg was amputated .
He told me yes , but to just push his wheel chair near the bed . Before , he would tell me to call one of my nephews to help him be transferred from the bed to the wheel chair .
And he told me , he can do it alone now . So I left him just as he instructed me , after pushing his wheel chair near the bed and was surprised when after about 15 minutes he was already wheeling his wheel chair to the receiving room where we are watching TV .
The physical therapy being done to him 3x a week has helped him do that .
I admire my father because despite his condition , he still can maintain his dignity. He doesn’t want a caregiver , but just my mother to attend to his personal needs and my third sister to inject his insulin .
Well, that’s understandable because he is a retired judge . And I respect him so much for feeling like that .
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@allknowing (136403)
• India
19 Apr 16
Seniors could learn something from this. Many of them although could do things for themselves depend on others.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
Indeed . But you know , they told me that they don't want my sisters ( one is a widow , the other separated from husband ) and their sons living with them , to leave them . They are so helpful to them emotionally .
I told them not to worry about that .
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@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD I understand how your father and mother feel. The house would feel empty with just the two of them living there. I know though he wants to be independent and want to do things on his own but the thought of having your sisters and their apos ( grandchildren) there will make the house and their lives more fun.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@mammots Yes, just seeing them all gathered to watch a nice movie they downloaded from the net , is a great happiness to them and to everybody already .
And i saw my niece post a picture of them all watching the Pacquiao fight the other Sunday while they were all eating pizza and drinking coke , it made me so happy because my parents were there also in their midst eating and watching TV .
Simple enjoyment they have indeed .
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@davidalicea100 (3495)
• Merced, California
20 Apr 16
Your a dad a O.G. much respect
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
@davidalicea100 Oh i see . Indeed , as men are generally known for being strong , they want to feel that way until they die indeed . 
And that , as children of our father we fully understand so we let him have his way . He can always call when he needs someone to assist him . 
And that , as children of our father we fully understand so we let him have his way . He can always call when he needs someone to assist him . 1 person likes this
@davidalicea100 (3495)
• Merced, California
20 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD I can't explain it really its nothing bad, lets just say as a man i respect him for that all men till the day we die want to be and feel like a man we are prideful.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
Yes, we know that . Besides we know that he wants to imply to everyone that despite his condition , he is not a burden .
Though even if he is totally dependent to us , we don;t ever consider him that . We would like to return his goodness in giving us a comfortable life and a nice educational attainment .
Though even if he is totally dependent to us , we don;t ever consider him that . We would like to return his goodness in giving us a comfortable life and a nice educational attainment . 1 person likes this
@josie_ (10034)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
It says a lot about your father's character. But I can also appreciate why children sometimes baby their elders. It's their way of showing their "lambing" (affection) . As a "lola" (grandma), I love being made "lambing" to by my grandchildren.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
19 Apr 16
He is a strong man. Very nice to visit him weekly.
Very nice to visit him weekly.2 people like this
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32697)
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Apr 16
You know my father and I are in bad terms, well I am in bad terms with my family in general. My dad is diabetic and even though I hate him, I do admit I still worry of him.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
And i know your father also cares for you . They are just too proud to concede . Just remember that .
Besides , he is your father . Have you made the first move to reconcile with him ?
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
Yes, it makes us all happy in the family , that now he can already transfer himself alone , from his bed to his wheel chair provided that someone will push his wheel chair near his bed .
All of us at home , would surely run to him , if ever he will call for help.
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
19 Apr 16
I admire people like your Dad too who doesn't want to be a burden as much as possible..
My father in-law is going on 90 years old this year . He still very independent ..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
21 Apr 16
@epiffanie Oh he really is a strong man . Imagine having survived those cancers and its physical effects.
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
21 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD Yes he is turning 90 on June this year and we are going to give him a big party to celebrate his 90 amazing years..
He also had cancer inside his left ear that's why he lost lost that ear.. cancer under his left jaw so his face is deformed ..and he has an ongoing small surgeries on his skin because of cancer ..But he is amazingly highly spirited..
Yes he is mobile .. he washes and iron his own clothes and he still does gardening too.. If I live to that age, I would want to be like him ..
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
i admire your father. in a way, he still wants to be independent so he wants to do things alone. it is a developmental task of the elders, according to Erik Erikson, that task is "generativity versus stagnation". He does not want to be totally dependent on you his children.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@ridingbet Thank you . What's GBU , my friend ? 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD and i really admire him for that, and you his children as well. GBU, my lady.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Indeed . And we hope to see him walking alone in his prosthetic leg , because it's now more than a year already , since his amputation .
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 Nov 17
Yes, he has the will to live long and see his children and grandchildren grow older.
@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
20 Apr 16
I am so glad that he is able to do this for himself, it is important to maintain his dignity.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
19 Apr 16
It would be nice if his wants were respected. Not everyone can do it w/o a caregiver or at least another family member helping. It can be a tough situation.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Yes, that's what we do . We want him to have his dignity despite his present situation . He calls when he needs help .
@birjudanak (14320)
• India
19 Apr 16
its very nice that you meet your father as in old days they really need someone who take care of them and due to it they get will power from inside someone with us,while we are child they help us and do everything for us and now its our time to take care of them because they are our parents and we always have to respect them...
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
19 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD yes its good thing that you visit them as they feel really good and get extra energy..
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
When my parents are not feeling well, my mother takes personal care of my father and vice versa. I stay in another house, and when anybody of them are sick, it is always I who they call. Your father is a strong man and he does not want assistance from you when he can still do it himself.
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