Do You Take A Grudge When Relatives Did not Invite You Some Events?
By @acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
Philippines
April 19, 2016 4:25pm CST
Facebook has made relationships grow closer or breaks it.
If you saw a post from a family member or relatives while they were having fun in a restaurant or resort, do you bear a grudge on them for not informing you or inviting you to the event?
It is so easy to invite people nowadays by just sending private messages on facebook or through cellphone short messages. You will wonder why they did not inform you about an important occasion.
Do you feel "isolated" or do you feel they do not want you around?
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18 responses
@Letranknight2015 (51957)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
I don't know most of the times, i don't like going to certain big events. in fact sometimes my siblings gets pissed when i don't go to their birthdays
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
They love your presence and they miss you on such important occasions. Very nice relatives.
@rosie230 (1703)
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19 Apr 16
I can understand how a person could feel like that. It can't be nice to be ignored like that, but I'm one of those people who would just try and move on however hard it is, and ignore what had happened and carry on in my own life. Worrying about why there was no invite for you could drive you up the wall, just continue in your life and hold your head up high.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Thanks for your advice, indeed, focusing on yourself (one's own) is the best thing to do because they might have some reasons why they failed to send an invitation/message.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Apr 16
I sure do and it has happened a few times now. friends are nicer then relatives
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
21 Apr 16
Well, sometimes friends become closer to us than relatives do. It happens.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Me too, if I wanted to be there and meet some relatives I like most.
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@carebear29 (31963)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
19 Apr 16
I don't go but others in my family invite me to. My parents and brothers have a grudge against me and I hate it over something that happened in 2010.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
They just wanted you to be with them on such important events. For sure they value your presence very much.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
20 Apr 16
I could not care less if people invite me. I have a full life and sometimes we get invited and sometimes we don't and both are okay. But if it bothered me I would say something.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
20 Apr 16
@acelawrites If they do it intentionally I would unfriend them on Facebook and break contact, you don't need that negativity in your life.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
It is alright if we really don't have spare time, but if they do it intentionally, it would be hurting a lot.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Yes, there's so many future occasions where we can always share time with the people we love.
@davidalicea100 (3495)
• Merced, California
20 Apr 16
I become sad when my family don't invite me, it probably because they know i would eat all the food lol.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Oh they're afraid they'll get little food if you come; just prove them wrong! ha ha ha!
@antonbunot (11093)
• Calgary, Alberta
19 Apr 16
I do! Especially when I see them eating my favorite foods!
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Or they should send you some food knowing it's your favorite!
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Yes, ignoring them or not reading their status posts will spare you of such feelings.
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
True, if it is your husband, there'll be "war" for sure when he comes home! ha ha ha!
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Yes, we love to celebrate with our families, but at times it's an exclusive one depending on the situation.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Well, we can choose our friends or relatives who'll make our life complete.
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@rina110383 (24492)
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20 Apr 16
No, because I'm not close with my relatives. They don't know my number and I don't use facebook. I don't mind not being invited.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Well it saves you from some "heartaches." Better option.
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@yukimori (10145)
• United States
19 Apr 16
Presumably it's their event, so the guest list is up to them. Personally, I don't care what my relatives do. I'm not close to any of them, so I'll probably make a generic comment like "Looks like tons of fun!" and like a few pictures, then move on. Just because Facebook and cell phones make it easy to invite people doesn't mean that a person has to invite tons of people to every event they host. That's a bit ridiculous, don't you think?
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
It could be at times depending on the event, if it's just a small family dinner, etc. They rather not post it if they want it to be exclusive too. But on the contrary, I agree that it will so costly to invite a lot of people to an event.
@Mike197602 (15505)
• United Kingdom
19 Apr 16
My family always invite me to anything they have going so I don't feel isolated.
I have going out of the house issues so rarely venture further than 20 miles down the motorway to my sisters house.
My family is split between Ireland, England and Dubai.
Any events in Dubai I'm still invited to but they know I won't go but they still invite me year after year so it's me that's being rather rude by not going.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
Oh your family is so far apart. It could be costly and time consuming to attend such events, but it can be so meaningful if you can go and celebrate with them.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
19 Apr 16
Maybe but I would understand that it's quite heavy on the pocket to be spending for so many invitees these days. I would think practical and would imagine myself in his/her shoes. You can't please everybody sometimes.
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Apr 16
It could be one of the reasons, because inviting too many people entails a lot of money for food or for the venue.
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