~Not Going Anywhere~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
April 23, 2016 2:36pm CST
The friend that was supposed to watch our children for our anniversary is no longer watching them. We hadn't heard from her at 3pm when she was supposed to start watching them at 2:30pm so my husband called her... She told him her family is sick and she can't watch them now.
I am upset because she should have called us and told us, not just waited for us to call her and find out like that.
It is what it is though. I think I am going to spend a little while on here and go to bed early tonight. Not really in the mood for anything else now. It's always something...In NC we had my family to watch the kids but no money, here we have money since he's working but we have no one to watch the kids--we can't win!
I am done venting...don't want to bring anyone else down with me...Sorry.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
23 Apr 16
You have all the right to be ranting, deppressed and anything you want to be.
I know that any person can have problems as your so called friend had. But THAT´S the reason why phones were made!
I suggest you relax today, but get someone else to take care or your children and sort of "move" your anniversary´s date. It can still be perfect with some imagination.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@marguicha Thank you! That was my point as well, all she had to do was call, text or even message me on FB! Something...Not wait until we called her.
But we did take the kids to eat and down to the water, it was a nice day even if it wasn't what we expected.
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@GardenGerty (160940)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Last June I went to Minnesota to watch my grand kids for a week so my kids could celebrate their tenth anniversary. It was their eleventh when they got to celebrate. It is difficult finding competent help to watch four children.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@GardenGerty It is hard to find someone to watch our children. We won't leave them with just anyone-has to be someone we trust. But to me, if you say you will do something then do it. If you absolutely can't then let the person know ahead of time. Common sense to me!
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
23 Apr 16
Don't let this bring you down. Take the kids with you for a walk on the beach. Turn it into a family celebration.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies glad to hear it Jennifer!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@ElusiveButterfly Thank you. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@ElusiveButterfly My husband convinced me to go out, so we took the kids somewhere to eat and went down to the water. It was nice and I'm glad we got out of the house. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@Teep11 Yeah, I wish she did the right thing but my husband convinced me to get out of the house anyway so we took the kids to dinner and went by the water. It was nice even if it wasn't what we expected.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@Juliaacv Yes it was. Thank you so much. =) We ended up taking the kids with us for dinner and took them by the water, it was nice even though it wasn't what we expected.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@marlina Thanks, we made it a nice day anyway. We took the kids to eat and by the water. It was a nice day anyway.
@akalinus (43354)
• United States
24 Apr 16
If I lived closer, I would come and watch them for you. I'm sorry that your friend let you down. She should have called you immediately when she found out her plans were changed. Maybe she is not the most reliable person to watch your children.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Apr 16
@akalinus I don't think we will try again because we don't have childcare...clearly not reliable and I don't want another disappointment.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@akalinus Aw, thank you for saying that. =) I agree that would have been the right thing to do but not everyone does the right thing unfortunately.
We did have a nice day anyway with our kids so it was okay. =)
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@akalinus (43354)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies You can always delay your trip til a better time. Glad you had a good day.
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@GardenGerty (160940)
• United States
24 Apr 16
Yes, it would have been good manners of her to call. I had to call someone last night and cancel plans for today. I had sent a facebook message but when she did not see it for more than two hours I chose to call. She thanked me, like it was unusual for people to be responsible like that. My first thought reading this is that you will be thankful your children did not get exposed and sick.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@GardenGerty Yes it would have. See you did the right thing-the polite thing! So many people don't anymore and to me it;s really sad.
No I don't want my children sick-but that does not excuse her bad manners.
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies
Glad you and kids had a good day anyway but I know you and hubby had to be disappointed when the Friend didn't watch the children so you two could go out and be alone.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@Marcyaz Yeah I agree with you. I would have never done that to her... Thank you. Nope we really can't. Lol.
But we did have a good day with the kids anyway.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@Marcyaz Yeah we were very disappointed but when we go to NC to visit family again my mom said she will watch the kids for us so we can celebrate a little late. =)
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I'm glad that you were able to have fun anyway.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@dodo19 Thank you. It was upsetting but we made it the best we could. We took the kids to dinner and to the water so it turned out to be a nice day anyway. =)
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@celticeagle (168209)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 16
Some people aren't very considerate. They think only of themselves. Maybe you can plan your time out for another time. Won't be quite the same but it would be nice.
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@celticeagle (168209)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies ... She could have been a better friend, that's for sure.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@celticeagle Yeah I know. Not everyone would do what we would do, I am learning that more and more.
We took the kids to dinner and to the water so it was okay anyway.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@celticeagle I completely agree!
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
23 Apr 16
I'm sorry hun I know that feeling of such a big let down. I'd watch them fr you if I could have
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@IveSaysHi Thank you, it was a let down. =( Thank you, I know you would.
We took the kids to dinner and to the water so it was a good day anyway.
We took the kids to dinner and to the water so it was a good day anyway.1 person likes this
@1creekgirl (41722)
• United States
24 Apr 16
I'm so sorry....it's disappointing to have plans ruined, especially for a special event like an anniversary. Will you be able to celebrate another time soon?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@1creekgirl Thank you. =( It was disappointing but we took the kids with us and had a nice day anyway. Honestly, I don't think i want to plan for another day and have the same thing happen again.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@DianneN Thank you! I know, it bothers me the way things were done by her.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@DianneN Yes she should have, that's part that annoyed me the most.
We did enjoy the day, we took the kids to dinner and we went to the water. =)
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I'm glad you wound up having a nice day, despite her nasty inconsiderate manners. How thoughtless!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@JudyEv Yeah, I just think she should have let us know. It is bad manners and that is what annoyed me the most about it.
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but i hope you enjoyed dinner (with kids)..@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Apr 16
@Mgjhaud Trust me I know all about disappointment. Every year something goes wrong for our anniversary so we have never gotten to go out together and enjoy our day in the 11 years we have been married.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Sounds cool! Happy Anniversary, by the way. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@peavey Yeah we did. My husband convinced me to go out anyway, so we did. We brought the kids to dinner and went to the water and we had a good time. =)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@Lolaze Yes it did. Aw thank you. =) We went out anyway with the kids and it was nice.
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@LeaPea2417 (37377)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Apr 16
Sorry about that. Since you have extra money, maybe you all could order pizza to be delivered to your home?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@LeaPea2417 Well we brought the kids to dinner with us and to the water so it was nice anyway.
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@LeaPea2417 (37377)
• Toccoa, Georgia
25 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Glad it turned out nice with the kids.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
24 Apr 16
I am sorry to hear this, I wish your friend would have let you know way ahead of time, I hate when people do things like this.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
25 Apr 16
@Cookiemonster46 Thank you, I wwish she would have told us too. People are so disrespectful and I hate it.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
25 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies I have a unreliable friend , she will set up a lunch date with me, I wait for her to shop up and then she will say she sent an email. but it someone goes to a wrong email address, as much as she emails me, she leaves out a letter. I had to ask why didn't you just call me, or send text, why send an email. It is her way of getting out of it , when she sets it up, go figure. I never leave people hanging.
@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
24 Apr 16
I'm so sorry. You're right that she should have called you. That's just the right thing to do. But you have a good overall attitude about this. Yes, it's disappointing. However, you still have each other and that's the important part. What the two of you need to start doing right now is building up a new list of possible babysitters for the future. Begin talking to friends and just asking around to get some names of solid and reliable people. And then you'll be able to start getting out again! :)
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
24 Apr 16
@CRK109 Yes that is a good idea! I think we will ask around at church because I feel safest going that route since there are great people there. =)
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@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
25 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Sounds great! I hope it works out perfectly for you! :)
