I hate being at home alone, do you?
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
April 23, 2016 2:50pm CST
maybe it is because if I don't feel well (which is most all the time) no one is there to help or ask advice etc. maybe it is because I also get lonely. coco is my only companion most of the day and part of the night. except when the nurses come and my daughter is not just paying attention to her bf in their room or on the porch to smoke.
I wasn't like this before I got so sickly and disabled. I loved being alone. one thing for sure, if coco goes before me, I will move into assisted living for sure. as someone will always be around. like where @hatley lives.
a lot of mine is depression I think. some of the nurses stay a while and talk with me. I always feel better then. or when my daughter can talk with me without him yelling he wants something or her attention.
do you like if you are living alone?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 16
sorry about that. but some do talk with you there. right? other folks?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 yess my table mates a good friend and Ih av my best friend and my son too of course
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
24 Apr 16
I think maybe you need to consider assisted living right now if you can find a place where you and coco can go. It sounds like your daughter really doesn't have time for you and that her bf is a jerk!! Sorry if that sounds bad but I am thinking about your comfort.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
I really wish I knew how to find it. I now have a case worker so maybe if I see her again I can discuss that. most places don't allow a little dog but a very few do
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I will be praying that they can find you a good place where you can make friends and enjoy your life and not be alone unless you want to be.
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@celticeagle (168334)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 16
I don't like to be alone when I don't feel well also. I feel sort of sorry for myself. But, rather than that I like to have time to myself. I have severe depression so am that way most of the time. It does tend to get old doesn't it?
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@celticeagle (168334)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 ....And, just one more reason I am on here a lot. This helps.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
it sure does. and when you are alone and not feeling well it causes depression harder to fight I think. you are so right
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
it isn't so bad I think if you can get out and look around etc.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
I don't like it either. I don't live alone all the time. daughter is here nights but I like having more around me,
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@kaanchi (6)
• Mumbai, India
24 Apr 16
Solitude is not destitute ! I like being alone, for me its me time. My whole purpose of being in this world gets clarity when I am alone. Many times when surrounded with people I feel suffocated because then they start playing games like love and expectation which I would never like to play. People expect from you, and if you fail they may even question your very existence on earth.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
that is because you are young. I often wished for time alone when I was young, but now I just feels scared and lonely
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Apr 16
@avi256 I already know myself well. lol. just want someone else that also does
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
24 Apr 16
im sorry you feel down when youre alone. im not able to move around lately due to my leg fracture. im now living with my parents so someone can look out for me. i do prefer being alone though as long as i have everything i need in my place. it gives me peace and more time to think.
i hope you feel better soon. and take care of yourself..
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 16
that is the problem. no one here most of the time to help me with things I need
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 it does make sense. I can understand. This may be my problem when my kids are all out of the house.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
I think that is some of my lonliness problem. I raised 5 kids and had any number of other family members with kids stay at my place for long periods. plus I used to take care of some kids for months and weeks at a time while someone in the family or friends would not be able to. once my oldest daughter said I was so attached to my dog because I no longer had kids at home to care for like I do her. lol
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@piya84 (2580)
• India
27 Apr 16
Before my marriage i was very independent person.My mom used to work so i used to be alone after school.Maid used to come and go for an hour.I used to really enjoy my solitude to the point i used to get irritate on holidays because there were too many people around me all the time ,also mom used to nag a lot.After marriage first year was difficult because i was never alone.
Last time i went to live at moms house alone and there were no one.My brother came late at night from office and slept in his room.I felt so much lonely.It went to the point that sleeping at night alone was scary experience.I was not able sleep properly in big room.Its surprising how i went from some one who enjoys being alone to the point i feel depress if no one is around.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 16
exactly. the same with me. I think we are never quite happy unless we have a pleasant other a lot like us to be around and live with. I could live with just my daughter around without her bf, if she was able to be home more
@piya84 (2580)
• India
28 Apr 16
@bunnybon7
I think you have a pet.Thats help a lot.When i was at my moms home ,budgies were there to give me company.Although they cant replace human its still lot better than no one
I am not sure if it is matter of habit or effect of age that we want to people to be around us.I am bit a worried of loosing my independence.
@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
23 Apr 16
bless yer heart 'n hugs!! fer myself, i've always preferred the solitude. the more i'm alone, the more't peace i am. e'en when was so ill, i cherished the times when all left. 'course, we're all wired diff'rently 'n some folks thrive'n the presence 'f others...'n then there's folks like me.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 16
yes I know. I used to be like you. just don't know why not these days
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
@crazyhorseladycx yes it sure would. I need to fix this oxygen problem I think
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 could be medications, could be metabolic changes. search me, hon. but, their aint nothin' wrong with seekin' the company'f others - jest do what's best fer yerself, k? i sure wish ya were able to get out'n 'bout more, that'd help yer spirits fer certain.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
you are probably either quite young yet or have a large family around a lot. I miss that
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 16
@imravi that is open also I hear, right?
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@imravi (2337)
• India
24 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I am young and I live in a joint family....it's a traditional living style in india where all brothers live together....you are right..
But that doesn't effects my thoughts because I am living in hostel from last 7 years...and go home for a little time...
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
23 Apr 16
I'm so sorry that you find home alone time so hard. I personally enjoy my time alone and love it. I guess it is because I was alone for so long and can find peace in being alone. I hope that you can find a friend or someone to spend a little more time with. Maybe your daughter will wake up one day and decide that her BF is too demanding and make him leave. This could be the answer to all your problems.
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@poehere (15123)
• French Polynesia
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I'm so sorry to hear this one. I guess she feel needed when he calls all the time. I don't know or even understand why a person wants to stay with men like this in their lives. I hope it isn't because she is getting older and is afraid to be alone.
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@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
24 Apr 16
I also suffer from depression but for some strange reason, I don't mind living alone in this apartment. I see people when I go downstairs and we all say hi and can chat for a few minutes. But when I come back "home", it's just me. I keep myself so busy that most of the time I don't even notice that I'm alone.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 16
that's how I was till I got all these ailments about 10 yrs ago. I was alone and liked it. did not mind a bit. now it is different.
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@CRK109 (14556)
• United States
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I'm so sorry. My mother was like that, too, which is why I had moved back with her to care for her. Things had gotten very bad in her life. I really hope things improve for you.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 16
yes I think that is the problem.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
23 Apr 16
I enjoy living alone, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone around. It sounds as if you need more friends who will visit or call. Being lonely is really hard, especially when you're sick. At least you have the internet and myLot. We're real people. 
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
24 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I know. It's not quite the same as sharing a cup of tea, but it helps.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Apr 16
yes I know. but I like having eye contact. lol. I enjoy all my friends here.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Apr 16
actually i prefer being alone..after having so many siblings, same amount of children, now grands i always have family around which i love but do love my ME time too
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
24 Apr 16
I grew up in a big family. Then I got married and had a large family. I am too used to having people in the house with me. There were times when I was a kid if I ended up in the house alone, I heard all kinds of sounds, thought people were hiding behind doors … I thought all kinds of crazy stuff! If I'm alone and I'm sick too??! That's misery on top of misery. I definitely do not like being home alone.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 16
I was the opposite. only child so was alone a lot so when I had kids I wanted a lot and had 5. loved having people around. then enjoyed solitude for a while when they were grown. but now I am tired of it again. guess I am never happy
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@cmoneyspinner (9219)
• Austin, Texas
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 - My husband is an only child. Live alone or live with people. He can take it or leave it.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 May 16
if I have to do that probably will. but not total ready yet. been thinking on it though
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 16
sounds like what I would love to have
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@Yar_Joey (3271)
• Philippines
25 Apr 16
@bunnybon7 I live alone in my home but my family lives nearby.
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@Chellezhere (5742)
• United States
8 May 16
Yes, I actually love living alone and want to go back to doing so soon. Things were great when it was just me, and after my divorce, things were great when it was just my son and me, but I am better when there isn't another adult in the house.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 May 16
that is because you are young and well. there was a time I wish I could be alone.
