Would you allow your friend and her child to move in with you, your husband and kids, if she is getting evicted from hers?
By Wowtalk
@Wowtalk (592)
Jamaica
April 24, 2016 7:54am CST
Well I have a friend she is having problems getting her finances together, she constantly fall short on her payment to the landlord to a point that they got a court order for her evacuation. She got help from her church to pay off some of the money that was owed, but it was still not enough to cover what she had owed. She is now face with leaving, I told her I could keep her stuff and I have a mother in law who is willing to put her up but it a little distance away from her but it’s not close to her church, so she might having a little difficulty getting there, she does hair as well so her clients would probably have to change location. We live in the same area I am living with my husband and my four kids, and we are basically trying to keep our heads afloat in terms of finances. I feel like she is giving hints of moving in with me but the truth is I am a little uncomfortable, so I am left feeling like I don’t want to help, well I did refer her to my mothering law that can accommodate her more than I think I could, so why am I feeling a horrible person. Please put yourself in my shoe what would you do?
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@waflay (2737)
• Nairobi, Kenya
24 Apr 16
You are the only person that she can confine in during these hard times that she is financially down so don't turn your back on her.Don't worry what next after her moving in but as a friend you ought to help her out in this dilemma of where to start after everything has come crumbling down in her life.
@Wowtalk (592)
• Jamaica
25 Apr 16
Yea I really feel for her that's the reason I gave her the option of living with my mother in law, which my in law does not mind because all her kids are grown and she wouldn't mind the company, she could live there at least until something turn for her. I will try to assist as much as I can, moving in with me I feel that It might ruin our friendship.
@rina110383 (24492)
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24 Apr 16
If I'm in your shoe, I won't. My priority when it comes to finances will always be my family. She has to understand that. She only has herself to think of while you have a family to feed and support. She needs to learn something from this and look for ways to earn money and not just depend on people.
@MooreLoven13 (14)
• United States
24 Apr 16
She is grown! She is not your responsibility. You have enough people and problems to take care of with your family and bills. You can only help so much and I think by helping her store some of her belongings is enough. 2 families in one house is HARD. There will be differences, misunderstandings, and maybe even arguments that could end the friendship. Even if you tried to let her stay there 2 nights or a week, she may try to overstep her boundaries and not leave for a month or two. I would stick to what you are doing and try to help her in any way possible other than her moving in with you and your family. I would help her maybe sign up on living assistance, any government assistance, such as food stamps, wic, hud/section 8, etc. You can only do so much, remember you have a family that comes first and if your mother in law doesnt mind to help then send her on that way. It's not your fault or problem that she will be far from her church or clients. Things happen in life that we can't control. Best wishes to all involved!
@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
24 Apr 16
If I felt uncomfortable with her I would not want her to move in with me. You are already having financial difficulty so how would you feel if she tries to take advantage of you and your family. It would not be a good situation. If she can't handle her own finances and is being evicted how do you think she will act in your household.
