"Are you coming or what?!!!!"

Perth, Australia
April 25, 2016 5:51am CST
I have a lot of things in my house that I don't need. Some times I will donate and other times I will try to sell them. I sell things through Facebook. I am in a lot of buying & selling groups. Sometimes I will auction items off as well which is always fun. But I will tell you what isn't fun....Waiting for the person to come pick it up. I am not joking. 9 times out of 10, the person who says they will come at a certain time, either come an hour late, few hours late or not at all! Hey, I'm understanding. I know people get busy. But it would show some common courtesy if they could at least message me to tell me they will be late or can't make it! They know if they can make it or not. Or if they will be late. But I have no idea. I have been waiting for 4 hours now for some dude to come pick something up. I have not heard from him. Last I heard from him was last night when he said "I will come pick it up around 3pm." It is now 7pm. A few weeks ago I had a lady who just kept on screwing around. She gave me a certain day and time. Thursday 1pm. I waited. No show. No message. Eventually she replied. "Sorry will have to make it 4pm." I waited. No show. No message. Waited at 4pm. No show. No message. Finally she messaged. "Sorry can we make it tomorrow at 3pm." Waited the next day at 3pm. Nothing. Then she finally turned up at 8pm.... This happens constantly. Oh and I sent the dude who was meant to be here at 3pm a message asking if he is still coming. He saw the message a couple of hours ago and has not replied. I don't know what is happening but if you have enough time to check messages, surely you would have enough time to update the person who is waiting for you to come around. I really feel like giving these people a bunch of capital letters. "ARE YOU COMING OR WHAT?!"
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
25 Apr 16
Uh... Pot calling the kettle back? Anyways set the deadline ya know. State that after certain time period has passed, the item will go back to sale. That will have their butt in to gear. I dislike waiting and lack of punctuality.
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
lol whaaaaaat do you mean by that? Have I not turned up to a meeting we arranged? haha You're right. I will be more firm with these people from now on. Been way too nice with them. I'm not going to be mean, but just more firm.
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• Perth, Australia
28 Apr 16
@Daljinder lol I am actually really good when it comes to making it on time. I am the type of person who would rather be an hour early than 5 minutes late. It's so hard to be scary! Me trying to be scary is like you trying to be mean. Very rare. See I am so kind I decided to tell you something nice about you!
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
25 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 Uh... close but it's fine :) (Snort) If that ever happened that you did not turn up? You can be rest assured that I will be reacting in three ways. I am unpredictable and impulsive in such circumstances. So, which of the three reaction you will get will depend on the level of annoyance and hurt I would be feeling at the moment. Of course if the reason for you not appearing on time or at all was genuine then I will forget it like it never happened in a second too. That's just me! I have been telling you from the beginning to be firm. Take out those claws of yours, would you? I don't know what kind of vampire are you who doesn't even know how to be scary. Its very disappointing. And perplexing because there is no such thing like cute, nice and cuddly vampires. And that is what you are! I bet Charlie and Leilah are more scary than you.
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• United States
29 Apr 16
That sounds very frustrating! I would be frustrated with all of them! lol
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• Perth, Australia
29 Apr 16
Man it drives me insane. But what is shocking to me is the amount of people who do it! If it happens once or twice then I wouldn't care but SO MANY people have no common courtesy!
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• Perth, Australia
13 Aug 18
@pinkCardigangirl well I guess it's a little bit different when there are lots of other people involved like a party. Not everyone comes on time or even at the same time during a big get together.
• United States
29 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 I agree. Time is my thing. I always like to arrive early. I don't like people waiting for me. But if it's someone's birthday party, then I'm always an hour late. lol :/
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
25 Apr 16
I let people know if you don't come within an hour of when you say you will be here I will not be home. Don't wait on people anymore just let them know you have somewhere you need to be later in the day.
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@Marcyaz (35316)
• United States
28 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 Or you could say first to come gets the prize. lol lol
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• Perth, Australia
28 Apr 16
@Marcyaz That is a good idea also. I have only done that a few times. Only worked once out of the 3 lol
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
25 Apr 16
I would be telling them "It's yours until 5 pm and then I'm relisting it again"
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
25 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 Just add on the bottom "All items will be relisted for sale if the buyer does not collect at the time agreed, or negotiate an alternative collection time".
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
That's a good idea. I have been thinking of becoming more stern with my posts. Next post I put up, I will say something like that. Thank you.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
25 Apr 16
I can understand your frustration. My brother is always late when we set up a time to meet. Even when he says he needs to be on time because he has to go somewhere afterwards. Then he complains that he's going to be late for his appointment which is apparently more important than meeting me on time. One time he told me he wanted to meet early in the afternoon and we would go to lunch. I figured 12:30—1:00. He didn't show up until 5:00. Yes, he called around 1:30 and said he would be a little bit late.
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• Otis Orchards, Washington
28 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, I did say something to him but it was just like talking to a wall. Anymore if my brother says he wants to meet at a certain time I always add 30 minutes. Most of the time when I do that I get there just in time to meet him. There has been only one time that I can remember him calling me and asking where I was. That one time he was on time. Several years ago I was invited to a party. I was told it started at 7 o'clock. I got there 5 minutes after 7 and the woman said, "You're early." Surprised, I said, "It's after 7." She said, "When someone says a party starts at 7 that means it starts between 7:30 and 8." In my book, 7 o'clock means 7 o'clock.
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• Perth, Australia
28 Apr 16
@RichardMeister oh yes the good old wall talking. I know what that's like. Reason why I usually don't bother talking to some people about certain subjects because their faces and / or responses are very dull. Has your brother always been like that? Was he like that when he was a kid? HAHA! I know! I have heard that before too and it is seriously a mystery to me. Common sense to me is arriving at the time that was given to me, not half an hour or so later.
• Perth, Australia
28 Apr 16
A little late? lol! That is beyond late! Did you say anything to him when he finally showed up? One of my friends is like that. She will give me a time and will ALWAYS be 20 minutes to an hour late. I always start getting ready like picking out clothes, shower, getting dressed etc on the time she said she will be here to pick me up lol Cause I always have plenty of time to screw around before she actually arrives.
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@JudyEv (339591)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 Apr 16
This happens here too when we sell stuff through a local FB site. Some stuff we give away but it's like pulling teeth trying to get people to actually turn up and pick up the gear.
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@JudyEv (339591)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Apr 16
@VivaLaDani13 I think things come too easily to some people.
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• Perth, Australia
28 Apr 16
@JudyEv lol I know. It's insane. I don't get it. I even give them a chance to pick a time THEY are free to make it more easy for them and they are still late or don't show up.
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@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
25 Apr 16
seems like a bit stressful.. one thing i dont like is waiting haha.. is it not possible to send the package via courier? if i may ask..
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
I can but then I would need to get them to send money to my bank. Which can take a few days sometimes. Then I would also need to make a trip to the post office which makes me lose money since I have to pay for the bus / train to get there. I'd rather not waste any money. It's just easier and a lot quicker for them to grab it soon as they can.
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@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
25 Apr 16
in your case, yes meet-ups are reasonable.
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@maezee (41988)
• United States
25 Apr 16
Oh no! I have experienced the same thing with Facebook groups and Craigslist also. Its sad that you almost have to go in expecting that. I have had a lot of no shows. Its super irritating!!
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
Super irritating is correct! So many people these day just don't show common courtesy.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
25 Apr 16
Don't you think it is dangerous to let people come to your place like that?
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
I always have dad and / or my brother around. Otherwise, I will meet them elsewhere.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
25 Apr 16
It depends on what you are selling.
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• Perth, Australia
25 Apr 16
What do you mean?
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• Philippines
24 Jun 16
Oh dear. I don't like waiting. If it happens to me, you're blocked. Move on to the next buyer.
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• Perth, Australia
25 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses lol I can get like that. Rarely but I can when I've truly had enough of waiting around.