accompanied my son
to see her ex girlfriend and the lawyer
financial support of 25
both parties has custody
The agreement is done
By ida123
@ida123 (6206)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
April 29, 2016 6:00am CST
I accompanied my son to see her ex girlfriend this morning. They agreed to see each other at Jollibee and when we were there, we saw her ex girlfriend. The ex gf wanted to go to her lawyers office immediately but I told her not to because we're too hungry. We eat while we talk, they have hated agreements and thanks God, they agreed after. I told them that if possible, they're going to be friends just for the sake of their son, glad they listened to my advise.
When we were at the lawyer's office, the lawyer asked many queries about my son's salary, if how many years he was there and many more and I'm thankful that he brought his payslip with him. The lawyer told the ex gf that 50% is impossible because my son also has an insulin per week so it was reduced to 25% until their son will graduate from college and it will be deposited directly to my grandson's account. Both parties has the custody or guardianship of their child depending on their mutual agreement.
After signing the agreement, my doubts and worries are gone and am thankful to God that He enlighten the mind of my son's ex girlfriend.
To my fellow mylotters who give advise to me last night, thank you very much. It really helps a lot, you know who you are.
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20 responses
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
I'm glad that your son and the mother of his son have agreed mutually. It really pays to talk things over and it's good that the lawyer was also sensible, not too legalistic.
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@toniganzon (72532)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
Lawyers will always try to settle it out of court because of the clogged dockets. They even try to settle a criminal case. So why not a simple civil case of support?
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
@toniganzon Or have cases settled in Court-annexed Mediation :)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
you must still watch out if the girl deviates from what is agreed upon, and make sure that the money or financial benefits go to the son and not to her. will she not have a share as well?
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Apr 16
@ridingbet
I know that 25% is not enough for the child but she has her share also because she has a work, it's up to her if she won't help her son as long as my son gives him support.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
@ida123 i think you misunderstood what i meant by sharing. i hope she gives her share too for the kid's support. but there are some cunning women who say the allowance is not enough for their life with the child
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
@ida123 You're lucky to have Ms. Toni give legal advise "pro bono" hahaha!
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
4 May 16
My son brought his pay slip and showed it to the lawyer who made the agreement. I think the girl will respect their agreement and with regards to the support of their son, it's up for her if she'll misuse it, it's her own lookout now.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
30 Apr 16
That is a good news then. Yey...happy for your son.
Its just sometimes there we're girls who take advantage of the situations.
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@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
30 Apr 16
Lucky for you to get a reasonlable lawyer who understood your side of the problems too.
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@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
30 Apr 16
@ida123 Some lawyers are so very problematic, just out to fleece their clients. of their hard earned money.
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Apr 16
@karjatwala
I'm thankful to Our Heavenly Father that He send us a very good and understanding lawyer.
@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
That is just nuts, he requires insultin and this greedy ex gf wants 50% 
. Well, twenty five percent is better than more of it. Sorry I didn't get to have my say on this. Lol 
makes me think twice about having family "twice"" But Im happy for your son at least.
. Well, twenty five percent is better than more of it. Sorry I didn't get to have my say on this. Lol makes me think twice about having family "twice"" But Im happy for your son at least.1 person likes this
@Letranknight2015 (52079)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
@ida123 well, the only love i could give right now is to my family, specially to my mom and grandma. wish i never get into the situation the way your son experience now.
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
30 Apr 16
Great to know they both come up with fair agreement. Hope they will become friends for the sake of their son.
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@BenRyanLee (224)
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30 Apr 16
I really hate it when relationships don't work out. I do hope me and my fiance won't have to reach that point
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 Apr 16
she should be grateful to receive 25% than nothing at all, and make sure she spends it on their son's needs, not her personal or family's needs. other families secretly send their son away, like overseas, so she should be grateful their son knows and sees his father.
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