I'm not going to celebrate Mothers Day!
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
Perth, Australia
April 30, 2016 8:05pm CST
I guess some of you know by now that my mum died when I was 16. So obviously I don't handle occasions like Mothers Day so well.
But no matter how painful that day has been for me, I still go have lunch or dinner with my family so we can celebrate the day for my Nan and Aunty since they are mothers.
The past 2 Mothers Day, I have gone out with my boyfriends family for lunch to celebrate the day for his mum. Which is still nice for them to invite me.
But this year, I am not feeling it. I have been trying to do right by my family to spend time with them and not once have I said "I'm not coming" for that day and or any other occasion for that matter.
So I have decided, I'm not going this time. Mothers Day is on 8th of May.
Not because I want to be stubborn or cause any problems but I'm going to be sad anyway. I'd much rather have this day and this time for me. Whatever it is I decide to do, I just want to be alone.
I haven't told my family this yet but I'm sticking to my decision!
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@carebear29 (31963)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
Me either and I don't blame you. To me a holiday is another day to me.
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@carebear29 (31963)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
1 May 16
@VivaLaDani13 My mom don't talk to me
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
3 May 16
@carebear29 I'm sorry. :( I don't know what to say. I don't want to pry either. Just very sorry that's happening in your life.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 16
@carebear29 Do you mean you lost your mum too? I'm sorry if that's what you meant.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
3 May 16
@JudyEv I hope so too. Thank you for your comment. :)
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@fishtiger58 (29820)
• Momence, Illinois
1 May 16
I'm much older than your and neither my husband nor I have our mothers anymore, so we never do much on Mother's day
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 16
@fishtiger58 I'm sorry you both don't have your mums anymore.
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@annaroselock (805)
• United Kingdom
1 May 16
It's 100% your decision and that is completely understandable!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 16
@annaroselock Thank you. Hope my family is understanding about it too. My dad is completely cool with it which is good.
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@annaroselock (805)
• United Kingdom
1 May 16
@VivaLaDani13 I'm glad your dad is okay about it! 
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@aldrinlee (42)
• Chengde, China
1 May 16
you shuold be strong,everyday is a new day.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
3 May 16
Thank you for your comment. :)
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
4 May 16
@dodo19 I'm sorry you don't celebrate it either for whatever reason that is.
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@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
4 May 16
@VivaLaDani13 Well, it's not so much that we don't celebrate it. My kids and husband may get me a card or something, I'll wish a Happy Mother's Day to my mother, my mother-in-law and grandmother, but otherwise we don't do anything special. We won't have a special dinner or anything. For the most part it's just another day.
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@veganbliss (3895)
• Adelaide, Australia
9 May 16
Ah, snap... we've both lost our mums then.
Sorry about the comment in another discussion wishing yours well
Sorry about the comment in another discussion wishing yours well1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
9 May 16
I'm sorry about your mum. :(
lol no it's ok. You didn't know at the time.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 16
@rona07 I hope I can think of good memories too lol Very hard to. Thank you very much for your answer!
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
12 May 16
i am just not understand that people enjoy and celebrate this days only once in year but why not every month or daily as i saw my all friend circle that on that day they change their profile photo in all social media site with their mom and remaining day with their gf or bf,mothers are always special as they give birth you so you not forget her as you always take care of her and respect for all days only that day it will go successful....
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
13 May 16
@VivaLaDani13 yes you catch it right like some relation not have to prove that we are children of them as most of people just celebrate mothers day with mother by uploading pictures and going out like others do and in remaining day they even not ask to mother that how she is and they have no time to visit mothers home so just one day they have seen love for mother but why not all days....
True things is that they doing just for showoff as other doing same so to show world that they are caring for mother and love here but in actually not and its very bad thing as they not do what they actually do...
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
12 May 16
I see what you are saying. I think we should all appreciate who we have in our lives regardless. We don't need a holiday to be made to do so.
But I guess it's more of a money making scheme too. There are so many unnecessary days just so stores can sell items that relate to the day to make some good cash.
But really, we could all just tell our loved ones every now and then how much we love and appreciate them.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 May 16
@msiduri Thank you very much. :)
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
1 May 16
I will share my Mom with you. She will like you more than me too. Coz I am lazy right now! It's one of her birthday today. 
Anyways you, dear one, do whatever you wish on that day. Others just have to deal with it. lol And I hope you aren't one of those who fall for the guilt trip. 
Maybe you will suddenly fall ill out of the blue? 
Start planning in advance... 
Have you ever tried it btw? 
We don't celebrate Mother's Day here. We did until we were kids in school. Now it's just another day for us.
Anyways you, dear one, do whatever you wish on that day. Others just have to deal with it. lol And I hope you aren't one of those who fall for the guilt trip.
Maybe you will suddenly fall ill out of the blue? Start planning in advance... Have you ever tried it btw?
We don't celebrate Mother's Day here. We did until we were kids in school. Now it's just another day for us.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
3 May 16
lol well Happy Birthday to your mum! Even though it's a few days late.
I don't fall for guilt trips because I have been on them too many times to now realise I'm not going on one ever again. People try. I'm too much of a grouch nowadays to care.
LOL no never. I've thought about that but never go through with it. It's just another form of lying anyway. And by doing that I'm not expressing how I really feel which means no one has learned anything.
I used to do that with school a lot though. But pffffft. Who cares lol
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