Forgotten because of money
By zaga_cleuth
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
Philippines
May 4, 2016 4:30am CST
I've lost a lot of friends (if they really are) just because of money. I hate lending money to friends however, I hate seeing them in deep need also. Some of them I considered as my real best buddy then just because of money they already forgotten me.
I don't know, but the feeling is really painful. After trusting them with a lot of things, I'll only find out that they can't be trusted with money.
Do you have friends like that too?
I will not change though, they fooled themselves and not me.
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@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
Yes. Because I have also that friend who can't even sleep at night without messaging me that she will return the money she borrowed so that our friendship will not be at stake. Ending is, she was able to finish paying me and we are still best friends.
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@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
@imravi Yes. I guess they are the real friends we can really count on.
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@imravi (2337)
• India
4 May 16
@zaga_cleuth That's very nice....well I too have that friends whom I can trust blindly...... (I know it's a cliched one)....
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
4 May 16
I also lend money to friends but when you're there for them in the bad times, they don't always want you around in the good times.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
I feel that too. I feel left alone after helping them. Although, I'm trying to program my mind that maybe they are just ashamed because they can't pay me.
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@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
@boiboing I wish they are sensitive as I am too. Sometimes people I help too are insensitive to the point that when they paid me the amount I lend them, they bragged about it and their heads and feet are above the ground. Instead of being humble that someone helped them during their hard times. That really pissed me.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
4 May 16
@zaga_cleuth - always keep good records of what repayments you've had. I've been too casual and lost money when friends forgot what they'd paid or chose to forget. I'm also disappointed that nobody ever sent me a card to say thank you or got me a small gift for helping them out. I know I would do at least that if somebody did me a big favour.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 May 16
Well, it's their fault of ruining the friendship . They don't know how to keep the friendship , unaffected by money issues. 
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
5 May 16
@zaga_cleuth That's a practical way indeed to test them . Or pretend that you need their help also .
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
Maybe I could conclude that the best way to know who my really friends are is by lending them money when they are in need. lols
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@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
I'm glad that I helped them but after the ended friendship it feels the other way around.
@rona07 (1641)
• Philippines
4 May 16
@zaga_cleuth im sorrym well maybe youll bump to.more new truthful friends. Just dont lend much. If you must, then try to know what its for and whem are they gonna pay.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
True. Actually people who are close to us are sometimes the ones who can't be trusted with money. Because they think that there is a string that will still connect us.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
I hope I can say YES! with pure CONFIDENCE.
It's really hard. You know what's ironic is, I have a friend who keeps on telling me not to lend money to my other friends because they end up not paying me or paid me but broken friendship; asked me for money because he was really in a tough times. I lend him money and for a almost a year now, I don't hear anything about him paying me or ask how am i. Just sad.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
4 May 16
Money is such a thing can destroy relationship and friendship. It is hard to believe when people are so nice at the time of lending then turned just opposite after that. However, I do not lend money to any one as my hubby deals money matters at home. But sadly he had enough bad experiences. Still he do not learn anything.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
Same thing with me. I experienced that many times, but still can't help myself from lending money to people I think are in need. I want to be as tough like others but my conscience tells me not to.
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@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
4 May 16
Nope. I don't want to. Though sometimes i feel like I wanted to lend money with interest. But it sounds bad as a friend. Neither ways feel good at all. Lending money with interest will still be the same as lending money without interest, if the person has no interest in paying.
@rina110383 (24492)
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4 May 16
It never happened to me. I don't lend money. For me, money is a deal breaker in any relationship (including families and friendship). I never borrowed money from anyone. Hence, no one can expect me to lend even a penny.
