My parents don't accept him
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
May 4, 2016 2:21pm CST
this brings a terrible pain to my hear. we've been together for more than a year now and their reaction surprised me because they seemed to be ok with our relationship. but the last time when we met they made me understand that they don't think he deserves me.I don'tknow how to handle this situation
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 May 16
Handle what situation? If you like or love him that is all that matters! My parents don't care for my husband-but you know what? He is a wonderful man and I love him so that's what is important. We have been together 12 years-married for 11 years. Other people's thoughts and opinions are just that. If you think he treats you good and cares about you-why should anyone else have a say in your relationship? It is yours and your life after all.
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 16
yes I know you're right but there are moments when it makes me wonder why everyone sees him as the wrong person for me
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
4 May 16
if you are talking about your significant other, parents often feel this way
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jun 16
its not unusual. most everyone goes through that. it will pass just hang on.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 Jun 16
i hope so. and i still hope that oen day if we are going to be together...they will have a normal relationship
@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
4 May 16
Could you explain with more detail, so we may discuss this issue. Is he poor or rich? Is he older or younger than you? Is he a professional or he doesn't have a permanent job?
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 16
I guess he doesn't meet my parents expectations. I have a better financial situation than him. it's not that he's poor or something but anyway.... he works.
it's just that he's not the person my parents would have seen me dating
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
8 May 16
@swissheart Sometimes, parents don´t seem to accept someone in the family, when that someone is from another background. Most of the times, they can see that by the way he/she conducts themselves in a social situation; for example, while eating on the table, talking about any kind of topic, or the way he treats you.
I had a cousin who got married to a man who was from a different background than her, even though, her father opposed to that relationship from the start, she got married to him. They lived in a small apt, very different to what she was accustomed; however, they lived happily.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
13 May 16
@quantum2020 the fact is that he has potential and he loves and respects me. this is what should matter
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
4 May 16
So sorry to hear that, do you know why they dont approve of him? Are they old fashioned? Is it cause of his race or religion?
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@Sweetsona (300)
• India
4 May 16
Parents are possesive.. Dey bring us up, and find us the best kids.. So they think that everyone is inferior to us.. Daughters are extra special for them, they will accept him with time..
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 16
I hope so. I would be jumping of joy if we could actually be a family
@Serena_1 (186)
• Shenzhen, China
10 May 16
@swissheart YEAH!! Don't worry. They will accept him like my parents did. Parents love their daughters.
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
5 May 16
There is nothing to handle. If that is their opinion of him. There is nothing you can do to change it. If you choose to be with him, than do so because you want to. Not because you parents approve or not. In time, they may later end up accepting him.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 16
it's not that I would choose to be with him or not according to what my parents say. it's just that I wish they would accept him as part of our family. it brings terrible pain to my heart to know that his parents treat me as their child while mine see him almost like an enemy
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
8 May 16
But it would still be you who would be with your partner , not them .
@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
21 Oct 16
You are an adult and if you are happy, it is not your parent's place to be telling you who to be with. I think yo should just let them know you are happy and that they are hurting you with their attitude.
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
4 May 16
If you know that your partner is who you want then stand strong on your decision. You are an adult. Tell your parents what you want and ask them to respect your decision. Tell them even if it is a mistake it is your mistake to make. Your decision. It's you who is going to live your life. Not them.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 May 16
they respect my decision. they told me is strictly my business but they don't approve
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