Advice!
By Heather
@Sparklesnthings (58)
May 6, 2016 2:28am CST
So I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and we have a 4 month old baby. We have known each other since we were born, our moms have been bestfriends since they were 8. We have always liked each other but finally decided to do something about it and here we are. We have an adorable baby boy and I couldn't be more thrilled. Here lies my problem. He originally got with me right after breaking up with the girl he was dating for four years, and afterwards told me that he wasn't over her. We decided to continue dating while he got over her because she treated him like complete garbage. Fast forward a few months and I'm pregnant. He freaked out at first, wanted an abortion but I didn't. He got over himself and fell in love with our baby at the first ultrasound. Fast forward to the day I gave birth, he was there, watched me do it with absolutely no pain meds, it was hell. He's been the best father I could imagine. He pays for everything he needs so that I don't have to work, just spend time with my little bundle, he wakes up for nighttime bottles and love love loves our son. But I'm starting to feel like the fact that I got pregnant and his mom and my mom being best friends is pushing him to be with me. He doesn't text as much, he just seems a little off. Granted, he's been working more now that I am not to support us, and I have talked to him and he swears he's just bad at communicating. But at the beggining it wasn't like this. I hope all is well, I love my little family more than anything. I try to be the best woman I can for him and best mother to our child, I just hope he's happy. Any advice?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
6 May 16
Now he has a lot more on his plate to worry about and he's dealing with a lot more. He's probably trying to figure out how to be a father and good to you at the same time. It doesn't come naturally to the guys like it does for us women. Let him adjust to the new things going on and I am sure things will be okay. I have been there with my husband and it took a little while for him to settle down with a new baby. =)
Plus he is probably exhausted and a little stressed-I know when my husband gets either way he shuts down a little bit.
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@Adilzargar (399)
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6 May 16
i think you should give it some more time.. new things happen in life and sometimes we are just excited but then coping with new thing can really stress you out.. time is the best healer.. we all need time to prepare our minds, sometime it takes longer time.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
6 May 16
Good thing to hear that coming from a guy.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
6 May 16
@Adilzargar that is right..I believe in that too
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@Adilzargar (399)
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6 May 16
@jndlponti in life we act according to our experiences, and then there are times when we act / respond keeping in mind our relations. i think priorities change but the best decision is always the one that is made on humanitarian ground.
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@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
6 May 16
I think men are not really too vocal when it comes to their feelings. My boyfriend is not chatty with me and when I keep quiet for a long time, he will ask me question like why I am not chatty. 
I think you just have to understand him.
I think you just have to understand him.2 people like this
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
7 May 16
@Sparklesnthings I hope that everything will be okay with your relationship soon.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
6 May 16
Speechless.. it's like I've picture him a bit more how my husband acts.. I don't know what to say for I myself couldn't find the answer to that and still hoping to find one.
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@Sparklesnthings (58)
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6 May 16
Keep posted on this discussion then! Hopefully a few people can help us out!!
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
6 May 16
But my husband never got any affairs to anyone ever since we got married..and we've been married now for eaght years after we we're dating for 6 years.
@sabashekh (1218)
• Bhopal, India
6 May 16
Give it some ... Things will get better . he will surely understand :)
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@sabashekh (1218)
• Bhopal, India
7 May 16
@Sparklesnthings for sure ... Time will take its toll
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i, too, would want the same thing. i want my partner to be happy.
if he told you that hes not good at talking specially your current status, lets leave it at that.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 May 16
He has already told you he's just bad at communicating. Let's just believe him and be happy with your family. let's just believe that he's happy with you and your son.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
7 May 16
Let me ask you this, does he talk about the future, does he talk about getting married and how old are the 2 of you? Even though you have known each other forever, you haven't been a couple forever and you did get together on the rebound and then an unexpected pregnancy. These are all very serious things and he probably feels a little trapped and in over his head. The two of you should talk to someone, your pastor or a counselor. Making a relationship work is never easy and addressing this early is the best thing to do.
@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
6 May 16
sadly, i've no advice fer ya. could'a lent'cha my 2 cents when y'all first got together, but e'en that would've no doubt fallen'n deaf ears. perhaps he's jest o'erwhelmed with all the responsiblities 'n needs to work that out fer himself.
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@trivia79 (7828)
• El Segundo, California
7 May 16
communication is a very big factor in any relationship to lasts.....
