I've Been Away Too Long

@p1kef1sh (45681)
May 7, 2016 3:31pm CST
Now let's be honest, I am not the most assiduous myLot contributor although there was a time in the dim dark past when I was here every day and night. Anyway, I've just spent the most ghastly long weekend in New York City. This is not an observation on New York, but what happened there. On our first night, just six hours after arrival, my wife had three consecutive epileptic fits, the last of which ran on for over thirty minutes and nearly killed her. Naturally I called for the ambulance and for the next five and a half days she lay in hospital in a medically induced coma. So that was the end of our long weekend. She lingered on in hospital for another six days before being discharged to our new hotel. I say 'new' because' by now our insurers had got involved and as an act of goodwill I had moved out of the $550 a night Five Star hotel into a more modest, although actually just as comfortable, three star one closer to the hospital. In the meantime our insurers did everything that they could to make me and then we, feel as uncomfortable as we could. They showed us no empathy or compassion, they had no sense of urgency and only contacted us if they wanted something and ignored my calls and e mails entirely most of the time. Eventually they arranged for us to go home, with a doctor as an escort for my wife. Even here they got their pound of flesh as they demanded that I underwrite the whole cost of their expenses should the underwriters of the insurance decide not to pay. Anyway, we are home in England again and never have I been so happy to be home. Our five day long weekend actually took twenty one days! Our first battle is over, now we have to see what the insurers will deign to fund; I feel that the war is a long way from being won. Nice to be back.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
7 May 16
Don't get me started on insurance companies. That would be a week long rant all by itself. However, I do want to ask how your wife is feeling now? I'm afraid that my memory is not so good so if you had talked about your wife's health issues on the old mylot I can't remember. I'm guessing you came to New York for a nice little vacation. It is a shame that it turned out the way it did. And a pox on the insurance companies for making things more difficult. Shame on them.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 May 16
She's getting stronger thank you. All my American friends live hundreds of miles away from NYC so it was all pretty lonely for us. We are just happy to be home.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
7 May 16
@p1kef1sh I'll bet you are. I hate to be sick away from home as well. For that matter I hate to be sick period, but to be sick in a strange place where you don't know anyone has to really make it worse.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 May 16
@savak03 The whole experience was a total nightmare. The first night the doctors didn't think that my wife would survive - that just added to the strain.
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@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
7 May 16
What a nightmare.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 May 16
Indeed it was and is.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 May 16
@boiboing Yes, for about 8 years.
@boiboing (13153)
• Northampton, England
7 May 16
@p1kef1sh Did your wife have a previous history of fits?
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
8 May 16
Welcome back! Like several of your FB friends, I haveto been following you and the Boss' progress and wishing that I could have done something to help. I'm very glad that she's recovered and that you finally managed to persuade them to get you home. Your experience makes me very, very unwilling to take a trip abroad any more. My age and medical history would make it uneconomic to buy insurance, even if I accepted a waiver on certain conditions. I hope that you will eventually come to a satisfactory conclusion with the insurers but it does make me feel that it should be possible to take out insurance to compensate one for all the hassle one has to endure in dealing with insurance companies!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 May 16
I share your views. I am just so very pleased that we declared our pre-existing conditions; according to the Dr who escorted us home many don't in the hope of a lower premium, and that really ties them up in knots with the insurers.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
7 May 16
I think insurance companies choose to forget the reason for their existence a lot of the time. What I can't get over is that when you need an insurance co to help you , it's people making the decisions. It's a person making life worse for you. It's quite appalling how easily their behaviour can make a bad situation worse. Hope wifey is on the road to recovery and that your circumstances have improved immensely.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 May 16
@p1kef1sh I'm pretty sure I can guess...something about not knowing their fathers perhaps?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
9 May 16
@MsTickle Something like that!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 May 16
I have words for what I think of the insurers, but won't use them here!!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
7 May 16
It's a bummer being ill, but doubly so when you are away from home. I hope your wife is fully recovered now, and that the insurers pay up.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 May 16
Thank you, I hope so too.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
8 May 16
That sounds terrible, Glad your wife is okay but I can imagine what a hard time it was. And working with insurance is no picnic either. Hopefully you wont have such a bad experience again.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 May 16
Thank you. Right now I'm not certain that there will be a next time!
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 May 16
I am so sorry for all that you both went through. =( I really hope things get better soon.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 May 16
Thank you very much. It's an expensive business being sick in the USA.
@JudyEv (339930)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Jun 16
I am so sorry to hear this. For some reason I wasn't 'following' you so I've missed many of your posts. Hope your wife is much improved now. Maybe I'll discover more as I catch up.
@NJChicaa (119610)
• United States
7 May 16
What a horrific experience. I hope your wife is okay now.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 May 16
She's doing much better thanks.
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