Drifting Apart

@MEAngle (237)
May 11, 2016 5:51pm CST
Over the past few years, I have found it more and more difficult to trust my mother. She is one that talks a lot and spreads information like water flowing from a sink faucet, and she is the type of person that doesn't take to heart secrecy or even confidentiality. That says a lot when I as her daughter am saying this. I had thought that it was just a phase, and things would go back to normal. But the arguments are becoming more frequent, and the stress is building up. I feel as if I am an argument away from saying something that I might regret. The issue for me is that I have no place to go if it comes down to me being kicked out. Not to mention that once I leave, she works to basically exile me from the family. That means cutting off all connections with family on her side, such as my sisters and even nieces. I don't know what to do. Suggestions?
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@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
12 May 16
sometimes, the more you try to understand difficult people who keeps on pushing you to the edge, the more you just want to get/stay away and say nothing anymore. i find it not healthy to live with a person like that. if you feel that you can stand on your own, its better for you to be independent.
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@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
12 May 16
let things cool down a bit.
@MEAngle (237)
12 May 16
So I shouldn't keep trying?
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@TheHorse (218868)
• Walnut Creek, California
14 May 16
Have you have a heart to heart talk with her about intimacy and respect/confidentiality?
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@MEAngle (237)
14 May 16
Actually, no. I haven't gotten up the courage to go to her for much after she lost my trust.
@marguicha (223021)
• Chile
11 May 16
How old is she? Some people (a lot I´d say) start with those problems when they get older. It is not their fault.
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@MEAngle (237)
12 May 16
Middle aged. 40s.
@Teep11 (7673)
• United States
14 May 16
Sometimes it simply can't be fixed unless your mom and others want the situation resolved. Sometimes space is needed so that there's an understanding.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
12 May 16
I don't see how she could make the rest of the family cut themselves off from you if you do leave. You and your sisters are presumably all adults who can make your own decisions?
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@MEAngle (237)
12 May 16
The family dynamic is complicated.
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@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
12 May 16
I really hope you can work something out,im not close to my family and it`s not easy, nomatter how many friends you have, it`s not the same,.Come festive seasons or birthdays, you`ll be very lonely
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@kevin1877uk (36988)
11 May 16
It sounds to me you are better out and gone from there, like you say once you leave you'll be basically exiled. I know that sounds sad.
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@Missmwngi (12915)
• Nairobi, Kenya
14 May 16
You can try and work on your relationship There are two sides of the story and so no one is perfect. Get the centre point for you two