my mother and i can not get along
@jackiehammack11 (1)
May 18, 2016 8:46am CST
my mother and i can not get along because we sometimes fight but most of it is her fault and she well not shut up i try to tell her how i feel but all she says is i am fussing and arguing and being mean and i do not shut up and i can not defend myself because she will start hitting me and then says you are going to be sorry and then i get into it with my stepdad and he has to spy on me with a camera and then if i am acting bad he diconnects my internet takes my laptop and then trys to hit me i can not take this anymore i can not move out because if i do my mother will kill herself like she tried to do before i can not stand this anymore she has been nothing but mean and rude and crazy she is 62 years old and my stepdad is 51 years old they are too old to take care of me i am 35 years old i have very bad problems they make it worse my mom tells my stepdad everything and he has to take my stuff away i can not win
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
22 May 16
I agree with @Lolaze . There is no reason you should have to continue living your life like this. Your mom needs help and your stepdad apparently does too if he goes along with it. You need to ask for help and get out of there . And I am sorry to say it is not your fault if your mom tries to make you feelbad for her harming herself it is her own darn fault
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@Lolaze (5093)
• St. Louis, Missouri
19 May 16
If you are being hit you need to call 911. It sounds like you have some issues which make you unable to live on your own? There are social workers and case managers who can work with you to be more independent and live in a different place. If you go to your local social services office they can help you, or someone will help you when you call the police next time you are hit. You can press charges for domestic violence and get help.
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@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
18 May 16
I'm sorry, but at 35 yrs old, you should have left home a long time ago. I'm sorry that your mother took it so hard before, but you aren't to blame for what she did. She is the only person in control of what she does, I hear people blaming themselves all the time for what someone else did, and that just isn't so, we control what we do and others control what they do. It isn't ok for people to hit you, regardless if it's your mother or not. I would have a sit down and explain that you're moving out and set a date. Be positive, encourage your mom to share her feelings and not keep things bottled up, but I would hold strong to the date that I set. I wish you good luck in your future.
@pufitzamison (626)
• Romania
18 May 16
That is so sad but must be a way. Why do you say you have bad problems? Are you seeck? Maybe ypure mother must see a doctor, maybe she have psyhycal problems. You have 35 years youre not a baby anymore. She can not hit you. You are like a prizonier there and that is not good for you...you must follow youre life. Don't you have friends to help you? Other relatives?
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
18 May 16
It's time to get out. Period! There is no excuse for her behavior and you don't have to put up with it @jackiehammack11 . There is no reason for her to treat you like a 10-year-old.
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@aninditasen (16337)
• Raurkela, India
18 May 16
Try to be indifferent when she starts shouting, but be firm with your stepfather. Make it clear that you are an adult and he has no right to spoil your day or things.
Or else get stay separately and try to visit her often. Take a job out of town where you are staying now.
Or take her to a psychiatrist or a family counselor.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 May 16
It is unfortunate that you have issues with your mother. Do you have some health problems that makes you dependent on her? Because the most practical option would be to move out and be independent. Once you move away automatically your relationship with her will improve.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 May 16
You are 35 years old and still live at home with your mother? You need your own place! Your grown so he doesn't need to touch anything of yours. And you just need a place of your own seriously.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
18 May 16
its hard but life must always be understanding
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