Would you cohabit with your bf?
By Mysteria
@Mysteria (209)
Philippines
May 25, 2016 6:49pm CST
I'm in a relationship for one year now, its really hard because my bf have a different nationality, background, culture and upbringings. He believes that cohabiting is the first step to prove that you love a certain individual, but i dont see it like that. To me it sounds like taking an advantage to a woman. He believes that people might see I'm interested for a visa so i'm after getting married than cohabiting with him. It doesnt sound so fair to me since it wasnt the reason why i got into a relationship to a foreign man. I wouldnt remove that thought since there are tons of filipina women who are really after getting papers but it is kinda offensive and hurtful if we will generalize that everyone is like that. I dont have an idea if anyone of you had or have an experience like this, and would you consider cohabiting because of their culture or you will stick with yours and what will be the best thing to do to encourage a person to get married rather than to just cohabit?
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@Mariquh (91)
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27 May 16
its the new generation and people are involving themselves in activities which our culture does not approve of and also our morals. But its really up to you, your ideals and how you were brought up, for me its not an answer to cohabit, it may seem ok for them but to us its a different story and its not fair for a woman to be treated as such.
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@Mysteria (209)
• Philippines
26 May 16
@sunrisefan that is what really scares me atm because i felt like everything is one-sided. he also belong to a rich family and because of that he always think differently,He thinks that alot of foreigners are stupid for giving so much to their gf, and because of that he is quite calculative.He also heard so much about Filipina women that they are after visa and because of that he is thinking that is what im after so i want to get married. really sad.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
26 May 16
@Mysteria Just a personal opinion - you'll be on the losing end if any or both of you realized that you're not really meant for each other. Good for him but definitely not for you. That's just my opinion - you have the final say. You're the one in the relationship.
