Where Are Kids Manners?

@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@Hatley that is very true. With the so- called abuse laws no days people are afraid to correct their kids too but you can do it within the law.

@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

10 Jun 16

@coffeebreakwhatever Exactly, mine misbehaves and she starts losing privilages and has to earn them back. Like I told her electronics are not necessities you can live without them, therefore you do wrong you lose them, to get them back you will earn them back. I did not have all that junk growing up and I'm still here proving you can live without them. A lot of people think the only way to correct is spanking. Well that is fine if it is done correctly and no other option works for the child because I know some children taking things is no big deal to them and sometimes that maybe a way to get there attention that they done wrong but there is a difference between spanking and beating and people need to know the difference but some think to even tap a child's bottom is illegal. I had my butt spanked as a child and I am still living and it taught me not to misbehave.

ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

6 Jun 16

When I encounter a child who is respectful and has manners I actually go into shock. I will compliment the parent for raising such good mannered children. I remember running into a woman who was one of the substitute teachers I often called to do subbing for the schools. She had her 2 youngest children with her in a store shopping for clothes. Her daughter, who was about 6 came up to her mother and shouted something to her. She said just a minute I am talking to this lady. The kid kicked me in the shin. She kicked me so hard it brought tears to my eyes. The mother apologized for the child's behavior, blamed it on her father. Um, what?

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ElusiveButterfly

@ElusiveButterfly (45940)

• United States

6 Jun 16

@melissa1024 I couldn't have even imagined my children ever doing such a thing.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

6 Jun 16

@ElusiveButterfly If my child would have ever done that she would be in some serious trouble. I do not put up with rude kids.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

7 Jun 16

@ElusiveButterfly To be honest I couldn't imagine mine doing it either but if she'd try something like she'd be in some deep trouble.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (69909)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

1 Jun 16

It's all to common of a problem that exists just about everywhere now a days. Parents don't know how to, or are afraid to parent because of what's considered 'abuse'. If that's not enough, kids are raised in the digital age, where the inteernet television and social meida are how they connect anymore. Parents rarely parent. You can teach your child respect, and still follow the law. It's all a matter of finding the right balance.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@kaylachan Exactly. The computer and internet have become babysitters. Parents are afraid to parent because of what's considered abuse. As you said you can teach them and still follow the law. Some just don't want too.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (69909)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

1 Jun 16

@melissa1024 All it takes is a little research and actually spending time with your children. Its true, people have to work hard to put food on the table, but when you actually have time to spend with your kids, spend it with them. Teach them right and wrong. Don't expect social media and schools to do it.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@kaylachan Exactly, I worked outside the home until 2 years ago when I became ill and couldn't work, now I work online all the time but I make sure I spend time with mine. She knows right from wrong and she knows if she does wrong she is in trouble when I find out about it and I will.

hereandthere

@hereandthere (45645)

• Philippines

1 Jun 16

i can't help looking when i see things like that and, ironically, the parent would say, look, you made that lady mad so you better behave now. yeah, right.

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hereandthere

@hereandthere (45645)

• Philippines

1 Jun 16

@melissa1024 exactly. it's like did i really see and hear that?

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@hereandthere Yeah tell me about it.

@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@hereandthere Exactly. That's no way to get the child to behave. The parents need to teach them right from wrong. People are looking not because they are mad but because they are in awe that the parent is letting the child do those things.

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Claudia Kirkland

@CRK109 (14556)

• United States

2 Jun 16

My husband and his friends were all raised in Texas where you call people Sir and Ma'am and you always have respect for your elders. I love how they teach children there. It's a huge difference from all the disrespect kids show others around here. It's terrible!

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Claudia Kirkland

@CRK109 (14556)

• United States

2 Jun 16

@melissa1024 I keep hoping things will turn around. We're seeing how violent this generation can be and I'd like to think that the next generation will want something completely different.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

3 Jun 16

@CRK109 Lord, I hope so

@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

2 Jun 16

@CRK109 I'm from West Virginia and that's how I was raised. It is also how my child is being raised. I can't stand rude and disrespectful children and anymore everywhere you go that's all you see. It is a shame. I hate to see how it is by the time I have grandkids.

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Katlynn

@Katlynn (366)

• United States

10 Jul 16

I know what you mean. I see a lot of spoiled and undisciplined children these days. Parents need to set a good example for children to follow. On a brighter side, I had a teenage boy come to my home yesterday and ask if we had power after the bad storm or if there was anything he could do to help if we had any damage. That helped regain my faith in today's youth (and parenting).

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Katlynn

@Katlynn (366)

• United States

10 Jul 16

@melissa1024 I know the type you are speaking of. I remember when my children were growing up, there were some very young children who roamed the streets unsupervised. One little girl came to my house and said she was hungry and thirsty and her parents had the door locked so she couldn't get in. I cannot imagine doing like that as a parent!

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

11 Jul 16

@Katlynn I couldn't do that to my child and I want to know what she is doing and where she is they have to have supervision. I'd be afraid to leave mine out alone because I'm afraid she'll be picked up by someone.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

10 Jul 16

@Katylynn Yes, that was definately different. in my neighborhood my daughter is the respectable one and the one with manners. the others are little hellcats with no supervision. I am always outside with mine and I know where she is, their parents are in the house with the door closed and have no idea where they are and what their doing.

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RK Finnell

@irishidid (8687)

• United States

1 Jun 16

We went out a lot when I was small (my mom was a horrible cook LOL) and learned manners at a very young age. My kids never acted the way I see kids act because I would not tolerate it. If more parents taught them how to act there wouldn't be any of them running loose in restaurants disturbing others.

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@melissa1024 (2456)

• Beckley, West Virginia

1 Jun 16

@irishidid Exactly. I never acted that way and mine knows better. It is not only resturants, I have seen them running through stores too, and telling people to move, get out of their way.

paigea

@paigea (36317)

• Canada

10 Jun 16

I meet a lot of rude and disrespectful adults. I think that is the problem. Adults should demonstrate a higher standard of behaviour than we expect from kids.