Things I Look For in A Man

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I'm a single girl, but I have dated some in the past, and from these experiences I have learned what I want in my next relationship, and what I DON'T want. Here are a few of the things I have learned that I do want, based on my most recent failed relationship. 1. A man who listens to me, not someone who hears what he wants, then uses it to try to change me into his ideal woman. 2. A man who cares about what I want. If I want a day to focus on the friendship part instead of the physical part, I should get it. If I want to spend all night talking instead of having sex, so be it! 3. A man who keeps his plans. If he makes plans with me, he keeps them. He doesn't cancel unless for something really important (his kids need him, or his house is on fire). 4. A man who doesn't try to control me. The last conversation I had with him involved my saying something not quite nice, but in response to his acting like a butt. He has since not said anything to me, I can only imagine in order to get me to finally give up and text to apologize. Which I refuse to do, because I wasn't in the wrong. I understand sometimes an apology is better than a fight, regardless of who was right, but I will NOT be the only one always apologizing for crap I didn't do. 5. When people ask me how we're doing, I want to be able to say, "We're doing GREAT!" and not be lying. 6. I want a man I don't have to make excuses for. When asked, "Why don't you see him much?" Instead of answering, "I don't really know but I know he's been working a lot." I want to answer, "He's working, but that's ok because he's coming to see me later," or, "He'll be here in 5 minutes. He couldn't wait to see me." I'm tired of being the weakling who never gets what she wants in a relationship. I tried the being single thing, until God brought to me who he wanted me to have. I sincerely thought this guy was him, because God told me so. But then this guy turned into someone I don't even know. He's not the guy he was when God told me, "Trust me. He's it." So I'm back in the dating pool again, but I'm not settling. I will be a single mom with a baby from the sperm bank before I will settle.