Sometimes helping others is not good

Philippines
June 11, 2016 1:49am CST
I feel upset. I just learned that the person i'm helping is not grateful. She say bad things about me behind my back. I've decided to stop helping her because i was really hurt. After all those help i've given her this is what i get? When i gave help i didnt ask something in return. Not even a thank you. I just cant believe that i'm the bad one after all the help i did. Maybe helping others is not a good idea. They can't appreciate it.
7 people like this
10 responses
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 16
Depending on how bad is that person to deserve such help. I despise people like that.
2 people like this
@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 16
@Micah04 Oh sorry. I never know it's your sister. Well, you should help her because she's your sister. But she should be thankful help comes to her.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Even if i dont want to help her i think i should help here. She's my sister. I feel guilty if i dont help her especially financial help.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
@JustBhem thanks for the advice.
1 person likes this
• Preston, England
11 Jun 16
some people can be really ungrateful for our help - I'd avoid helping her for a while if it causes you problems too
2 people like this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it
2 people like this
@vandana7 (100193)
• India
13 Jun 16
Tell me about it..expectations multiply to an enormous level..that it almost sounds weird. I have been through some recently.
1 person likes this
@Chungshop (2355)
11 Jun 16
When you help some one you must not expect anything from him. If not it is not just help, help become a condition or agreement already. Help have no condition or return rewards. No matter how he say or treat you, is not your problem. It is the person problem and she will got punished that we never know. Give a hand to anyone you pass by though he is a stranger.
2 people like this
@Chungshop (2355)
13 Jun 16
@Micah04 Give a hand , help with no reason. Who know 1 day, you need help too.
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Thank you for the advice. You have a point.
2 people like this
@marlina (154131)
• Canada
11 Jun 16
Just break the bond between you and that person.
2 people like this
@vandana7 (100193)
• India
13 Jun 16
@Micah04 ..If she is older sister, learn to brush it off and never be there..doesn't matter because if she is exploiting, she is...and she knows. Outsiders may not realize it, but insiders know when they are doing that and are enjoying your hesitation because they know your confusion.
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Thanks for the advice. I really wanted to but its hard because she's my older sister. ??
1 person likes this
@Ianist (278)
• Indonesia
11 Jun 16
Don't think like that. She's not worth that much. Don't let someone like her to change your opinion about other people.
1 person likes this
@Ianist (278)
• Indonesia
11 Jun 16
@Micah04 if you don't think you can help just anyone, at least help the people that are worth your help
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Maybe you are right. I should not stop helping to anyone no matter what or how they treat me.
1 person likes this
@tzwrites (4835)
• Romania
11 Jun 16
Some people are very ungrateful and don't deserve help.
2 people like this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
You're right. Even if your intention is pure they still say something bad about you.
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Yeah! There were people really don't appreaciate good things you made to them. I just thank God because i haven't experienced this. People i've met were good and appreciate things.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Lucky you. I really wanted to just cut the bond between us and just stay away but its hard because shes my sister..thats the saddest part
1 person likes this
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
@Micah04 oh! Sad to hear that. Not really easy because she's your sister. Hope everything will be going fine someday.
1 person likes this
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
11 Jun 16
You should have a talk with your sister and make your feelings on the matter clear. Cutting her off isn't easy so just maintain a healthy distance until she realizes her folly.
1 person likes this
@miniam (9154)
• Bern, Switzerland
11 Jun 16
Help and dont expect anything in return not even disappointment then you`ll be ok with whatever comes out of it.
@bsameep (190)
11 Jun 16
Maybe you help street animals will give better results.
• Philippines
11 Jun 16
Well, maybe. Lol