Why is going to the doctor easy, but going to a counselor not?
By Jekca
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
Centralia, Missouri
June 12, 2016 7:04pm CST
Why is going to the doctor easy, but going to a counselor not? Why should the second be anything more than getting pills when one has an infection? But it is. I could go to the doctor tomorrow, and grumble, but I'd go.
Facing what I have known for some time, that I need help to be a better me, to be a happier, less messed up me, and doing something about it...I find much harder.
Well I did step one, I found a place that I am going to call tomorrow. See if insurance will help pay, or if I can afford. But I gotta make that call....
On note that fits my mood at the moment, I offer you the following, this girl has some talent.
https://youtu.be/eNxO9MpQ2vA
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
thanks for the words, my head knows this,but my heart is terrified, if that makes sense
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt yes it does asI was too and my hubby toild methere waS NO shame in go ing to a mental healthj clinioc i was moit crazy just had anxiety attacks and needed help
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
@Hatley Maybe I'm the one that's ashamed, I don't care that you all know. I have no friends here to care, so that leaves..... me
@sofssu (23662)
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16 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt But if it is the only way to come out of what you are in at the moment it will be worth it.. won't it?
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
16 Jun 16
@sofssu yes and a good point
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
16 Jun 16
it's like by admitting things are all wrong, it will make them real. Which scares me. I dont want them to be real.
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
13 Jun 16
people confuse psychology and psychiatry, assuming that any need for advice or counselling implies mental illness - it's not the case at all though
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
you know, you have a very good point.
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@Lolaze (5093)
• St. Louis, Missouri
13 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt It's hard to start with but once you get to know the counselor it's easier. I have some pretty big issues and have seen my psychologist now for 3 years - I love meeting with her because it helps a lot.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
I am hoping by speaking of it here, I will actually follow through, when all I want is to stick my head in the sand.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
@Lolaze it gets easier going? I just feel.... less than for some reason. But I am tired of the crap in my head, and tired of it spilling out onto hubby
@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
sometimes maybe that's easier, they dont know you, you dont know them, so nothing will be held against you etc
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Jun 16
@Jessicalynnt I didn't word my comment very well. It would be easier opening up to a stranger than a family member probably but not easy in either case.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
@JudyEv oh I agree with you there, opening up is hard, it's like dropping one's armor for a bit, and showing things that could be used against you, even if you know this is a person trained to not do that.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
13 Jun 16
I know they are, but knowing and feelings dont always match up, you know.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Jun 16
Last year I went to a counselor that was offered through a program by the state. It was free so I thought it wouldn't hurt.
The counselor touched upon some very sore spots that I know I have buried and dealt with over the years. Didn't resolve a thing though. Then he seemed to shut me off. At the last session he said I should leave my husband. Um over what? He didn't say why.
Hence, my reasoning for not returning.
I hope that you can find a counselor that will help you with your burdens Jessa. Big hugs to you lady. If you need an ear, I am just around the bend.
@patgalca (18390)
• Orangeville, Ontario
13 Jun 16
We don't really have counsellors in our town. We have Catholic Family Services who come up here once a week I think. They would charge money that is not covered by government or insurance. A psychiatrist, an hour away, couldn't see me on a regular basis due to a full patient list. It's hard to get good help for mental illness and/or depression.
BTW, what you said about yourself, I can say the same about me. Easier said than done is what I've always said. It's hard to change who you are. It's not fair that one has to change the way one FEELS about certain things. It's what makes us unique individuals.
@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
Because people have made it something to be self conscious about. People see someone going to a counselor as abnormal, negative, mentally unstable, psychotic, etc. You could be going to get help on gaining confidence for speaking publicly or something positive like that, people always assume the worst.
@Tampa_girl7 (50580)
• United States
13 Jun 16
I hope that you can learn to be happy and find someone to help you get there
@just4him (317249)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Jun 16
That's a big step you're about to take. I did that a bit over a year ago, and I'm glad I did. I'm not the same messed up person I was when I started counseling.
Thanks for that youtube link. She was amazing.
