Expecting Parents!!!
By Gage Bitch
@queengreen0 (85)
United States
June 13, 2016 11:40am CST
Ok so, we're expecting baby number two in like two weeks!!! We're excited, nervous, scared, emotional, etc. We have a four year old girl and are expecting a boy!
Anyone have a boy/girl duo? How did they respond to each other? How did big sister react to new baby brother? Were there any waterworks at the hospital due to all the attention on baby brother? What about when you got home? What to expect as they get older?
Any other expecting parents? Anyone with advise? Anyone know any good deals on baby stuff? Lol, sorry for all the questions.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 16
I think the best thing to do is to involve your daughter as much as possible with the care of the baby. That will make her realise that she is important, and that he is as much her baby as yours.
I had a boy first (many years ago) and that approach worked for us.
Good luck for the birth.
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@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
We're trying to do that, some days she's fine, others she is not happy about having a sibling lol! Aww lol did you have anymore? Thank you so much!!
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@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
@jaboUK Aww, that's awesome! I'm sure lol I've witnessed sibling rivalry with my cousins, soon my children! I love the outcome though, they will always have each other's backs and love each other no matter what. I'm jealous of people with siblings lol it was boring being an only child.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 16
@queengreen0 No, I just had the two. They weren't always the best of friends when they were growing up (what siblings are?) but now that they are adults they would lay down their life for each other
@divinebee (260)
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13 Jun 16
Hey, firstly, Many Congrats on the arrival of your bundle of joy!!! Secondly, Im in the TTC category..so cant answer any of your questions..But both the kids wil have a great time with each other as long as you are there to guide and take care of them. Good luck for your delivery..Stay Blessed
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@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
Hey there! Thank you so much!!! That's fine too :) I hope so lol our daughter can get very jealous lol! Thank you so much!
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@durgabala (1360)
• India
14 Jun 16
Hi there, congratulations! I have a girl and a boy...my daughter was very happy with the new baby ...she was only 2 when our boy arrived, so she didn't know any diff of boy or girl...she just welcomed a new baby to play with her. she would be so possessive, whenever anyone would visit and lift the baby.. ..she is even now...oh now they fight a lot but can't live without each other, they start missing if one is not here (if one had gone to visit my mom...to stay overnight for a day) ....sometimes when they fight we would feel they are rivals..but the next moment they will calm down and play with each other...this is life 
..she is even now...oh now they fight a lot but can't live without each other, they start missing if one is not here (if one had gone to visit my mom...to stay overnight for a day) ....sometimes when they fight we would feel they are rivals..but the next moment they will calm down and play with each other...this is life 
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
13 Jun 16
I have twins and a younger boy and they get along great, sure they fight for toys but what siblings dont? lol Congrats!
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@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
Aww how sweet! I wanted twins!! I bet they are beautiful!! You're right though lol and thank you!!
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
13 Jun 16
@queengreen0 Anytime and goodluck!
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@Genipher (5405)
• United States
13 Jun 16
My husband and I have a lot of kids but I remember when we were expecting baby #2, I worried that I wouldn't be able to give them both the attention and love they needed. But "they" are right when they say your heart only grows bigger and makes room for both.
We do home births, so our daughter was there when her brother was born. Before the cord was even cut, she had her arms out, ready to hold him. They're still pretty close.
One of our mistakes, as parents, was trying to treat the two kids the same. We kept forgetting that they were each individuals, with different likes and different responses. That took some adjustment on our part.
Before our #2 was born we pumped our daughter up with all the great things she was going to be able to help with. Picking out outfits for her brother, helping to push him in the stroller, singing to him...and so on and so forth.
Of course, we gave our daughter one-on-one time, too, so she didn't feel like everything was about the new baby. It's easy to get that one-on-one time together when the new baby is little, since they sleep so much.
So just remember to do a lot of reading and special "dates" with your eldest.
Our kids have their fights but, for the most part, they get along. They also keep asking for more siblings, so we must be doing something right!
Congratulations!
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@queengreen0 (85)
• United States
13 Jun 16
Oh wow!!! That's awesome! That was my concern as well, glad to see that it's normal.
Aww how sweet!!! How is it doing home births? How do/did you manage pain?
That's understandable, it makes sense that you would try to do that.
We are currently in the process of this lol she's slowly coming around.
We will definitely start planning things just for her while her brother is down for a nap or something.
Lol! That's good. If mine ask for more they will get it in the form of four-legged furry friends lol!!
Thank you so much!!! This was very helpful!
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
14 Jun 16
@queengreen0
I love giving birth at home. I've done it 6 out of 6 times now and have found that it's a lot more comfortable being in my own home.
As to the pain, I just deal with it. I don't know what else to say. I don't take anything for it. I know it'll pass, eventually. So I just bear with it until it's done.
It's the after-pains that I can't really stand. They're almost as bad as labor. That is harder to deal with because I know I'm not really working towards the reward of a new child.
Oh, so keep in mind for your second...the after-pains are worse with baby #2 and beyond.
