Just Like That
@SIMPLYD (90722)
Philippines
June 15, 2016 3:04am CST
In relation to my post below , the main culprit of why I got angry , more than a week ago , smiled so sweetly at me when we met in the hallway the other day .
I also smiled back, so she stopped walking . Then she told me, while she held my hands smiling , that my new blouses ,( I was wearing one of those that day ) , which I shopped for , when we went to Manila during my daughter’s graduation last May 22 , were all very nice .
Well, I don’t expect her to ask for an apology for what she did to me , because I know she isn’t one who does that in words . I am an easy to please person actually . Her smile and most of all her holding my hands are enough to make me leave that incident into oblivion .
Just like that , my hurt and hers were forgotten . I guess , that’s because at the office , we are one big family .
We might quarrel with one another , but we will be okay in a few days .
Are you like that too , easy to forgive , even if apology isn’t spoken , but felt ?
#apology , hurt , forgotten
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@Chungshop (2355)
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15 Jun 16
Forgive and forget should be the healing elements too.
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@Chungshop (2355)
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15 Jun 16
Forgive and forget need time to practice, no one is ever perfect. We will be unhappy if some one hurt us but we should not always remember the events and the person. Especially working under the same roof.
But is not to easy to forgive other who had done harm to us too. So we need time to heal and forget it.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
15 Jun 16
You have such a good and forgiving heart.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
15 Jun 16
Thank you . I agree , though , i can easily get angry too when i have been done a wrong .
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
15 Jun 16
Yes, it is wiser on your part to forget the previous unpleasant incident. Keeping it in mind won't have helped you in any manner. It is better to make truce and move ahead.
I also forgive people and do not carry grudges and I believe in moving ahead.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
16 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD I know you believe in the theory of forgive and forget and this makes you feel better.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
when i err to a person and i feel sorry, i will do all means to ask for her forgiveness; when somebody errs to me, i may find it hard to forgive especially if the hurt is so much it hurts my heart and my soul
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
Good for you that you can say " sorry " or "i apologize " . I myself also finds it hard to say it . I just compensate through kind deeds .
I don't like having a hurt in my heart . That's why i am fidgety until it can be resolved . I am not one who bears grudges .
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
@ridingbet That is why , we have to make known to the person we have a grudge with , whatever we are thinking as something that hurt you by her . Like you , that person would have no inkling at all that she offended you . 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD that is true. a dear friend held grudges with me for about more than 5 years, until sh forgave me of a fault that i was not even aware of. until she expired last 2010. she was a college year friend and we were 5 in the group. i treated her as my sister. now, i see her sisters in the church, and they smile at me.
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
I don't know... it depends on the situation, I guess. Petty fights, I can easily forgive.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
@rachz_kisses Yes , it depends on the gravity of the wrong done to you .
@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD Yeah. Most of the time I'm like that... I can forgive but I will never forget. They say forgiveness is to forget the things had done. It's not the same for me. It depends on the situation, really.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Jun 16
oh yes. have always been easy. lol
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Jun 16
For some people like me it's easy , because a genuine smile and act like that can already melt me . But to others , they have a hard heart .
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
19 Jun 16
That is one characteristic of the Filipino culture that I found myself alienated from . Because if I feel that someone is upset at me, I want to know so I can apologise. I don't mind being confronted with whatever is upsetting them.. And if I get upset I let them know, but I found out that most Filipinos avoid confrontation .. So they just pretend that nothing happens and they expect you to "forgive" ..
I am not like that.. I expect apology literally and I don't hesitate apologising literally.. I am very transparent with my thoughts and my feelings..
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Jun 16
That's good because you like to know if you have upset people . That's what i like too .
Though unlike you , i find it hard to apologize in words . I do it in action .
But like you , i am transparent in my thoughts and feelings .
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
20 Jun 16
@SIMPLYD A lot of fellow Filipinos including my own family , don't know how to deal with my being so upfront and questioning nature.. It is in our culture to not be so verbal about what is upsetting us and even saying sorry for causing upset, sometimes cause more upsets ..lol ..
When I feel that someone is avoiding me or I heard someone talked about me behind my back, I confront them and ask them what have I done wrong so I can fix myself.. But the more I ask to clear the air, the more they avoid me .. lol ..
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@anjalmonte (106)
• Quezon, Philippines
16 Jun 16
There's no point in holding a grudge especially if it's over something so trivial
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@Macarrosel (7498)
• Philippines
16 Jun 16
With that, you're such a nice and good hearted person. I am like that sometimes. Easy to forgive and forget if they made their efforts to ask apology even indirectly.
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