Will you wear a cloth if asked to ?
@GooglePlus (3831)
June 15, 2016 7:53am CST
Yesterday, I was having a text conversation with my friend.She has a crush on someone with whom she went for a trip, which was arranged my church. It was a family trip. And her family knows his family.
You know Indian family's hot topic of discussion is Marriages after certain age of girl.So she was telling about how difficult it is to getaway from it.
Here is the conversation -
I sent a picture of one piece dress which was gifted by my friend to his wife.
She - I am not going to wear such dresses.
*I was in teasy mood*
Me - Well I know you will wear one when He ( name of her crush) will gift you after marriage.
She - I am not going to marry a person who will decide what I will wear. GooglePlus, you need to change your attitude towards your future life partner. Stop being uncivilised.
*I didn't respond to it for next 2 minutes thinking why she responded to it like that.*
After 2 mins
Me - I don't think I am uncivilised and it's okay to gift a dress whatever I want her to wear for me.
She - Good luck with your future Partner.
I stopped the conversation there. So question arises - Is it same with all girls ?
I have few extraordinary friends on Mylot.
I would like to hear from you -
Have you been in a situation where your husband/wife gift you a dress which is not your type of dressing style?
Did you wear it for her/his happiness ?
How you find yourself in that dress?
How was your experience ?
Attached single piece dress for your reference -
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9 responses
@DaddyEvil (137259)
• United States
16 Jun 16
Okay, I am sticking my neck out here to answer part of this question....
My first wife did not care what I liked and often bought shirts/pants I was not willing to wear. I took them back to the store and traded them for things I would wear.
My second wife tried to force me to wear clothes she thought I should wear for the "image" she wanted me to project. I returned those clothes to the stores until she made the stores stop accepting them back. I cut her out of my money when I could not return the clothes to the stores and gave the clothes away.
I divorced her not very long after that happened!
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@vandana7 (100300)
• India
16 Jun 16
@DaddyEvil .. The car did not survive the event perhaps?
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@DaddyEvil (137259)
• United States
16 Jun 16
@vandana7 MY car had to have new tires, which I made her pay for.... I was NOT happy!
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@DaddyEvil (137259)
• United States
16 Jun 16
@vandana7 I was asleep when she went shopping. She was asleep when I returned clothes.
I went shopping with her ONCE. She did not like that I fell asleep while she drove MY car. She drove it into the ditch to force me awake! I woke up screaming in fright!
Do you wonder why I would not ride in the same car with her again?
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@vandana7 (100300)
• India
16 Jun 16
I think it is good to like clothes. We all have tastes. Having said that, it is the person who sees us more than we see us, whose sense of seeing needs to be pleased, so wearing what we think looks good on us is fine, but wearing what another person thinks look good on us is even better!
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@vandana7 (100300)
• India
16 Jun 16
@Daljinder .. True...but in general, that person would know what you are comfortable or uncomfortable in and would not want you to look uncomfortable in front of others, right?
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
16 Jun 16
@vandana7 It depends on what the person is asking for you to wear and what is comfortable to us.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
15 Jun 16
From the conversation, you gave her the impression that you will force your opinions and wishes on your future partner. Her abrupt reply tells me that the dress was not modest according to her so obviously she will be uncomfortable wearing it.
Being an Indian girl myself, it is okay for my future husband to gift / ask me to wear certain dresses. It is not okay for him to expect me to wear it without caring about how I feel about it. I will actually expect my husband to know me better than to ask such things of me.
I understand that a husband can have some wishes / desires to see his wife in certain way. It's not wrong. In such case, husband should be considerate and make arrangements / plans. He can ask her to just wear it for his eyes only (meaning in a private setting). I am sure it wouldn't take much coaxing from him for his wife to comply to his request. Even your friend would / may have agreed to that after the couple gets comfortable with each other.
And by the way, sending a picture I suspect that made her uncomfortable. Any guy sending me a picture of a dress that I consider not modest will make me uncomfortable and wary of his intentions. No matter however long I have known him or how strong our friendship is. Hence the word "uncivilized" entered the picture. (I am not saying that dresses in picture are revealing. Definition of modesty differs for everyone)
Secondly., the conversation you quoted didn't have the marriage word anywhere in it. Where did the discussion of that topic go and how it landed on the topic of the dress? LOL!
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@DaddyEvil (137259)
• United States
16 Jun 16
Whoa! What dress picture did Raja send that was not a modest dress? Both dresses pictured above are far more modest than many women here would bother to wear.
The first dress pictured is something like my mother would have worn when I was young. The second dress pictured is something the girls would have worn when I was in grade school. Both were considered modest in their time. As far as I know, both would still be considered modest, if not ultra-conservative.
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@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
16 Jun 16
@DaddyEvil But not in an Indian conservative family!
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@chewwy429 (101)
• Miri, Malaysia
16 Jun 16
I will! for the sake of happiness! but I will definitely persuade him I will look better in another dress lol
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
16 Jun 16
Well, she will wear. And then she will expect you to buy her new clothes every week!
Blue one is good. I will not wear that for obvious reasons, though. Your friend doesn't know how she will act once she gets married. Perceptions are not reality always. What you think may not always be what you do.
@Genipher (5405)
• United States
10 Aug 16
My husband bought me some shirts and I discovered he has better taste than I do!
I've never been one for clothes shopping.
But there have been times he's bought me items that I couldn't wear. Mostly because he got the size wrong. I guess he sees me as "smaller" than I am.
Anyway, I'm happy to wear the things he picks out for me. Though I know he'd understand if I just didn't like an item or if something was too provocative to wear in public.
On the flip side, he'll often wear things that I like, to please me. And if I don't like a shirt or something of his, he doesn't wear it. Or, um, I throw it away.
Also goes for hair. He likes my hair long, so I keep it long. I like his beard, so he doesn't shave. Though, on occasion, I'll ask him to change it up by trimming it down or molding it into a goatee or something. And he's happy to comply.
@annastasiaaaaaa (727)
• Philippines
3 Dec 16
Personally, I don't like someone to tell me what to wear or what not to wear but if the dress looks good (I'm sure my husband knows me too well to buy something I don't like) there's no reason why I should not wear it.