~Hate Calling On Any Holiday~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
June 19, 2016 6:08am CST
I will call my father for Father's Day today. As some of you may know he was not the nicest to my siblings and I all growing up. He always told us he wanted children so he could have slaves he didn't have to purchase-trust me it wasn't a joke or a lie.
He still isn't a very nice person to be honest. I have forgiven him for the past and I pray for him all the time. I keep praying one day, just maybe he will find the Lord and change his ways. I know it has to be in God's time not mine.
Sometimes I feel like a fake or a liar when I call him on Holidays-not because I don't love him (I only do because he's my father) but just because I don't think he was a good father. The only thing he did right-he was a good provider for us-we had food, clothes and shelter. That's not everything in this life though-there's much more to life than money.
One person who is a GREAT father however is my husband so I am excited to wish him a Happy Father's Day today. To all of the good father's out there-Happy Father's Day and I hope you have a wonderful day! 
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@dodo19 (47341)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Jun 16
Some dads are just not very good fathers. I'm not very close to mine anymore, but I can't say that he wasn't a good father or didn't love my sister and I. I will still wish him a happy Father's Day. My husband does love his kids, and does his best for the kids and I. Hopefully, he can have a better relationship with our kids than we have with our dads.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@dodo19 I have never been close to my father because he just hasn't been a good father to us our whole lives.
My husband is a much better father to our children as well than either of our father's were to us.
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@dodo19 (47341)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Jun 16
@LovingMyBabies It definitely does sound as though your husband is a better father. I hope he has a good Father's Day,
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
19 Jun 16
I commend you for even calling him Jennifer. But, I too would probably do the same if it were me. That is how I am.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
20 Jun 16
@LovingMyBabies you have a big heart. Sometimes it is hard to speak kindly to someone that has caused you so much pain. You focus on what good they have in them, even when that good is hard to find.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@ElusiveButterfly Yes I try to see the good in everyone-which has gotten me in a lot of trouble at different times in my life but that's just who I am.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@ElusiveButterfly Yeah, no matter what he has done he is still my father and I always try to be respectful and a peace keeper in life.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@sishy7 Yeah it wasn't a good childhood. Thank you! We will enjoy the day with my husband. =)
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@LeaPea2417 (37396)
• Toccoa, Georgia
19 Jun 16
I am sorry your own Father was not a better Father to you and your siblings. That is great you found a guy who is a good Dad to both of your kids.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@Leapea2417 It's okay, I have found my soulmate who is an amazing father so I am happy. =)
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@DianneN Thank you, I try to always do the right thing and keep the peace as well. Yes I am so grateful for my husband!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@Marcyaz Thank you, I am very grateful for my husband being a wonderful father. =) I'm sorry your father isn't around anymore. =(
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
20 Jun 16
@LovingMyBabies My parents were brutal and lied. My father was just nasty and believed men were superior to women.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@MsTickle Well my mother was a pretty good mother, but my father didn't really need to have children.
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@koopharper (7601)
• Canada
19 Jun 16
You call to honour him. Always the right thing to do. I'm glad you found someone you know is a good father to spend your life with.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@koopharper I do the right thing that is why I call him.
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@garymarsh6 (23412)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 16
Material things are useless without love. Perhaps he too never received love when he was a child. I am glad you have found someone who is making up for that. I wish my parents were still around so I could wish them blessings but they are deeply in my thoughts today!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@garymarsh6 You are right, he wasn't loved either and wasn't shown any affection and it has definitely stuck with him into adulthood. But that's no excuse-he should know right from wrong once he became an adult himself.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@KristenH Thank you. I doubt we will make ammends since he doesn't think he does anything wrong but I try to be respectful and a peace keeper.
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@KristenH (33393)
• Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio
19 Jun 16
@LovingMyBabies Yw. I did call my dad today with my brother though. I'm glad your hubby is better than him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Jun 16
@JudyEv I don't want to ever have any regrets or feel like I am not doing right by the Lord so I try to do the right thing.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@paigea Thank you. =) Being a good provider was the only good thing he really did for us.
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@Riccomama (14)
• United States
20 Jun 16
There is hope he will find the Lord. My dad was very similiar to yours. At age 69 he found Jesus and everything changed. He was a new creation. He cried and apologized for all that he did to us and we accepted the apology. He lived 10 more years and now he is with Jesus. I wish I could call and wish him Happy Fathers Day.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@Riccomama I really hope this happens with my father as well. He is just so strong willed and hard headed, I don't know if he will ever accept Jesus into his heart. I hope I'm wrong though and I hope he does find the Lord one day.
@Tampa_girl7 (50712)
• United States
19 Jun 16
Hope that you are enjoying your day.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@Tampa_girl7 It was an okay day-I wanted better for my husband but life happens.
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@Marilynda1225 (83176)
• United States
20 Jun 16
I"m sure making that phone call wasn't easy but probably the right thing to do
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Jun 16
@justbhem Thank you! =) We had an okay day together.
