Mommy he can't / myLot

By C

Sterling, Virginia

June 23, 2016 7:19pm CST

My 5 year old girl M told me the other day that her 17 month old brother H couldn't be "Casey Jones" from the Nijia Trutels when asked why her reasoning was pretty understandable " mommy he isn't white and Casey Jones is White. Little baba can me Mikey because he is small and they are green!" Lol... I tried not to laugh but I got what she meant. I pulled her over to me and sat her in my lap. I told her when I was little I said j was Mocha and my mom was white and my dad was chocolate. I'm half Hispanic so you know and I look Hispanic so people believe I'm Hispanic. And only my youngest looks like me my other two have their daddy's look because of me. I have the same kind of gentics markers as my husband those are blue eyes and blonde hair. I told me daughter is okay when pretending we can be whomever we want it doesn't matter what are skin color like or if we are a boy or girl. When we grow up you can be whatever you want whomever you want and it won't matter. I'm not sure if she understood what I meant but that's okay it's something we will talk about for many years.

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Melissa Kline

@CS09nxkb16 (24)

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24 Jun 16

She will understand with age. I am fighting this battle with my son right now. I don't know whoever taught him racism or if he just naturally is like that but we walked into the office the other day and there were 3 black clients waiting. Well my son started yelling that there were brown people there and that he didn't like brown people. I was mortified. Also confused because my son has been seeing a therapist for a trauma he experience years ago and his therapist is ''brown''. So I always assumed that he liked ''brown''people because of her. Now I realize I need to work with him on this issue. I've read up on getting books for children to teach them about racial and cultural differences. It will help to be repetitive with it. Even if your daughter doesn't have any race issues maybe those books will still help her to understand better.

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@ShyBear88 (59347)

• Sterling, Virginia

25 Jun 16

Oh my goodness! My kids have never done that this was the first time she has ever mentioned a difference in skin color. But at least she didn't mean any harm buy it or to be hurtful. We just got to keep at it and say it's okay everyone looks difference and it doesn't matter what's on the outside its the inside. No she doesn't have any race issues. She is use to everyone not looking like her daddy. Even several of her cousins are half black or half Hispanic. It pretty much came out like when I was little I noticed a difference but it never bothered me and I don't think it bother's her at all. She was just trying to tell us that her little brother couldn't pretend to be a certain person because they don't share the same skin tone. I got it that is why I told her it's okay when we pretend we can be anyone we want to be even a different skin color it's okay.