Family or self?
By Leslie A.
@leslieadap (64)
June 23, 2016 9:19pm CST
i dont know if i am living life so fast, yes i am 23 a college graduate and im married with 1 kid, i love my man, but i cannot disregard the fact that i still have obligations to do with my parents and siblings. i want to be successful as what my father wishes me to, yes i love my husband so much but now that i know that we both have different plans in life, a lot of things comes in my mind. should i pursue my dreams? and do my obligations or just deal with this?
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
You're too young, you have many years ahead of you. Just take it one step at a time.
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@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
yes i am, and i feel like i need to do all things faster, for my family. thaks for ur advice though
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
24 Jun 16
Wow, congratulations on being 23 - college graduate, married with a child! You can still pursue your dreams and balance life! 
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@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
Yes dear i think i should still continue my dreams, do you think i am living life so fast?
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
24 Jun 16
@leslieadap I am 26 and have not done anything you have! But you are determined that is good though.
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
Hi Leslie,
Congrats as well on being 23, college graduate and married with one kid. Although you are young I can see that you are a strong woman. It's good that you think about your obligation to your father and mother but seeing as you already have your own family, in my opinion it would be good to pursue your dreams and aspiration thinking of your husband and child since they will be your inspiration in this new path. I also believe that your mother and father would understand and they would be happy just to see you happy and successful with your current family. I think that is what parents want their children to be. Stable and happy. :)
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@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
yeah right, i'd still need to live life to the fullest, and of course my friends are also one of my inspirations. just like you:) young wild and free
@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
yah that's a good idea dear but i wish that i am stronger enough to face those consequences. what do you think?
@melindataylor22 (959)
• Waltham, Massachusetts
25 Jun 16
You can pray seek therapy or counseling to help you make sense of this. It is hard to balance lots of responsibilities and so many of us struggle with that. But over time you can talk to people, do research, and figure out ways to make things work.
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@ilocosboy (45156)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
Well for me if you can deal with it why not,because me if my parents need something I give them as long as I have
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@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
thats good to know, you know what to be honest my parents is still my priority even though i already have my own family
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@mastinet (467)
• India
24 Jun 16
In my opinion you are too young and have whole life to spend. You must give yourself enough time to think about this again and in cool manner. Hope this way your inner conscious will suggest you a right and fruitful way.
@sunshine724 (76)
• United States
27 Jun 16
In my opinion I think the biggest mistake anyone can do is to live their life to appease someone else. We all want to make our parents happy and proud in the long run; however they are not gonna be happy with every decision you make. Talk to your husband, express what your dreams and goals are and together you come up with a game plan that works for your family. Wish you luck.
@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
24 Jun 16
I think maybe talk to your hubby and find soe common ground you both can live with.
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@Marchy (99)
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24 Jun 16
I can relate with you. I'm college graduate and got married at the age of 19 but now I'm 24. I don't have any job experience since I graduated college. I want to help my parents and I want them to be proud of me too but I choose to take care of my children first so I'll just wait for few more years before I will apply for my first job. I'm happy with my choice. Any decision you will make will be fine as long as it makes you happy.
@responsiveme (22926)
• India
24 Jun 16
Marriage is all about finding out a way you want to do things by making decisions together :)
I'm sure you'll balance all your roles.
You are pretty young too
@anneguadaupe (36)
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24 Jun 16
Well, things happened for a reason.In your case, you should enjoy life with right management. You can pursue your dreams and can do your obligations at the same time. You should have to focus on what you want in your life and your family be as your inspiration. Live with a purpose. So just get what you want, as long that it will make you happy.:-) Im sure that your family will be glad when it will happen.Good luck:-)
@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
very well said, julie yeah right everything happens for a reason maybe we just need to know how to deal with it, especially when it comes to family over lovelife, someone may choose family and some may choose lovelife, but for me i did chose both, yeah that how i handle life as long as i know how play then, just let it be,.
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