Do you believe in this saying about exes?
By royanne
@royanne (372)
Philippines
June 24, 2016 12:47am CST
"If two past lover's can remain friends, either they never were in love or they still are."
I often see this quote on the internet. I want to know what your opinion about this because recently I became friends again with my ex of more than 2 yrs. Though we have separated and it has been more than 3 yrs and on my part, I know I already moved on. I have a boyfriend now and I am happy.
It says on this quote that either we were not in love or we still are right? This ex of mine was a very close friend before we became an item. We were friends since high school and we were schoolmates during college that's a lot of history together and a lot of common friends. I believe that I was in love with this guy before. I know it in my heart it just that it didn't work out.
When we talked recently i felt like nothing has changed, we are still friends and I realized that I did miss my friend. I missed our long conversations and our lame jokes and just about everything. Though we only chatted on social media and talked on the phone it was like nothing had changed. We can laugh about our past now and I think that we have already moved on but this quote still bothers me because he still doesn't have any serious relationship up until now.
I want him to be happy and I want to keep our friendship but is that too much to ask?
:(
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11 responses
@leslieadap (64)
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24 Jun 16
well i guess those who can stay friends with their ex lovers are the most mature people, that's a fact but in my point of view if u are already committed and he's still single then that will make some grounds especially with your current love. not unless he is open minded enough to understand that you and ur ex are now friends. anyway you can still enjoy ur company both, be that "friends with benefits" remember it's sweeter the 2nd time around! kidding!
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@royanne (372)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
I like what you said about being mature people. I believe that it is maturity to realize that one mistake cannot be corrected by another mistake. It is only in acceptance that we are able to move on and learn from that experience. i can definitely say that the person i am with right now is mature enough to understand that me and my ex are only friends. :)
@Katlynn (366)
• United States
7 Jul 16
I'm sure the quote holds true in some cases, but not in all. If there is a solid foundation of friendship when a couple is together, sometimes the friendship still lingers long after a breakup. A lot depends on why the breakup happened. For example, if one party cheated, the relationship and the friendship has been betrayed. It would be very difficult to rekindle even the friendship. If the breakup was because the couple realized they were not meant for each other in a romantic way, it's very possible the friendship could be maintained.
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@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jun 16
Different strokes for different folks.
The only person who can correctly answer your question will be - YOU and you alone.
Since you already have another beloved, if you feel that being friend with your ex will not complicate things then by all means, keep the friendship and carry on.
Life is too short so just live it and always do what makes you happy.
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@Marchy (99)
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24 Jun 16
I think it depends on the person. Maybe you can be friends with your ex not because you don't love him nor he don't love you before but because you already accepted the fact that both of you have your own life with your new partners. I think the love is still there but in different level of love like friendship love.
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@graciemac (77)
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25 Jun 16
I think the love for the person will always be there but this time, on different level.
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@psanasangma (7280)
• India
25 Jun 16
Its really good if both of you can remain friend but as for me I would love to avoid as much as possible
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@LeaPea2417 (37473)
• Toccoa, Georgia
24 Jun 16
I think if you can remain friends with an ex , it means you have a special bond kind of like a brother, sister love for one another.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 16
Me too. I am having a hard time comtemplating the exact meaning of that quote. Me and ex of 9 years are still friends. I mean we both agreed to stay friends after what happened to us. I have a 6 years boyfriend now. But this ex I havent heard anything from him recently though.
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