Have you ever had experiences with cyber bullying?

United Kingdom
June 24, 2016 10:33am CST
Cyrber bullying is a growing issue for the younger generation. I was interested to know if anyone here has had first hand experience of cyber bullying or knows of someone who has. What did you do to support them? How did you/they cope? Who did you feel you could reach out to? Facebook especially has a growing anti bullying campaign, but is it effective? Has anyone used it to see if it is actually effective? Thanks.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 16
I find it uneffective. Like there are still a lot of facebook users bullying each other. I was bullied but in Twitter. What I did is, I just ignore it. They have their opinions and I have mine. It will not harm me if I will not let him get into my nerve. lol
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 16
@Becky_25 In this world now we must fight back. If we keep those people hurting us of course they will keep hurting us. And if we fight back, no more bullies and no more will be bullied.
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• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
@JustBhem :) Couldn't agree more :)
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• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
That's a really great response! :) So strong Someone said once that if you sign up to any social media platform you should be prepared that other people have their opinions and be ready to cope with it. If you are unable to cope (which is ok), then you should either set yourself to private and just speak to your friends or not use them. It was an interesting argument to hear when I heard it! But go you! :) I would hope I would have that same attitude if it ever happened to me.
@beckish (641)
• United States
27 Jun 16
My young adult children periodically complain about the "drama" on facebook. Their solution - which I think is a good one - is to block the offending person. Bullies tend to stop if they don't get a reaction, and I think cyberbullies are the same as regular bullies in this.
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• United Kingdom
27 Jun 16
Oh that's clever. Bullies do feed off a response so just blocking them and not rising to their comments is a great idea!
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@ronc510 (479)
• Philippines
25 Jun 16
Yes, I do but I stand my ground
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• United Kingdom
25 Jun 16
Amazing! Go you! :)
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@skysnap (20153)
24 Jun 16
Yes plenty of times. So these days I am just staying silent and learning how to respond instead of reacting.
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• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
I'm really sorry to hear that you've had to go through that. I hope everything is better for you now? Have you managed to report the activity to anyone, or have you decided to just stay quiet? Are you scared to say something? xx
@skysnap (20153)
24 Jun 16
@Becky_25 Yes it is better but I suffer from social anxiety now. and also I feel anxiety offline too.
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• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
@skysnap I completely know that feeling. I suffer from anxiety and stress. It can lead to panic attacks and I hate not knowing when they are about to come on. Have you found any good coping mechanisms for your anxiety?
@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
24 Jun 16
I have not had any experience with it but I have seen a few movies of worst case scenarios that result because of it. I think I would definitely go to authorities f it got too bad and the person wasn't safe then maybe leaving the area would be next.
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@IvySaysHi (4467)
• United States
24 Jun 16
@Becky_25 Yeah the latest movie I have seen is called A Girl Like Her and the girl being bullied, even though she had all she needed to get help and show proof of the bullying just didnt want to tell anyone because i think she was too afraid of it.
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• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
@IvySaysHi I've not seen that one. You're right, it is sad actually when all these platforms are available but people are too scared to use them! Maybe because they are scared of being caught by the bullies? I actually don't know what I would really do now in the situation because i've never been in it. I have witnessed it and supported someone going through it, but if you feel alone, it must be difficult. I'm really glad there are platforms like this though so that those maybe going through stuff similar to this may find a way to speak about it and hopefully get support! :)
• United Kingdom
24 Jun 16
I'm glad to hear you haven't experienced anything! I've watched films as well and actually, even switching on the news sometimes you realise that it is a reel thing - that scares me even more. Young girls and boys believing both at school and then when in the safety of their own home, that they are not worth anything when they are! I think the good thing thought about cyber bullying is that there is now the option of online support. So although technology and social media sites are a platform for bullying, they are also a platform for support and help! I would go to the authorities too and be 100% honest to my parents as i'm sure mine would be on baord with it and support me no matter what.
@paigea (36315)
• Canada
25 Jun 16
I think I will never be cyber bullied. I can so easily shut the computer and go do something else. There is some stuff on Facebook that annoys me so I quit Facebook.
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• Waltham, Massachusetts
25 Jun 16
I think that bullying in general is a big problem. Cyber bullying adds to it by being another way to do it. I was bullied some as a child and my son has experienced some and this was more regular bullying. A friend and I discussed this and agree that it is something that schools need to teach kids about. It is also important for parents to be aware of what is going on in their kids lives and to know their kids' friends and partners. People have to be taught to speak up if they see something and to involve authorities as needed.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
25 Jun 16
@Becky_25 I haven't been bullied but I have had a few students who have. It's a horrible, cowardly way to treat someone. The person being bullied has no idea how to fight back and kids being the way they are today seem to jump on the bandwagon and follow the bully adding their own comments.
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• United Kingdom
25 Jun 16
That's so horrible to see going on right before your eyes. Are you a teacher then? I think children don't know/understand the implications. They see their friends doing it and it can genuinely start off silly, but the more people fuel it, the more it becomes harsher and crueler and there comes a point where I think even those joining in with the bullying realise they can't turn back because maybe they will fear getting bullied the same way. I find that really sad as well. when someone is so scared themselves that they decide it's better to bully than to be bullied.
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@Shiva49 (26770)
• Singapore
25 Jun 16
Now I know how to handle that - mostly agreeing to disagree and move on. When I was in primary school one did bully me, more of blackmailing, that I broke something that was of high value. In fact, I was innocent and what he accused me of was just a small piece of marble! siva
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• Philippines
25 Jun 16
Yes. I had my share of being bullied online. You kinda feel helpless for you can't do much about it. Facebook's not effective... all you can do is block but the person continues to bully you, posting malicious contents about you. It's like watching yourself being eaten up by a piranha. I just ignored that person for I know a lot who knew me well will not fall for that post.
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• Indonesia
25 Jun 16
never
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@gichrys (100)
• Philippines
25 Jun 16
I have seen may bullying specially in facebook.. i have not yet experience cyber bullying yet due to i only read their post..like a leecher
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