A bad day

@carebear29 (31968)
Wausau, Wisconsin
July 19, 2016 4:44pm CST
So I have been having a bad day all day. I got into it over the phone with my own husband and told him if he didn't straighten up and stop accusing me of things I was filing divorce. I also told him I just can't handle how he lives or his attitude anymore. He wasn't happy with me at all and I don't care. I even got his mother involved. I am giving him a week and that is it. I am seriously on the verge of just packing and leaving with my son. I need to do what is best for my son and me. I wish deep down I would have left him a long time ago and not taken him back. I am happier without him. (Sorry needed to vent a little.)
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@Telynor (1763)
• United States
20 Jul 16
Vent all you need to. It all really comes down to what is best for your son, and are you happier with or without him? If he's accusing you of things that you don't do, it's better to excise him out of your life.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
That is what I am planning.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
@Telynor Yeah if he doesn't straighten up
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@Telynor (1763)
• United States
20 Jul 16
@carebear29 Good for you! Life is too short to be trapped in misery. And in the long run, it will be better for your son.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
20 Jul 16
I'm so sorry for your trouble with your husband. I don't know what the problem is, but think it over very carefully and discuss what it is with your husband that makes you unhappy. Maybe the two of you can find a solution.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
I hope so but his attitude and hoarding are my main issues and I wish he would get over it.
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@crossbones27 (49460)
• Mojave, California
20 Jul 16
Sometimes people just grow apart, but think you are making the rational choice of waiting another week to see if you can work it out.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
I been falling out of love with him for a while.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
28 Jul 16
@carebear29 I am very sorry that you are still having issues with him. Like I said ages ago to you, he seems like the type of person that will not change. Or who just can't seem to see what he is doing wrong. You say you wished you left a long time ago and I feel bad that you didn't because then you wouldn't be having these issues right now. So maybe just think about what is best for you and your son. Take action now. Do things now that your future self will thank you for.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
28 Jul 16
He won't change. He keeps saying he is but he's really not.
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• Perth, Australia
29 Jul 16
@carebear29 That's how I feel about the situation so I guess, even though it's hard, time to get away. :/
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
20 Jul 16
Like I've said before you got to do what's best for you and your son and what makes you two happy. I am sorry that you and the hubby are fighting making it more miserable for you and your son.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
21 Jul 16
Yes I do. Thanks.
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• Beckley, West Virginia
21 Jul 16
@carebear29 You're welcome
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@detion (197)
19 Jul 16
Do what's the best!
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
19 Jul 16
I am thanks
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 16
yay good for you you have taken it and taken it and now time to call it quits good luck hugs
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
21 Jul 16
Thanks. I am trying to work things out but its not working too well
@ahann_coy (116)
20 Jul 16
Being in a married life is really difficult. a lot of adjustments and everything. I don't know the reason why you guys are into this kind of fight and Im not judging your decision. maybe its for the good of everybody or the other way around. I once read an article in facebook (as i randomly check them) about a husband and a wife who are about to get divorce. Before they got married, the mother of the groom gave them a passbook (bank) and she told them, use this bank account in saving something from you happy memories and right something on the side of that transaction. and the couple did it. but time flies, attitude changes, priorities too they forgot that they have each other. they decided to file a divorce. the wife saw that passbook, she scan it and saw those happy memories they shared. She talk to her husband and they fix things together. Though not all problems can be fixed by just sitting their and talk but atleast it can help, maybe. Hope you guys can have it fixed. :-)
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
21 Jul 16
Very great advice and comment. I am trying but it seems like he don't care.
@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
24 Jul 16
Vent all you want. This is a good place to do it. Hope whatever you decide works for you!
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
24 Jul 16
Yes it is. People actually listen here than they do in person.
@marlina (154131)
• Canada
21 Jul 16
Hope you are making the right decision, you know best!
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
24 Jul 16
Yep. I was think things through
• United States
20 Jul 16
aw, hugs, hon! i hope that'cha take that step'n soon. i know how diff'cult such can be, but sounds's though t'would be the best fer all parties...particularly yer son.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
21 Jul 16
Thanks. It has been rough yet
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• United States
21 Jul 16
@carebear29 ne'er lose faith 'n hope'n yerself, k? i know such's diff'cult durin' these troublin' times, hon. i hope that'cha've got a good support system. big hugs!
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
20 Jul 16
That has to be hard, I wish you all the best.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
21 Jul 16
Yes it is hard
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• United States
21 Jul 16
@carebear29 ((hugs))
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jul 16
Marriage is difficult sometimes and I know you'll find a way to make it better. A week will be I think is enough.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
Been married 12 years.
• Goa, India
13 Aug 16
good lock. I hope so u feel better now
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
14 Aug 16
I am for the most part
@jstory07 (139742)
• Roseburg, Oregon
20 Jul 16
Will he stop you from taking your son? Do you have a job to support the two of you. I hope it all works out for you.
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@carebear29 (31968)
• Wausau, Wisconsin
20 Jul 16
Yes he will but I will win. My son gets SSI but I am working on finding a job