I miss you but my pride won’t let me say it.
By solxee
@sol_cee (38219)
Philippines
July 20, 2016 12:57am CST
My mom and my aunt had an argument over a trivial matter which escalated into something very serious. They stopped communicating and ignored all family gatherings. Mom being the oldest said she can’t lower her pride again and again. Aunt emphasized that she didn’t create the problem herself. They’re both waiting for the crows to turn white before one of them gives in. Yet my aunt sent a birthday gift to my mom anonymously. Mom on the other hand always checks her little sister’s FB. Sad, sad situation.
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Fugly who calls me beast friend turned cold on me. I went home last month for a quick vacation and we we’re not able to hang out. I sent her a message twice asking if she’s available but as a public school teacher, her schedule isn’t that flexible. We used to chat regularly on FB but after I came back here, I was always ‘seenzoned’. Eventually, I got tired of reaching out. Yet admittedly, I miss her.
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Do you miss anyone but your pride just gets in the way?
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24 responses
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
yes, and i have high pride too but i can lower it down when the situation calls for it
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 Jul 16
@ridingbet depends on the depth of the wound?
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
22 Jul 16
I experienced that just this year when one of our best friend in a group posted that she's in the Philippines , without informing me nor my friend . I waited until she texted us , when they were finally in our hometown .
I don't know really , if i will still reach out if she hadn't done that first .
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Or maybe because they would ask for a pasalubong (gift)
@jobelbojel (36281)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
Did you ask why she turned her back on you? Or she is just busy but there is weekend she can spend with you. Kudos to your aunt though for sending card to your mom.
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@jobelbojel (36281)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
@sol_cee That is too short. I think give her a month. Are you still on vacation?
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
23 Jul 16
@jobelbojel I stayed for a week only. Breathed in a little air and left with a sad heart. lol
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
21 Jul 16
Yeah, I know how you feel. Been in that situation before. My Mom and one of her siblings were not communicating for a very long time until a wedding of my cousin brought them together. It's an awkward at first being in one room but I could see that they missed each other so much. After the wedding, they were having a reunion each year since then.
I just hope your mom and your aunt reconciles soon.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 Jul 16
@rachz_kisses children's birthday party with the party hats and loot bags and the musical chair game! lol
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@rachz_kisses (3838)
• Philippines
21 Jul 16
@sol_cee How about a birthday party? 
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@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
23 Jul 16
I can relate to your mom's case .. lol .. I missed everyone so much but in the end I realised no one missed me (the person) .. They only missed the money .. So I stopped .. And honestly, now that I am old and gray, I don't miss those who only missed my money ..lol..
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
20 Jul 16
noperz, i can honestly say that such aint occurred. i reckon i aint the prideful type? i hope that'cher momma'n her sis get schtuff worked out. life's jest too short to be followed with regrets.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39509)
• United States
21 Jul 16
@sol_cee sometimes such aint ' bout pride :( 'tis more serious'n that.
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@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
30 Jul 16
@crazyhorseladycx what's more serious than pride? Enlighten me please.
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@magallon (19279)
• Philippines
20 Jul 16
It sometimes happen to us.
We want the other person to reach us .
But we do not know that she is also waiting for us to reach her.
It's hard , right?
For me, If the person is really that important to me, I think I will reach out first.
I'll just swallow my pride.
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@Genipher (5405)
• United States
24 Jul 16
We had to remove ourselves from my dad. It's not really a pride thing, but a "protection" thing. It's a long story.
I still miss him and my step-mom, though. I wish things could be different, but they refuse to work with us in any way, shape, or form. So we're stuck. 
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
20 Jul 16
It is always me who gives in; who speaks first when an argument, when such situation occurs.
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@Bulaklak (56)
• Philippines
21 Jul 16
I don't let my pride gets in my way. I am the eldest among the 3 of us but I 'm always who find ways to get in touch with my siblings. Since I am the eldest I am mature enough to do it. And to be honest, nothing will happen if we let ego or pride eat us. If you really love or care about that person, who cares about pride or ego?? :)
