The Temporary Daughter

July 28, 2016 1:40am CST
After 40 years of being his daughter, I am just now finding out it was a temporary thing. He's not my biological father but he has raised me since I was 2 years old. I've always known about his son and daughter, who are older than me, that were taken from him when they were very young. I have always hoped he would find them and be able to reunite with them. It has finally happened with his daughter. There has been so much animosity between his daughter and wife and I have been there trying to make peace between the two. Well, it all backfired in my face today. Everything blew up today and I was put right in the middle. I was threatened, put down and humiliated from his grandson and his son. When I defended myself, my "father" blew up at me! All I did was make it clear to the two men that I have not had anything to do with any negative things and that I don't appreciate being threatened. My "father" made it clear to me tonight that I didn't have a right to defend myself to his children. Since I moved in with him to help both of us with bills, I have given my notice that I'll be moving at the earliest convenience. I can't live with a man I've always looked at as my father knowing I was just the temporary daughter until he found his.
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@PurnaSharma (2562)
• Guwahati, India
28 Jul 16
I don't know where you belong to but in india,we presume that if someone take care and adopt someone since his/her childhood then the bonding between the adopted son/daughter and father is greater than his/her biological father/parents.
@GardenGerty (161165)
• United States
11 Aug 16
I am so sorry that has happened. It will be his loss in the long run.
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@toniganzon (72553)
• Philippines
28 Jul 16
I don't blame you for feeling that way, but I am trying to understand how the father felt at that very moment as well.
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@sofssu (23662)
28 Jul 16
I am sorry about all that you are going through. These issues in relationships are highly emotional issues and he could have said whatever he said in an emotional fit.. I hope things mend between the two of you . I am sure if he raised you and treated you as his daughter for so long you are not temporary, you surely mean a lot to him.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
31 Jul 16
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you, I can feel the pain in your words. However I would hardly call 38 years as temporary, and I hope you can forgive your father as I'm sure he regrets his outburst. All the best.
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