Waiting for Placement for Mom
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
United States
August 5, 2016 8:01am CST
My Mom was diagnosed with mild to moderate Alzheimer's about 5 years ago.
Lately she started exhibiting problems with her cognitive function. She was evaluated and found to have advanced to the middle stages of the disease. Another medicine has been added in hopes to increase her coginitive abilities.
Yesterday in the middle of the night she fell down the stairs at the assisted living facility where she lives. Thankfully she was Not hurt. However she had no idea why she was there to begin with. She is highly confused and can't perform simple tasks.
We are waiting for a local rehab facility to go to the home to evaluate her.
It breaks my heart to have to place her in rehab. She may not be able to return to the place she is at now.
These are tough times for me. I pray for strength for us all.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
She is fighting having to go to physical therapy. She needs it to regain her strength. While in assisted living she spent most of her day sleeping or watching television.
She lost a lot of muscle strength, so even walking up and down stairs was difficult.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
14 Aug 16
@just4him She doesn't like to do anything. The good thing is that she does much more than when she was is assisted living.
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@just4him (317241)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly I hope she will cooperate with physical therapy.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
6 Aug 16
I am sorry to hear this! I've watched a family watch their loved one slide down that path before,it was hard.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Aug 16
My uncle, her brother, also has the disease. He is more progressed than my mother.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
@Jessicalynnt I am hoping that I am spared this if it does indeed run in the family. I do worry.
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@Jessicalynnt (50523)
• Centralia, Missouri
8 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly ew that makes it sound like it runs in the family
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
6 Aug 16
I feel for your Mum very much.Sadly they say there is no certain cure for this sort of disease.Here some people who suffer from it even can't recognise their family members..
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
My mother is beginning not to remember her young grandchildren and her great grandchildren. She is forgetting people from her past.
We know that eventually she may not recognize her children. Breaks my heart.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
14 Aug 16
@changjiangzhibin89 She is will only be 78 in about a week.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
13 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly I understand how you feel.It is sad when a Mum can't recognise her son or daughter.Sounds like your Mum has been at a ripe old age.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
She is now in a wheelchair. She is getting physical therapy to help her regain her strength. I hope they can get her up and walking again.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
5 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly My father had Alzheimer's. It is sad to see them becoming confused and frustrated. I know you have the strength to support and help her in this time of need. Sends prayers your way.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
Thank you Susan. I try to maintain my composure for her sake. It isn't easy. She snaps at me quite a bit.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
15 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly as they progress on their journey through Alzheimer's they go through personality changes. I watched my father go from an educated southern gentleman to a whirling devil lashing out at everyone around him. My prayers are with you during this difficult time.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
5 Aug 16
Prayers for you and your mother. I know this is a difficult time for you!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
Melissa, I am emotionally exhausted. I am taking each day as it comes.
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@melissa1024 (2456)
• Beckley, West Virginia
12 Aug 16
@ElusiveButterfly I say you are. It is harder to be a care provider for family than anyone. You are doing the best thing by taking it day by day! I hope everything will work out soon for you and your mother!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
14 Aug 16
@melissa1024 thank you. I try not to beat myself up over things I have no control over.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Aug 16
I am in healthcare. Was hard to see my clients go through various stages. It is horrible to watch my mother go through this.
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@Jackalyn (7558)
• Oxford, England
15 Aug 16
My heart goes out to you. It was tough when my Nan could no longer safely be at home and I dread the day when my parents cannot be alone although both are mentally find so far. It is hard because you feel you have lost the person into the illness.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
15 Aug 16
I miss the way she laughed, told a joke, danced, sang, played the guitar, hugged. All things change, this I know, but this kind of change is horrible.
@Marilynda1225 (83109)
• United States
5 Aug 16
My prayers are with you as I'm going through the same thing. It's not easy for our parents when they age and it isn't easy for us either
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
7 Aug 16
It is very difficult Marilyn. For a couple of days I was an emotional wreck. I am better today.
@quarternoes (236)
• Indianapolis, Indiana
5 Aug 16
I truelt feel for you. My aunt, who I grew up with, has no clue who I am anymore. It's like someone stole all of her memories of me away from her. Hard to swallow.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
12 Aug 16
But, you remember her with love and find memories.
