~She Said I Am An Idiot~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
August 16, 2016 1:22pm CST
My friend posted something on Fb looking for an OBGYN that accepts my insurance. My sister is also friends with her on there. So of course my sister put two and two together-she asked if I was pregnant. I said yeah, I didn't want to hear anything negative so that's why I didn't tell anyone yet. She said oh you already know your an idiot for getting pregnant again so I don't have to say anything...
And this is why I didn't want my family finding out. I hate being put down, I feel sad at the moment. I know this too shall pass so trying to just give it to God.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies Oh - my bad - sorry I misread that. Well then it's not cool that your own sister said that - ugh. I know family can be blunt sometimes - seriously there have been times I wish I could've smacked my sister for saying the things she has 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@much2say It was my sister who said it actually-not my friend. My friend is supportive.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@much2say It's okay. I think it's worse that it was my sister who said it. =(
Yeah, I felt like smacking her through the phone because anything she does or goes through I am 100% supportive of her. I don't put her down or make her feel bad.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Aug 16
Not exactly the nice thing to say. I can understand that she may have concerns, but it doesn't mean she should call you an idiot. That was just mean, hurtful, and uncalled for. I hope you don't get this reaction in the future. You don't need it and don't deserve it.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I agree with you. It's not like you asked for her help for shelter, or even for her opinion for that matter. I can understand that it gets old. My parents tend to criticize me as well, in this kind of situation. It does get old. I hope you are still able to find some support from other people. It does help to have that.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@dodo19 I could understand her having concerns if I asked her for food, shelter or money to take care of the baby-but I'm not. Really its not her concern at all honestly.
It's the way my family always responds to anything I do with my life...It gets old.
Thanks, your right I don't need or deserve it-I am going through enough.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@yukimori It's kind of hard to do that when she is my sister. =(
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@yukimori (10147)
• United States
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies Why? What is it about having a genetic link with someone that gives them the right to stomp all over you and call you names? Family should treat you better than some random stranger, yet look at the posts you've made here--you've gotten more support from internet strangers than you have from her.
You don't have to be her whipping girl just because she happens to be your sister. Nobody should have to deal with that sort of abuse.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@yukimori I don't know, I have a hard time doing anything that would upset anyone else... =( I don't understand myself at times. Lol. I know in a sense I allow it, I can't help it.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@DianneN Yeah I thought so too. I should be used to it by now but it still hurts just the same. No, I was the better person and just said that we are better financially than we have been in the past.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@DianneN Thank you. I try not to let them know their getting the best of me.
@DianneN (247186)
• United States
18 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies You handled it well. Don't let yourself get sick over this!
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I think if you can't say something nice then keep your mouth shut. Don't let them bother you. God has given you this precious little bundle to carry.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@HazySue I agree-that is how I am in life. I don't try to hurt people, I try to lift others up. Thank you.
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@HazySue (39268)
• Gouverneur, New York
17 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies you are a sweet person don't let anyone bring you down.
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 16
Your family will hopefully be less negative as they get used to it.
When my sister got pregnant with her second kid we were all disappointed (although we didn't say that) as she was married to a rubbish dad.
She's fine now 5 years on...but the dad is still crap
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
16 Aug 16
When my sister told me she couldn't break up with an idiot who's also a crap because she's pregnant, I wanted to kill the guy. I had nightmares of killing him every single night for so long that I decided to move to another country, which I did. Nightmare went away.
Came back home after 7 months. Met my baby nephew and fell in love with him but still abhor the dad who's only after my sister's money until now. Do get occasional nightmares about killing him.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@Mike197602 Well, my family makes their thoughts known loud and clear. Like my sister did today... I hate being one that is always looked down upon.
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies Maybe ignore them if possible, or tell them exactly how you feel.
Ignoring them is probably the best option at the moment as I doubt you'd want more drama at the moment.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies At least she didn't do it on FB . Sorry about what your sister did . She's just concerned i think .
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Aug 16
@SIMPLYD I don't think that's the way to show concern though. I would never call her that no matter what she does in her life.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@SIMPLYD No she called me on the phone and told me I'm an idiot.
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@Juliaacv (51452)
• Canada
16 Aug 16
That was a terrible thing to communicate to you.
I was always told that people (or idiots) in glasshouses, shouldn't throw stones, so maybe you can think of that because you are a lot of things but I cannot help but to think an idiot is not among them. Maybe just a loving and devoted wife and mother are at the top of the list.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@Juliaacv I know and I appreciate it so much. I should be used to the way my family treats me by now but I still let it hurt inside.
I have always been scared and sad while pregnant and my babies are all healthy. =)
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@Juliaacv (51452)
• Canada
18 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I really feel this way, and I don't want to see anyone beat you down. I was always told that when you're expecting you should never ever be scared or sad.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
16 Aug 16
What a horrible sister! Siblings are supposed to be there for you and make you feel better, not put you down! Ugh! I'm so sorry she made you feel like this. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@DanieGirl80587 Yeah, I should be used to her comments but they still affect me. Thank you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@LadyDuck Yeah, it was pretty mean. I don't want to tell my father because he will say something worse than that and I know it!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Aug 16
@LadyDuck Oh gosh yeah, he is not a nice person at all. I love him because he's my father but i don't like him as a person.
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@LadyDuck (471968)
• Switzerland
18 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies Oh my, even your father!? Avoid to talk to people who are mean to you.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
17 Aug 16
That's not kind, she should respected that it's your life
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@Drosophila My family likes putting me down and giving their opinions when they haven't been asked for it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@Drosophila Thank you. Yeah I think your absolutely right-they think because their family it's okay to give their opinions when ever they feel like it and whether it hurts or not.
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@Drosophila (16571)
• Ireland
18 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I am sorry to hear that.. unfortunately, family members sometimes feel that they are entitled to be unkind as they are family, and they disguise it as "being direct".
I have called it out several times with my own family, so I get your annoyance and pain.
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@softbabe44 (5816)
• Vancouver, Washington
16 Aug 16
Maybe she should keep her compliments to her self
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@softbabe44 Yeah, that has never happened in her life so I know it won't start now.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@thelme55 She's not the nicest person in the world, that's for sure. Thank you. =)
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
17 Aug 16
Don't feel down, you are a loving mother and thats important to you.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@responsiveme Thank you. =) Being a mom is important to me.
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@shaggin (72222)
• United States
27 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I understand. My sister stil lives at home with my parents whom my father is disabled so they are on a very tight budget. My sister has never worked and is 33. She just had her 4th child. I think she shouldn't have allowed it to happen but I told her look how much her other children are loved and it will be the same with the 4th one. Too late to lecture at that point and everyone deserves to feel happy while pregnant not shamed.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Aug 16
@shaggin I am so supportive of everything my family does because it's not my job to judge. I try to be helpful and not hurtful. So it hurts that I don't get the same respect in return.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies thats sad I had problems with my dad too after b eing abused once at 7 I refused to ever be in the house alone with him.He got away with it I did finally forgive him as my hatred ffor him was making me miserable my hubbly talked me into doing that he was getting old then'
I forgave but I have never forgot it.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Aug 16
@Hatley They always feel the need to put me down for some reason-everything I do is wrong in their eyes-always has been. I definitely don't fit into the family I was born into.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
17 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies You are unlucky
. I have had troubles with my siblings, but never with my parents.
. I have had troubles with my siblings, but never with my parents.1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
17 Aug 16
@topffer My whole family is like that-siblings and parents sadly. =(
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
18 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I think the best thing to do is to ignore her.No use worrying about.You know how your sister is.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@silvermist Ignoring is a lot easier said than done I am afraid.
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@silvermist (19702)
• India
22 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I know it is tough.You keep trying and then you may be able to.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@NJChicaa Yeah I know, then she was mad that I didn't tell her sooner... Um?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Aug 16
@NJChicaa My sister and I were always close but only because I have allowed her to make me her door mat for years. Even now I don't say anything rude back to her. I just said we are in a better situation now financially than with my other pregnancies.
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@NJChicaa (120054)
• United States
16 Aug 16
@LovingMyBabies I don't get it. My sister and I are best friends.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Aug 16
@JustBhem She needs duct tape for her lips at times. Lol
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